Mature in age w/the mental & emotional stability & confidence that goes with it is great...but if the physical part has been let go then I would definitely go for younger. Low testosterone (often a problem for over 50) is a real drawback when it comes to the sexual part of an RS.

I think this is an average male fantasy: having sex with their favorite actress (mainstream or porn or both at the same time),while watching their favorite sports team win the championship, while eating their favorite sandwich & drinking their favorite beer. It's a fantasy so of course they'd be able to do everything at the same time LOL!

Only when they are in love do their fantasies involve the face & sometimes body of the real life woman they are in love with...sometimes, not often though.

Ask most 18 y.o. girls if they have envisioned their wedding & having children & the names etc. & they will say "yes" & give you details like the wedding locale & what the first date with their husband to be was like. Ask any 18 y.o. boy & he will say "get out of here, that's gay man!" while punching you in the chest.

He must have a REASON to be shirtless = Abs & pecs & waxed please.

The one's I've seen are of 18 y.o. emo/goth skinny boys - they have the torso's of 11 year old anorexic girls. what's the point of showing off absolutely nothing LOL!

Moobs! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Yes, I need the males on Mingle to understand that when you post a photo with you AND another woman...you need to mention in your profile that it's your daughter/sister/niece/in law etc. Especially if your profile is under looking for a woman for dating and lists you as single - if you don't then it looks like you ALREADY HAVE a woman for dating. Obviously doesn't apply to married couples looking for a...a...whatever it is they're looking for.

PS: to the OP, whenever there's tampons on my shopping list, there's always chocolate or potato chips too...

Not quite: lots of men & women "fall in love" with someone based on a combination of good looks, finances, same background & culture. Or even fall in love with someone based on sexual chemistry alone...you would be surprised how few people actually ask themselves "do I respect my SO" (what they do for a living, their character etc.) before committing to an RS. Especially if the person is a combination of good looking, charming, well off & attentive. That's how sociopaths are able to succeed & thrive in this world. It's all good until one of the surface attractions breaks down - then comes the realization that they don't respect their SO AND they were never respected to start with either. Whether it's cheating, abuse (physical or emotional), or that famous one "we just grew apart", the respect was never there to start with.

I think "NO" b/c it's really no different than masturbation...you're not being physically satisfied by anyone other than yourself, just have an "audience" so to speak.

Open mind means the brains left & didn't close the door behind them.

Awwwwwww...Kitteh so cute!

Hi Hlstms,

You can try under the "search" option to use Advanced Search where you can put in most of the physical traits you are looking for...BUT don't be surprised if your "matches" go from 100 down to 4...just like IRL, in OLD the more you narrow the pool, the fewer you will find. Good luck anyway.

Sorry, No1Phd: I only know about it from "another" online forum I visit: LoveShack.org. MY fetish for a biological male that's taller than me, local to me, & an attractive SWM is completely non-existent (or living in a zoo somewhere as an critically endangered species) LOL!

Hi Plastic, IMO the book the movie was based on was better...also there is a book (series I think) based on a future world where no one ages & reproduction is almost outlawed (b/c if no one gets old & dies the population could get to "soylent green" levels very quickly) & as time went on even the idea of "reproduction" became something considered disgusting (like drug dealing etc) & there were "detectives/police" assigned to arrest/eliminate women who had children & stopped taking the life span prolonging drug AND eliminate the children as well...scary stuff. The story excerpt I read ended with the officer sitting across from the woman he had tracked down not being able to decide if he was going to eliminate her or not b/c he actually found her attractive & having lived 100+ years he hadn't felt that kind of "primal" feeling in a looooong time LOL!

To the OP: there is a site for you, something called FetLife??? (I think), anyway with the internet if you can google it you can probably find like minded people (& women) who are into what you're into no matter what it is. Good luck...

It pays to have patience. These things do not happen overnight.

It might also help to look for people closer to home. Instead of people half the world away and twice your age.




But does it matter ??


^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Yes, it matters b/c quality time (which you posted that you want)is usually spent with people in person. That means friends that you can actually see in real life, not just over an internet board. The ones you can visit by driving, or taking a bus/train for less than an hour to see. These are the people that will be your friends. Internet pals in another country are really just strangers on a computer screen. Good luck with the site.

The other thing kids aren't learning in elementary school anymore is analog time (how to tell time from a clock face) and that lesson about how to use a ruler (don't know if it was part of a math lesson or not?).

As far as I understand fetishes: you can only become aroused & be sexually satisfied if the fetish object/ritual is present or adhered to. Kind of makes me wonder how people who have one ever enjoy sex with such restrictions?

" I'll believe it when I see it"

I ignore emails if they are not from males who fit the specs. I put in my profile (and that is every one received from last month going on today).

In my case not responding is simply keeping in line with the guidelines in my profile. If I did respond it would only be to reiterate what they should have already seen: our profiles have nothing in common. I think that would sound very mean if a man received it as a response to their first message (although it's only intended as a simple statement of fact), so ignoring the message avoids the potential hurt feelings altogether. I know I never want to know why I'm being rejected, why should they?

I think these 18-19 year olds are just bored & looking for something to occupy their time. They grew up in the age of the internet & Facebook, so they think they must have 100 friends or they think they are social outcasts. Unfortunately all these friends are online & they can't really find a person to get close to IRL, not to mention that growing up "digital" has given them the attention span of a gnat: nobody to chat w/on Facebook? - then find someone from an OLD site somewhere to text to/Skype with/sext on Tinder etc. They just HAVE to have something engaging them at all times.

I grew up a with a few really close friends that actually made plans w/me to spend time in person doing something (not just going to the mall). If not then maybe a 2 hour phone conversation but still a genuine connection with a select few that were all on the same page as I was. Today's younguns' see "friendship" in a different light, they "surf" for it no differently than they would surf shopping sites or Youtube. I wonder if they will think back on this behavior if/when they become parents?

I'm too old fashioned for that, also that kind of forwardness is much more a personality trait...ladies who can do it were also the ones who were the girls in the playground organizing the games & picking team mates, & the ones at college being the president of clubs & such. Naturally outgoing from the start.

I feel like just posting a personal ad/OLD profile is as much as I can do to let men know I am available & then I should just wait & see (NOT similar to a trapdoor spider LOL!). Unfortunately I've been doing a lot of waiting & almost no seeing...