Naw, just going to drop it like a hot rock. I just wanted to hear some opinions on how I was being arrogant, and one person said.."yeah maybe a little arrogant" though he used the word "presumptive". It's all good.

Animal, as a matter of fact, I did find her to be interesting, and I said that as well.

So I was asking what she thought of the distance...if it was a problem, perhaps I could meet her halfway?

You're absolutely right...if there's a spark, then what does distance really matter? But I know that *I* don't look at people I have no attraction to...but if there's no picture of them, I can get by that too.

As a matter of fact, I've got my date set up this week with someone whose face I had not seen before we planned the date. She's a heckuva lot more local though, so ...it's all good.

Thanks for the reply! Thumbs up!

ah, Blue...there must have been something about them that drew your initial interest though...you liked the way they LOOKED and they were within a decent mileage range...even though something in their profile turned you off, there was SOME level of interest.

I'm not saying looks are everything, or the only thing...but it does play at least a MINOR role in our choices, doesn't it? I could have posted rudely...directly stating that she was too far away. However, I ASKED for HER opinion of the distance thing.

Had a date set up for LAST weekend with someone else from the same town, which is why I knew what the distance was. She reconsidered though, and stated that the distance was the problem. We had several enjoyable chats both on the phone and through email before that (the someone else, not the subject of this missive).

Hey, Peccy,

like the new pic...you look..."dapper".

Women go crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man.

All it did was strengthen my resolve. To not dismiss someone too quickly...just because she didn't meet my "limitations". You know, she and I could have become "just friends" if she hadn't been so nasty in her reply.

For example, why set an "arbitrary" limit of 75 miles...or height of 5'8" or greater? I'm 5'6", but that doesn't mean I couldn't have a great relationship with someone that was 5'10".

Heck, "friends first" anyway, right? Someone could be a friend and not meet any of my arbitrary limits...

Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!

Naw, it's back to going to the library...I can go HERE at the library, but they frown on AFF.

Randy Weaver and David Koresh both had guns...we saw what happened to them.

Sean Bell and Amadou Diallo did NOT have guns, but both were shot by police.

Seems "guns" are the problem, not the solution.

COuldn't Get It Right...Climax Blues Band.

Falling...Alicia Keys

Shadow...what if the library, or the FedEx/Kinko's won't let them connect it up?

I'm not going to have a computer once my ex-girlfriend's disability comes through. She's moving out then. It's HER computer...I don't own one.

Sluggo,

well, for me, personally, one of the things I value is someone who doesn't have kids. Because you both wind up looking after the kids, and when they're gone, you don't know who the other person is anymore. You spent all your time on those kids.

That being said, I ended up meeting my ex-girlfriend at her home the very first time. Or, that is, the home she was staying at. I was like 75 miles away and wanted to meet her at a restaraunt...but she had no job, no car, and was staying with friends.

Then, MY vehicle broke down, blew the head gasket on it. So her friends let ME move in too. I transferred my job, and three months later, I moved out of there and we got out on our own.

The first time we met, we wound up talking for 12 hours.

My last girlfriend had my passwords--and I have hers. It's not an issue of trust...it's being totally open and honest...transparent. The funny thing is: if she wanted me to go into her accounts, I'd have to ask her for her passwords again...because I'd forget. Have a hard enough time remembering my own!

What woman can fit in a lightbulb? Tinkerbell?

Um, the first few meetings should ALWAYS be in public.

There are a couple of hotels that are supposed to be for romantic getaways...one is right in my area, and there's another in Mt. Dora.

With the Mt. Dora one, I think we'd end up visiting Bok Tower and Spook Hill.

well...three out of five anyhow...

seriously, there's someone here, a forum poster, who I want to meet just as friends.

If more happens, that's fine too, but my initial thought was just as friends. Friends first, you know...

apparently...it's a lot of yada yada yada though...