That's harsh! I guess she didn't see your potential as a world ruler...as we do.

I think the only women who do that are those who need to believe THEY are your only source of joy. What they don't realize is that when we are free to endulge in multiple sources of happiness, that balance floods everything else with our love for life...especially our relationships.

Now that would just be nuts. This would fit well in the thread where I asked the gals a similar question though.

If there were a risk of you losing your money making toys, hopefully your with one of the gals who would sell her shoes and purses to help you keep them.

I like going out with my guy and his buds on occassion because it's fun to see him letting loose and being immature, and out with friends is a good time for that since they will look out for each other. But I do think him spending that time away from me is important for his personal sense of balance as well as the balance of our relationship.

There will be times I'll want to do things independently or with my own group of friends too.

Now if I'm usually home from bowling before midnight, but a friend got a promotion so we decide to take her out to celebrate after knocking down pins, he will definitely be getting a call or text instead of finding out when I drag my drunk butt home at 3 am.

That's what I do...because I was raised to feel this is the courteous thing to do and because he knows it's not like me to be out until 3 am without a heads up, so the one time I don't call, he will know I have a dead phone and car trouble...or am in jail for serving a justified right hook to the creep at the bar who grabbed my azz for the second time. It IS justified if you warned him the first time.

Anyway...I don't EXPECT him to do the same...but really appreciate it if he does, cause I want him to have his fun but WILL worry if I wake up, look at the clock and his side is still cold at 4 am.

If he's out with the boys much later than usual, wouldn't he call to let you know he was okay, having fun and not to worry?

I mean they ALL do that...right? RIGHT?

I'm asking if you could "give" up. I thought this indicated WILLINGLY, but apparently the topic is not as clearly stated as most would have liked.

Thank you Willing. This is another good reason someone might have to choose their relationship over their stuff.

It's not a specific question about a specific circumstance.

This is more of a question of whether or not you've become so set in your ways and attached to your things to consider sacrificing them for a good reason to maintain or save a relationship.

I would not answer it either.

When I want to be pampered, a Greek yogurt usually does the trick.

It's something of an abstract question anyway. Hording would definitely be a good example of a reason this question could become real though.

First off everyone, without exception, dies. You're first love WILL die as will you.

Secondly, I actually think it's the memory of the first love experience that really sticks with us. And since that's the light we see the guy or gal under, that's what we will always believe they were to us. So yeah, most of us have very fond memories of our first love...first kiss...first time....


...on the roller coaster.

Exactly right. Dating someone who's into you so you'll have roses on Valentine's Day is soooo totally high school dude.

Not only do I agree with this but think that it's unfair to the person pursuing you if you let them think there is hope when you know there is none. I think that would be selfish.

I wouldn't either...but have had the same experience as you with this. I'm not so sure it's a guy thing as much as a can't face reality thing?

It just took me 12 years to actually notice a man...I mean really NOTICE. If I don't wait until I find myself truly interested in someone, I usually spend most of my date asking myself "Why am I here again?" Which is a disservice to the poor man siting next to me....so anymore I just pass on anything that doesn't REALLY intrigue me.

OH...MY! I just drooled a little.

I can think of a couple of reasons...

1. They think you might have a change if heart and want to be there when you do?

or

2. They think if they bug you long and hard enough, you will eventually throw up your arms in exasperation and say..."fine, just take me already!" just to make the madness stop. And they certainly want to be there when THAT happens.

I just said "long and hard" again.

Yes, I didn't make that clear here.

This would be a situation that arose from a hardship...not a hard witch.

I've done this too and it's awesome!

I also substitute black beans for meat with the zucchini...also awesome!

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