Remove photo #7 (leaning against truck) and replace with another face shot if you have one. That photo makes you look mean.

As far as the profile summary goes, you asked for input, so here you go:

Remove all of the following:

"There is so much more that I will add as I go on but you get the idea.
See the hardest part of theses "profiles" is trying to write down what type of person I am , how people around me perceive me as a person. But I decided to just ask...... and take notes.lol I am who I am. Its hard to vocalize the personality I project on a daily bases. But hear it goes:
I am a fun person to be around. Seems I have a problem with unhappy people, I always seem to try and make them laugh, Everyone told me I am hilarious at times, with the way I see common things around me, at times using things as props for a joke. I Don't know, I just like to have fun and be happy.
I am by far not materialistic in any way, I have what I need to be happy, all I want for is happiness, Compassion, companionship,a good job(s), and good friends.
I am a down to earth level headed person; not sure how to explain this one. You'll catch on as you get to know me.
Very trusting person: I offer everyone I meet two things from the start free. my respect for the person you are, and my trust. Apparently I am also just as forgiving.
Theses are most of the things that I have been told by some of my friends. And I hope that it gives everyone a better understanding of who I am.
What I am NOT looking for:
No control freaks please. I offer a 50/50 relationship.
No impossible dreamers, Life is what it is. Deal with it. But see if you stop and look there is always a way to be happy, and loved those things are or should always be free! And that's what I offer.
Sorry but no big girls please, I understand that they need love too, just not by me."

Replace with: "My life does not revolve around materialism but rather happiness, compassion, companionship,a good job(s), and good friends."

Don't put a list of what you are NOT looking for. I see this a lot on the female profiles. It comes across as being rude or b$%tchy. Focus more on what you are looking for. If you are into thin women, mention that in your "want" list.

honesty, trustworthy, down to earth, etc. are not characteristics that need to be mentioned in a profile. Leave it up to the person to decide if you have these qualities.

Humor? Use it by posting something witty in your profile. Don't say that others think you are humorous. BE humorous.

That's my two cents.

Get rid of all the photos except for #2 (Corrupted Innocence) and #9(Showing your baby blues). I agree with the other person about the cross makeup. It makes you look like Charles Manson's daughter and not in a sexy way.

Include a little bit more about what you want to find in the other person. You could also add a few more photos showing more than just your face. Lastly, put those baby blues to good use!

Way too long. Think résumé, not interview. It comes across as you typing out the conversion you are having with someone on their first date. Shorten it by about 60 to 70 percent and you are good to go.

It looks good. The only thing I would suggest is maybe going into some detail about what you are looking for other than "a hot Asian boyfriend". Are you looking for someone who does the exact same things as you or someone who does things that you are interested in but haven't done (i.e. skiing, surfing, hiking, computer programming, etc.)

In my opinion, it is better to list what you are looking for rather than what you are not looking for. Some of the profiles I read say things like, "If you a Republican take a hike, looking for a one night stand then get lost, etc." It comes off as being *****y in my opinion and is a huge turn off. Just my two cents.

I suggest losing about half the photos. Other than that, very good profile.

1. Smile more and show off those British teeth.
2. Retype your profile without caps.
3. Remove the last pic. No one wants to see a woman in her knickers until at least the 3rd date.
4. You've been on this site a whole four days and live in England. It might take at least, like, seven whole days before someone sends an email.

Are you ugly? It's all a matter of perspective. The only person that it matters to is you.

Enjoy this circus they call Mingle2.

Is there a way to add smileys and such on your profile? I have tried using html code but it doesn't work. Anyone else figure out how to do this? Again, this is for the profile, not email messages.

Thanks.

I think there are some BBW dating sites. Heard that from a friend. Don't know the name of it but it's worth a try.

By the way, I like women with curves.

Dump her.

Yes, you are.

Finally, the voice of reason. Kudos for this post, man.

