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Wed 01/11/12 09:07 PM

And what is just protecting yourself from getting in too deep too soon? If you know from past experience that that is a weakness of yours.

If I get a message from a man that I find interesting, but intentionally delay my answer for a day to make sure that my first flush of excitement has worn off, is that playing games?

Is it all about the intention?




That's not considered playing games that's what many call the 2 day rule. Playing games is when you intentionally lead the other person on. You do things that make the other person believe you have their interest at heart when in reality you're messing with their mind and heart to get what you want. That's why I believe it is always best to be honest with people about what you want out of a relationship.

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Wed 01/11/12 08:54 PM


manOfewwords


ruth34611




Just because we fight like a married couple doesn't mean we're actually gonna get married.


But he's so cute. Look at that baby face.

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Tue 01/10/12 01:17 PM

What kind of person do you go for? Do you have specific preferences that someone must have? What about looks? Are there specific body types that you will or won't go for? What attracts you to someone?


I am attracted to men who are unafraid of a commitment to one woman first of all, honest, communicates well, funny, hard working,and likes to do family things. I do have a preference though, and that is I love the way Asian men look, but I'm not holding my breath for one. There are very few Asian, black women relationships, it's not that popular. I like a man who has a nice body, he doesn't have to be Mr. Universe but nice enough. Sorry, I know I'm a big girl myself, but I don't like big guys. What attracts me to a guy when I first see him is his smile.

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Sun 01/08/12 02:39 PM
Edited by ybcat1 on Sun 01/08/12 02:40 PM

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Sun 01/08/12 01:41 AM
Are you a loner? A know a guy you might be interested in meeting if you like California.

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Sun 01/08/12 01:24 AM


Sin, you don't stand a chance against b.


against her in what?

and as that cute little girl said...

"I let haters be my motivators."



:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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Sun 01/08/12 01:21 AM

Mmmm I think it would be the same as telling
them you don't like the way they write.

Rude might be too strong a word for
allowing them their individuality.

For a lot of people, they have put
up what they think is their very best.

Criticizing could undermine confidence.



:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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Sun 01/08/12 01:17 AM
I don't know if they're gay or not, but the show really helped me get ready for work in the mornings. My son, when he was around I guess 10-12 months old would wake up early like he had a job to go to. I'd sit him in his high chair and he'd stay glued to the tv watching them. It allowed me to shower at least while he was entertained. :smile:

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Fri 01/06/12 10:28 PM
Congratulations, and best wishes!

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Fri 01/06/12 10:01 PM

I can't even type this its too hard to get out. :cry:

I think I'm heading into that dark place I once was when I was 16. My face is going red, my eyes are blurry, I can barely type this. I canceled the date I had tonight and he is a good guy...I have no idea what's wrong with me.

I have no idea why I feel so crazy right now. Does this mean I'm not ready?


It could mean anything. Maybe you should talk it out with a professional. I use to break up with guys before I would give it a real chance. I found out I was afraid of rejection, so I would end it with them before they had a chance to end it with me, making me feel like I was the one who came out on top. Don't worry you'll come to understand what it is.

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Tue 01/03/12 11:24 PM
Born in Texas, now in California. But I'll always be a Texas girl.

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Mon 01/02/12 11:15 PM

All these views and only one person was brave enough to talk about kissing? Do the rest not like or enjoy it?


Oh I enjoy kissing. :smile:

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Mon 01/02/12 11:05 PM
Dang, now I got that song in my head from the Beatles. laugh

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Mon 01/02/12 11:00 PM


They just look at my profile and move on. I was wondering, should I send an email just to see what they didn't find interesting? What do you guys think?


Do you ever return the look? read their profile? Perhaps there may be answers there.


No, I don't return looks. I figure if they looked and didn't leave a message they weren't interest. After all, when I view a guys profile and I don't leave a message it's because something tell me in his profile I'm not what he's looking for.

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Mon 01/02/12 10:56 PM

IMHO. You are very attractive. That is not the problem. You are curvy woman's woman. A LOT of guys are attracted to that.

You could phrase things better. Like instead of saying you don't need someone to take care of you. AND DON'T GO INTO THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO NEEDS NO ONE MODE EITHER because that's a turn off to my guy friends. State what you are proficient at. What your strong suits are, etc.

And don't say if they don't like children to move on but instead say something about how you are attracted to MEN WHO ARE GOOD WITH CHILDREN.

I don't really get into it so much but realize you are absolutely marketing yourself as a commodity on here. 100%. And you are your own best advocate and fan club.

In marketing, the best marketing, is positive. WHY YOU AS A COMMODITY ARE DESIRABLE. Not why others are not.

I mean if you were a box of Corn Chex and the whole box boded of the inferiority of Smackle Puffs and Lucky Charms but said nothing about how yummy and nutritious Corn Chex were, why would anybody pick you off the shelf??

Just a thought.

Terri



Thank you Terri, advice well given. I'll take a look at my profile again.

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Sun 01/01/12 02:03 PM
They just look at my profile and move on. I was wondering, should I send an email just to see what they didn't find interesting? What do you guys think?

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Sun 01/01/12 01:30 PM

Always she is doing amazing,

Real talk though how does a white guy approach a black girl who has never dated a white guy before


I would say, like he would approach any other woman he found interest in. Be yourself and see if she is interested.

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Sun 01/01/12 12:50 AM
Happy New Year from California!

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Sat 12/31/11 06:24 AM

I have learned over the years that drama seems to get the most views and posts on here. My intentions aren't in the dramatic sense. Hahaha!


It's ok, might as well drop it or you'll be playing tennis with some people about your post. Straight, and born in the USA.

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Sat 12/31/11 01:11 AM

i've dated quite a few woman on mingles2 and it seems like everyone of them is a taken. i guess i've got turkey written on my fore head??


Wait...what "is a taken"?

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