How many messages have you sent on here after reading a profile and liking what you read then send a message only to hear nothing back?
Wouldn't a polite reply saying thanks but no thanks be reasonable?

I have read a lot of women in the forums say they prefer a message to a simple nudge or like or just a "Hi" message.
So why do I get nothing back?

The thought of this feels good. If only you was nearer.

It's not always easy to open up in public.
Some people just don't know how to do it.
Maybe this was her way in expressing herself in a really bad time.
I know I have had bad days.
As pretty or slim a person is the hurt is still the same and the low self asteam can be very bad.
I'm just speculating, she sounds like she has deleted her profile.

Thanks crystalfairy.
I will.
And I believe me opening up is me seeking help I suppose but I know what you mean and if things get that bad I will.

Thank you guys.
I am trying to be true to my feelings and am trying to move forward but some days like today are really hard to deal with.
I know that everything that everyone has said on this thread is very good advice however I am struggling hard.

The thing is I have helped out friends who have gone through really bad times and its easy to offer sound practical advice and advice that is necessary to move on but when your in it its different.
My brain has become my enemy all I do is think about what I have lost.
The comfort of a companion to hold, hug and the security.

I know what would help me and that would be someone I can see who is understanding and loving. Someone who can comfort me when I cry.

I know this is selfish and one sided but I miss it so much.
Maybe it's because Christmas is coming and everyone is preparing to spend it with a loved one.

Ohh I dont know. .. im blubbering here.

Not having a good day today. ..

Yes! At the moment, I make a plan with a friend. When they inevitably cancel or fail to cement plans, I usually fall back to study. I've recently signed up for National Trust membership so I can actually go off wandering without having to worry about paying for anything. As with this Tuesday just gone though, I wasn't informed until late afternoon my friend wasn't going to be able to make it to dinner, so it was essentially a day I could have been doing something else but spent it inside instead. :(

Invite me round to dinner.. I won't let you down, I'll even get dessert if you haven't made it.

Ouch! !

Im not sure what you mean about shoulding sorry?
I know people and myself shouldn't post when upset but it helps get it off your chest as a sense of expression.
I dont really drink and get drunk but as they say drinking helps people loosen their inhibitions and loosens the tongue.
Is it not a way of venting?

Men in particular have a hard time with expressing their emotions. I work in a very man orientated environment and the company I work for encourages counselling but very few take it up and want to talk about things weather it be bereavement, work or relationship issues.
Someone once said to me that there are I think 5 stages of breakup. Can't remember what they are.

Well I appreciate you and thank you for being on here.
Your a very thoughtful person.

Personally I dont think your friends realise what a wonderful and caring and thoughtful friend they have.

You always have an answer to everything. .
You make me sick...
Why cant you live round the corner to me and be my friend..?
Hindsight is a wonderful gift. And the feeling of resolution once your out the other end so crystal clear and you wonder why you stressed so much... but when im in it I cant see a way out.

It took me a lot longer to truly "man up" than what others may have seen/heard about me.

Think of it as a broken bone, sure you could "man up" and "walk it off" but if it didn't get properly set, it is forever going to be "screwed up", the best advice, take care of it, if that means reflection, seeking therapy, prayer, or whatever you think may help. In the end, it takes time, just time.

It took a complete change of perception for me, and i remember the exact moment it happened. I had decided that I wasn't going to sit around and mope so instead I distracted myself by doing things that my Ex would have never done with me, I found that I enjoyed being single, and apparently once you put off that vibe some woman will come along and try to kill it not really, but once I did find out I didn't mind being single I found someone soon after.

My advice to "man up" is simply take the required time, and find out what YOU want to do, and DO IT!

Thank you isaac, that was a nice way to look at it as a broken bone. Good analogy but its true.
I have times when I feel like I have been kicked in the chest by a donkey and had the wind knocked out of me. Then other days when I think this must be happening for a reason.
Thing is you see couples together and happy and I look back at what I had and it hurts to be alone. I dont have the energy to go clubbing or wine bars and attempt to compete with every other bloke for some attention of someone you find attractive.
I suppose as isaac said time will heal but when the so called cast is on you want it off as soon as possible.

Yeah thats the thing, how do you deal with it especially with the kind of friends we have (referring to our other post)
I don't have anyone to really turn to. The ones that listen give good advice but leave you with it thinking thats it they have done their bit.
I know there is light at the end of the tunnel but I dread the thought of going through the darkness alone.
Don't get me wrong, some days I am really positive and happy to talk to people about anything, then other days I feel really low and don't have the energy to talk to anyone and all I do is ponder on unhappy thoughts.

Thank you guys. It was a hard decision to post this as I was expecting some "man up" advice from someone out there.
I know what you mean about people hiding emotions and I am terrible at hiding how I feel especially when it depresses me.
However I do know of at least 3 closeish friends who have split and within a short space of time they are like, well It hurt but now I must move on and they do just that..
How???

How do I "man up" ?

Fair comment, maybe I didn't explain myself properly.
I think when you're in a good happy relationship you just live life with your partner and see the few friends that want to be in your life so less depending on friends to go out with.
As we can see there are quite a few in a similar situation and I don't know if there is an answer?

Why do I always have a hard time emotionally when I break up with a partner and others take it much better?
Also why am I not able to absorb advice and words of wisdom that are said to me even though it makes sense to do so?
How can I be stronger like this?
The worst thing is that I am very strong and some would say confident at work and where I teach and people ask me for advice, but I cant see my own advice...
Whats wrong with me?

Im amazed at how many go through this.
I also echo your initial opening remarks.
I wont list them like you have and most others have.
And I can only conclude that we are not in their inner circle of friends but their outer circle of friends. So when they leave you they have a group they are closer with if they are at a loose end then they move to the outer friendships "us".
So I always feel like im on the outer frienship with my friends.
I don't really know what the answer is but I know what I would like to happen. And that is that I meet a soul mate, we shut the door in these other people and just enjoy our own company for ever and ever...
(I better snap out of it before it turns into 51 shades of grey)
We try very hard to be a good friend and feel hurt when you need someone and they are not there.

If you offered a meal as well I would def not let you down and I would bring you a selection of krispy creams for dessert!

I thought I was going bonkers.
Thanks for confirming it for me.