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If I raised children as brother and sister, regardless of biology,, Id be kind of disgusted, personally but legally, if they are age of consent, nothing I Can do about it,,,although I would not support the decision for the romance or humor that in my home,, but I would always love them and treat them as my children,, It's maybe true that they have no blood ties but how would one take it seeing the children one raised as siblings involving in a romantic relationship. I remembered a man on cheaters who was sleeping with his step-son's girl friend under his wife's roof,yet this was a child he watched grow for almost 20 yrs. Smh...what a world |
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What would you do if your step son is interested in your daughter? And is it a right thing to do? Pls advise. Thank you.
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What's it with age?
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I've met really immature older men and really mature younger ones. I've seen guys that were thirty who looked like they had one foot in the grave, and men who were pushing sixty that looked like they could beat an entire high school track team in a fifty yard dash. You're as old as you feel and act. Age is but a number, kind of like shoe size. It matters not to me personally. What does matter is if they can provide what I'm looking for in a relationship... respect, communication, honesty, loyalty, and attraction... and knowing if they can do that comes with time, not age. But what the "larger society" thinks, in reality, only has an impact on you if you allow it to do so. It has to do with the individuals in question |
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What's it with age?
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Thus far i've gained from everyone that have posted that it's about preference, sharing similarities, maturity level and being confortable around ones partner, which might give rise to the age differences.
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Well I agree with this as well. Some of us are just more mature at a younger age. When I was 22 my gf was 30 - but our age difference was the least of our outrage! It was shocking - but had nothing to do with age difference! 
Yes age shouldn't just be a factor in choosing a partner. I don't mind dating an older lady, this has never been a factor for me, but it seems the women look out for that, smh |
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What's wrong with us?
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Uh-uh. Distance can kill love but it cant start love. Moreover, there is low probability that one would date outta his/her Ethnicity. Mostly it never works Are you saying interracial relationships don't work? Even if the person stays close to you. Well, i've seen many successful interracial relationships, so i guess u're talking from experience In general most relationships don't work permanently. All relationships are temporary. Interracial relationships can work as well as any, but it is not the race that is the problem, it is the background, the mind set, the lack of things in common that are a strain on any relationship. Jeanniebean you just hit the nail on its head, thanks for that response |
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What's wrong with us?
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Uh-uh. Distance can kill love but it cant start love. Moreover, there is low probability that one would date outta his/her Ethnicity. Mostly it never works Are you saying interracial relationships don't work? Even if the person stays close to you. Well, i've seen many successful interracial relationships, so i guess u're talking from experience In general most relationships don't work permanently. All relationships are temporary. Interracial relationships can work as well as any, but it is not the race that is the problem, it is the background, the mind set, the lack of things in common that are a strain on any relationship. Jeanniebean you just hit the nail on its head, thanks for that response |
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What's wrong with us?
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No, if you live across the nation, or world that would require getting on an airplane and being searched. Probably strip searched these days. I just refuse to fly via airplanes. Driving or a ship would take a long and expensive time. Walking or swimming would just be too hard. Phone or cyber relationships.... just not the same... I'm too old and too lazy. I'll take a crack at the guy next door. Okay good for you, but have you gotten anyone in the cyberworld that you ended up dating? If not do you think you'd get any date in here? |
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What's wrong with us?
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Unknow
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Sun 09/04/11 08:40 AM
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Hear we go again, now're talking about feelings, but u talked about distance at first, isn't that contradictory? Because it is impractical to try and carry on a relationship over long distances (my opinion). In any relationship quality time is found within a quantity of time and if the distance is to far lots of time together is near impossible. I do believe in spending quality time together in a relationship, but what about the soldiers in the UN's troops that're presently fighting in Libya, Afganistan, etc. What should their spouses' do? Or sailors on the sea sailing around the world or professions that create little or no time for one's personal life. I have a friend, she's a Child care worker, she works in DC but lives in Virginia. Everyday she works for long hours and doesn't return home till weekend, and this is her regular routine. In as much as i believe in spending quality time together, i think a good relationship needs sacrifice,understanding and trust you said their SPOUSE.... that means they already went thru this whole part of the relationship... they are already in love... and that person, god willing, will return to their spouse... they arent just living out of country... they are working... thats a different case... Yes i said their spouse, but sharing quality time together, affections and romance cannot be given through the distance. Surprisingly, the spouses' the soldiers left at home might be seeing someone else, so it doesn't matter if they've build a relationship or not. Distance is distance, some people are more physical in their love life, they want to feel and touch love, not just some voice and video communication. |
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What's wrong with us?
