I don't think their opinion should matter in the least. If it does matter, it's an inside job, your inside job. Acceptance of the loss of choice over whether or not you can have kids by itself is difficult. If someone wants to add to it by condemning you for it, they aren't worth keeping in your life.

People tend to celebrate life, at any age. IQ, weight, height, age, are all just numbers. Life is a wonderful and unquantifiably magical experience, and one worth not missing out on.

Women tend to smile more when a man is holding a baby... It's as much appreciating the difference from what has become the disgusting norm of abandonment in this community. Girls get dolls, guys get military toys or are thought of as gay. Parenting is a couple's job. Why not give both sexes dolls? Having wanted to be a parent for a quarter century I'm generally more active with our baby in public and that tends to be a conversation starter for both Sarah and I. I our family.

Thanks everyone!

Oh definitely! Not planning to stay long, just long enough to say one life long dream finally fulfilled, age 47. After more than a quarter of a century of wanting to be a father, and the numerous disappointments, wow. Never give up, never surrender. Keep pushing forward and sooner or later, magic.

Our daughter was born 3 weeks early on 1/14/12, and weighed in at 8 lbs 11.5 oz. By the time people start asking if her daddy is her grandfather, I will have her well trained to respond, "No, that's my really cool daddy!"

The most common cause of autism is vaccines that use a mercury based preservative. Also, get fluoride out of your water. Buy an RO system and use it.


Our daughter is due in February and she has had the benefit of clean water, free of Sodium Fluoride. For your health and that of your children, clean water and informed consent about vaccines are of crucial importance.

I was never here.

It doesn't take much of a vocabulary to describe your behavior. You're mean spirited, cynical, bitter, condescending, lonely, and your ego is 5 sizes larger than it should be. Have you ever spent the day looking at the positive qualities of people you meet? Have you ever created a thread complimenting other profiles, instead of putting them down? Have you recently gone out of your way to do something kind hearted for another human being? The world can be an ugly place, but even on a farm full of cow manure, pretty things grow.

If a kid scares them away, they're not the right one for you anyway. There's much worse than being lonely.

I don't describe my mental health issues as a problem. In fact, they're more of an asset for this inventor. I did, however chose to go back on a substandard dose of lithium for at least until the baby's born. As for health issues and relationships in general, it's best not to keep secrets.

There few reasons someone with 40+ years of sobriety would invite someone to an AA meeting.

1) They're confident who they're inviting has a problem and would like for them to seek help.

2) They want you to get to know them better

3) They really want to scare you into an Al-anon meeting.

Very few women are ever the same after childbirth. However, and given the level of trauma and potential for infections, a c-section is really only a last resort, especially in this county. We covered this topic in our last obgyn visit and the doctor recommended natural. They only snip you if it's necessary. My fiance has had 3 babies previously, all 9 lbs, all natural.

T-24 weeks 6 days. :-)

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Congrates! Next Thursday we might find out, but more likely a month from now. BTW, you know the difference between a playboy centerfold and a pregnant woman?


a: Nothing if you know what's good for you.

When people ask us if we know if it's going to be a boy or a girl, I just say yes.... It's going to be a boy or a girl. We wont have a good clue for another month, and wont know with 100% certainty for nearly 28 weeks, or after the baby has left its baby motel, whichever comes first.

Afterthought: From my own perspective, and although I'd like to continue the family name, it really only takes one baby, boy or girl to make me a father. At age 46, I'm grateful for the opportunity.

Thanks. Very sound advice. T-27 weeks 5 days for me.

Not for a second. The only thing I regret is not being one sooner. Of course I've wanted to be a father since "Unborn heart", with the only thing truly stopping me is my choice in women.


I'll have to wait 28 weeks and 2 days more for it to be official and just know it'll be filled with new frustrations and challenges, but realistically, it's the things dreams are made of. I've found the greatest happiness when my thoughts were NOT centered around my own wants and needs and in fact, when I'm in that place, I'm the most fulfilled and happy. For the past couple of months, my fiance and I have been building up the nursery picking this and that, and if you'd see me in the stores, you'd think I was on something.

Our child will be home schooled.

I haven't been on this site in several months and here's what's changed.

I discovered my last wife had an abortion behind my back. It's no wonder our marriage didn't last.

More importantly, my new wife to be is with child, ours.

Not intending to stay on this site, but for those so disheartened and hardened, it happens, even in as horrible of a place as hellfontaine.

Your son has a mind of an inventor/engineer, and whether he becomes a success with that mind is partially dependent on your opinion, at least until he escapes.