Break it off. End of story. If he has "deal breakers" and you are moving, what is there to debate?

I'm one of those who prefers the woman to make initial contact but if I get an email saying "you have a mutual match" then I send the woman a brief message first.

I've only sent out a few emails based on just viewing the profile. These were ones that just hit me for some reason and I felt the need to send them a message.

I agree that there is a lot of "window shopping" going on. Nothing wrong with that at all. I had one woman email me saying that she saw I had viewed her profile and just wanted to say hi. She wasn't really my type but I thought it was cool that she sent me an email.

I don't now if these stats are accurate but on another free dating site it said 26% of the women made first contact.

Ok, now THAT was funny!

Rick1980, I'm glad to hear you didn't waste your time with that other woman. You are right, that was a train wreck!

Did you meet this woman online or did you know her from before? Maybe I'm old fashion, but I like to get to know the person before I make any first moves. I don't make moves on the first date and in all honesty, I like to let the woman make the first move most of the time. That doesn't mean you can't flirt with her and use touching as a way to show you are interested.

I like becoming friends before moving to the next level. I've had relationships that started with sex first and they never worked out. I really don't understand this dreaded "friends zone" thing. I have women that are friends and then I have had relationships where we started as friends and moved on from there. If the chemistry is there, you will know it and if it isn't, you will know that as well.

My advice is to ask her out for another date but also spend some time on the phone getting to know her. On the next date, maybe try holding her hand. If that goes well, maybe try a kiss on the cheek at the end of the night. I like a woman who takes her time and if the shoe was on the other foot, I would want the same as well.

Just my two cents for what it is worth.

Ok, Geek, that's messed up. I actually COULD read that. Bizarre...

ChiefPUA, I was referring to "life" gurus in general, not specifically the Pick Up Artists. Tony Robbins is one that comes to mind. Also, I am not saying the "guru" makes the person feel hopeless but the other way around. The person becomes dependent upon the "guru" in order to live out their life.

You just nailed it, Geek. I think change can be really scary for some people. Some reach a point where they have a certain level of comfort or safety in their lifestyle and fear leaving it behind.

I personally was scared to death of leaving my good paying job to pursue my passion. Now that I look back, I am so happy I had the guts to go through with it. I make complete **** wages now, but I couldn't be happier. I had to give up financial security to achieve that happiness but it has been well worth it. I look back at how my life use to be and the only thing I regret is that I didn't do this earlier in life.

You are right in that some seek change but fail to put forth the effort or take action. Reading a book on self improvement is a fantastic start but how much does it really help if you never take action?

I see nothing wrong with young men wanting to learn to be more confident when interacting with women but I truly believe that being sincere goes much further than any strategy or tactic ever could.

I mentioned this to one of the females who was posting on the forum and her response was, "I don't give a ****!"

It does speak volumes to some people on here. I personally don't care for reading profiles that speak in Ebonics or TyPe LiKe ThIz. I just move on to another one.

Hey Geek, I don't know if your post was geared toward jistme, myself or both but I wanted to respond to some of what you have written.



I've had a real problem with self esteem for years as well. It hasn't been until the past year or so that I have begun to break away from these chains. That's almost 35 years of being imprisoned in my own little hell and viewing the world from a perspective of pure hate and sadness. My change did not come from solely doing it myself, though.

Again, I don't know if this quote is directed towards me or not but I want to respond.



I would never say that people should not change unless they do it themselves. I see absolutely nothing wrong with someone searching for more meaning or trying to improve themselves through books, seminars, churches, retreats, etc.

The problem I do have, however, is that some people take it to the extreme. They feel they ONLY can change if they have the "guru" by their side. Without the "gurus" words or direction, they consider themselves hopeless. I do have a problem with that.

What rubs me the wrong way about the stuff mentioned here are the terms "pick up artist", "inner game" and "outer game". It comes across as being some kind of seminar on becoming a true "player", not a sincere way to improve yourself.