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Uh-uh. Distance can kill love but it cant start love. Moreover, there is low probability that one would date outta his/her Ethnicity. Mostly it never works Are you saying interracial relationships don't work? Even if the person stays close to you. Well, i've seen many successful interracial relationships, so i guess u're talking from experience |
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the human brain will remain a mystery, I trust, for many more decades to come. I find it more useful in answering your topic to focus on the actual experiences people have had. One thing that I do like about the fellas, on here anyway, is that they seem honest in their intentions - rather than lie about wanting anything substantial they will come out and say that they are just in it for the sexual experience - which is good because we know that anyway
I know a good relationship is not just about sex but nobody is talking about the importance of a good sex or the deterrence of a bad sex in a relationship, i'm just saying though |
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I have actually dated several men in their 30s. Their maturity level and way we view things in general, were too different. I respect your suggestions because they're from life experiences but that shouldn't mean all young men are like those you've dated |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault!
Waow, you've just brought in another perception when you talked about nature, i totally agree with you. But i've shared from some younger men who date older woman that they're addicted to them and tend to enjoy their company due to their experiences and motherly nature, and are even more romantic than younger women. Let me throw this, are older men more romantic and sexually active than younger men? |
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What's it with age?
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault!
Waow, you've just brought in another perception when you talked about nature, i totally agree with you. But i've shared from some younger men who date older woman that they're addicted to them and tend to enjoy their company due to their experiences and motherly nature, and are even more romantic than younger women. Let me throw this, are older men more romantic and sexually active than younger men? |
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Well matey, i have the hots for two guys in bands, who are at least 37 or older. I can't remember their exact ages. lol. So as far as age is concerned, it isn't always an issue with EVERYONE. Okay, but do you subscribe to the 10years rule? How old and young can you date? |
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For me there is a valid reason for not dating a guy more than 10 years older or younger...we are at complete different places in life, and have different goals, and are probably looking for different things at this point. I am no longer interested in starting a family. I am looking for a serious relationship, not a fling. Sharing similar interests and maturity level is important as well. There are cogent reasons, and my ability to discern what a man is looking for has nothing to do with society taboos. Sublime444 are you saying if this person share the same interest and maturity level with you but he's in his 30s, will you turn him down? And you've decerned that he's not a fling and not playing games |
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What's it with age?
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there are quite a few cogent reasons if you read the threads on the topic that are already on here but younger is not a complete disqualifier I have dated younger men but have found that it takes a certain amount of life experience to not take someone and some things for granted. at least this is my impression so far - no substitute for experience I don't rule out the chance, however, that a younger man might have more mature qualities than the ones I have date thus far it's best, I think, to leave things open Yes there have been cogent reasons from real live experiences which i really appreciate people that have shared. Medical reseachers at the University of Maryland came out with a report at a time that there's a portion of the human brain that doen't develop until a human is 25yrs old |
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For me it depends on if we are just friends or romantic. I will date anyone if it is for friendship, hanging out together. I cannot see me becoming romantically involved with someone less than 45.I feel most comfortable in the 50's for romance. I bet you know what you want already to be romantic |
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What's it with age?
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Like others have said, it's all about preference. Even a 10 year age difference would be pushing it for me. I totally agree, but the larger society frown at it, don't they? |
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What's wrong with us?
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Well you can converse with people from all over the world and that's a great thing. I love learning about other cultures and other countries. But "dating" would require getting together. Long distant love affairs just don't work unless you have found a way to do out of body projection and meet in the astral plane for spirit to spirit encounters. I find I just can't get out (of my body) any more.  
Besides a spirit to spirit sexual encounter might spawn a demon love child.
You're such a funny person, so you don't get out of your body any more? Well the world is getting small and it's a matter of hours back or forth |
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