you're welcome.

finally some appreciation.


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i understand what you're saying, but most of the time if a guy ends up in the "friend zone" that means there will never be a physical relationship.
guys know this which is why we try to stay away from being friends with women we're attracted to. we know that there are guys that you like to laugh and joke with and feel safe around, and there are guys that you want to sleep with. we don't mind being the former and the latter, but not the former without the latter.


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i had a woman offer to pay and i wouldn't let her. in hind sight i know that i should have let her. i think she was offended that i wouldn't let her pay.
won't make that mistake again.


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it's usually easy to figure out. it's the figuring out who makes more $$ that's a little more difficult.


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Whichever is the less attractive of the 2 should pay.
It shows their level of commitment and helps guilt the more attractive into spending more time with them.


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i think 4 or 5 messages is a legit number before asking for a number.

that being said, if you don't feel secure yet don't give it to him. if he keeps pushing for it be done with him.

in his defense, i wouldn't want to continue writing back and forth with someone like we were pen pals or something. unless it's just friends. there's a lot that goes on audibly that can't be discerned in text. also, the communication is more personal when it's spoken.


but first and foremost you should do whatever you're comfortable with.


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the same number i have now.


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i'm a person who believes in "treat others as you'd expect/like to be treated".
that being said, there are some peoples of the world that use violence to spread their messages. those people do not respond to peaceful measures of problem solving.
IMO these people who use violence need to be taught a lesson in order to show them that their actions are unacceptable. retaliation with similar force however will not teach them anything, they'll simply rise to the occasion. the only way to teach these people a lesson is to use a show of force so severe that it strips from their minds any inkling of continuing their course of action. unfortunately, most people don't have the stomach for such shows of force.
i'm not saying that we should a-bomb every uprising, but fighting a 10 year war that has yet to resolve anything obviously doesn't seem like a correct course of action either. and i doubt that sitting in circles holding hands and singing kumbaya is going to get anybody to lay down their weapons.

sometimes you have to do horrible things to achieve great things.


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he obviously feels too comfortable(secure) with your relationship. do something to make him realize that just because you're with him it doesn't mean you have to stay with him.
people stop trying once they feel they've "won" or accomplished their goal. in his mind, he's won you. make it clear that he can be replaced if he doesn't start acting properly. and be willing to leave if he doesn't revert back to the way he was.
obviously there's going to be some level of comfort and some relaxing of mannerisms, nobody is going to be preened 24/7, but there has to be a line drawn.
unfortunately, even if he does change his behavior for the better, he'll likely get lazy again and you may have to repeat the process.


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just finished Transformers 1 and 2, going to start 3 to finish out the marathon. (man do i need a gf to occupy my time)


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Arthur (remake)
better than i expected


side note, anybody been watching netflix stock? lost nearly 2/3 value since july.


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well it seems like the old saying "all the good ones are either married or gay" is starting to pertain to women as well.

oh well.


welcome and good luck.


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Willkommen.


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was kinda impressed with it.


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i just think that it's their loss and then move on.
like bonnie raitt sang, "i can't make you love me"


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i don't disagree.
but my preference doesn't make my statement any less accurate.

a few extra pounds should be a few extra pounds over what is considered average for one's height based on a health body fat percentage, not what's considered average for us fat @$$ americans.

people know if they're overweight or not. i know that i'm well over the "a few extra pounds" mark. i don't sugar coat it or lie to myself and say "oh, you're about average." or "you're just a few pounds overweight." BS, i'm a good 40 pounds overweight and i know it. just because i carry it well doesn't mean that it's an okay weight to be.


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i've learned to suppress feelings. some still get out, but mostly i bury them deep.

i've always been nervous meeting a woman for the first time. if i liked her after the first meeting, it was even more nervousness. for me the feeling was always one of desperation. i was left constantly trying to think of ways in which i could try to act to try to get her to fall for me.

"getting the goods" was never the ultimate goal for me. getting the girl was. if it had only about "the goods" there would have been no feelings involved (on my part). feelings suggest investment.


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it's a ridiculously ambiguous category

mostly it's used by people who are afraid to admit to themselves that they're fat. it somehow feels better to them when they lie to themselves about how large they really are.

if they realize that they can't pull off "a few extra pounds", they usually don't answer the question at all.


there are a few people out there who really are "a few extra pounds", but not as many as those claiming that they're "a few extra pounds".



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the reason they're lumped together is because you have believers and non-believers.
agnostics and atheists are similar because the don't follow the majority and therefore are outcasts.

i am agnostic. i don't believe in god, but i'm not so arrogant as to say that there's no possibility of the existence of a supreme being. unlikely, IMO, but not impossible.

we humans are so new in regards to the universe around us. how could any of us claim to fathom exactly what is or isn't outside our own small world?


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according to darwinian theory, mutations happen slowly over thousands of years.
in the case of your frog, first a mutation for 3 eyes would have to become common place enough to no longer be considered a mutation, but instead the norm. then four eyes, then five, until finally your 6 eyed frog would become the common frog.

as far as breeding is concerned, it could probably breed, but the rare chances of it finding another 6 eyed frog at this stage of the frog's evolution are miniscule.
i believe that more than likely the correct genes from it's mates eggs would be the dominant ones and the anomaly would not continue. it's too drastic of a change for it to easily repeat itself.

i'm not a biologist, therefore this is all logical(as far as i'm concerned) speculation.


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