The problem with dating after fifty is that everyone has history, young people start their adult life with a fresh clean slate, full of hopes and dreams for the future, their attraction and relationship are primarily sex driven, after fifty character and personality have been formed and created by life experiences, not much guess work left to it. After fifty most people have "been there, done that" and have no interest in a replay, they know where they want to live, what they like to eat, what they like to do for entertainment, what movies they enjoy watching, infact, they become "set in their ways” flexiblity and challenges no longer interest them. Topics of conversations is usually about their history, or health problems.

The question to men over fifty is, “now that you have experienced many of life challenges what is your vison of a good relationship?”

Companionship

Rich, what would you look for in a companion? What is your idea of a good relationship?

I want a continuation of the joys of life. 50 is a number - meaningless to love. I'd like to re live - recreate, the things I did, in a new way with a new partner; the find, the chase, courting, first kiss, etc.
Shure also with the moderated taint of ancient baggage, caginess, suspicion, wariness, knowledge of body language & phrases.

I still love and want women as much as I ever did, a bit less music, a bit less drink, a bit less physical activity. But I still want to enjoy everything, and share it, and have someone elses take on life and things, to ad to the experience.
Do things smarter, and better than the last times.
A bit more than companionship, more like co-captain of a new life enterprise, both on the lookout to avoid crash and burn, but still having exciting adventures. Not being old. Just yet.

A good relationship?

Friends first; that should be the base of any relationship, at any age. Good conversation, an ability to accept differances & not pass judgement. Mutual interests & the ability to try new things; that the you might not really care for. Accepting each other, with no hidden agenda or thoughts of, I can change that. Most of all the ability to understand each other's need to their own private time, when needed; NO QUESTIONS ASKED.

i agree with oldsage about women being seen and not heard. wait, you were talking about women at strip clubs right?

All their loyalty and love and living as free as they can be.

i agree with old hippie about women being only as loyal as the length of the chain you put on them

Oldsage, I must have missed something. Sounds like it might have been of interest. I can't believe you would say, women should be seen and not heard. Doesn't sound like something you would say.

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"Chasing Cars"

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we’re told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

mowildflower, you know oldsage is a true gentleman. i made up the quote as a joke. the same with hippie's post. i guarantee i guarantee oldsage would never say anything degrading about women

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Okay Guys, let's get serious about this subject. How many of you want a woman who will depends on you to provide her with a home, food, clothing, entertainment, etc.? How many of you are willing to relocate, leave behind all that you're invested in so the woman can be near her family?

How many of you are looking for a housekeeper, to clean the house, make the bed, fix the meals, do the shopping, the dishes and laundry?

I basically do all this stuff myself, anything else on the table?

Think my opinion is there in black & white.

My buddy ese has a unique sense of humour, but we keep him as he is such a GREAT GUY. We have shared Jack together, more important than blood brothers.

Once I finish my grad work I can live anywhere as long as a VA hospital is at hand. I even offered it to show how serious I was, but she turned me down.

An independent woman and sex. I believe a romantic relationship requires sex to function properly. It's frequently said arguments/disagreements result in diminished sex but I believe the opposite is true. The sex diminishes first resulting in looking at ones partner as a roommate or pal or buddy and that's when things are looked at with a critical eye.

During the "honeymoon" stage, be it 6 months, a year, or whatever length of time do people argue over who emptied the dishwasher or who did the laundry? Two people are anxious to do more than their share for their partner. Then the sex slowly wanes and the "it's your turn to do...." begins.

I think we've downplayed the importance of sex to our own detriment. Told to look for similar activities, similar political views, similar views on life, etc. has resulted in the one thing that defines a romantic relationship, sex, being summarily dismissed. "It will happen naturally. Lust, desire, etc. are not important." we're told.

People eventually find out those things are very important. Cute quirks become annoying habits. The enjoyment of doing things for our partner become chores. What has changed?

a pith helmet and a deck of cards

the reason this happens is because of the emphasis on sex and not upon intimacy. train yourself to be intimate, appreciate intimacy and you will be a more desirable lover

sex without intimacy is a noisy horn, a clanging bell's soured note,

we want real music

Its a love over gold situation, whether the gold is money/property with or without memories, places, friends & associations; basically a whole life to think about leaving, posibly forever. If you've got nothing, and invested nothing, its easier to up anchor and start a new life elsewhere. I like my friends and the things around me, so I wouldn't move far for love, because it can be so transient. And returning to a previous life and friends is never the same again as it was.
A true couple shares, not a slave relationship either way, and they should support eachother in all respects, be it shelter, food, health, income, affection, company, interests; if you're not doing that then you're not really into that person, but using them, more or less.
mutualistic co-dependence, both responsible for outcomes.

Hmmmmm...