Reading through some posts and i kept on thinking, what's wrong if one decides to go into an interracial relationship? Because to me, some people in the western world thinks it's a kind of a favour if they date someone not on their continent, or they're just helping out a 'hungry under-privileged dude'. To me i'm like when would the world be one again? Love is a beautiful thing that knows no boundaries.

i wouldn't think i was doing someone a favor.... but i wouldn't date outside the country... i dont even like dating out of STATE... its too difficult...

SilentlyScreming you already knows what works for you. Let me say uhmm....what if your online friend that you've been on for a while comes to your state, either for whatever reason, would u consider them?

it depends how the relationship was... i have people on here who i ADORE and would do anything for... but that doesn't mean i would date them just because they moved close to me, if that's what you mean...

i dont care if someone is from somewhere else... its all about how i feel about them...

Hear we go again, now're talking about feelings, but u talked about distance at first, isn't that contradictory?

I've dabbled with some LDRs from a few states away -- never again, let alone outside the country. From here on out, she has to be within 6 blocks of me. Maybe 8 if it's nice out. I want a relationship, not an e-lationship.

nothing is wrong with interracial relationships, they just have a different set of 'obstacles' than other relationships

similar with long distance relationships, or international relationships,,,,it is much EASIER to 'relate' to and end up in relationships with those who are close to us in proximity and similar to us in life/social/cultural experiences

going beyond that familiarity, or bypassing it to devote to the unfamiliar,, is not a 'favor', but it is a bit more than what most would expect to be done just for their company/love/partnership,,,etc,,,

Lex I believe you know what's best for you, but I believe the 'e-thing' is meant to broaden our spectrum

Msharmony, well u're right to the extent of proximity, cultural, ethnic and societal commons, but all these doesn't make a good relationship or reduce the percentage of divorce. Living far away doesn't mean i don't know what's happening in the society over there.

In theory, I agree with you.

When I first started using dating sites, I was operating under the assumption that it would allow me to meet all kinds of new people I would never have had access to otherwise.

What I hadn't considered was that 104% of the ones I'd encounter would be much too far away for me to do anything about.

Or that 112% of them would turn out to be obviously and fully incompatible with me before I finished reading their 7-word profiles.

See, my mistake was that I was too busy looking at the numbers. Millions and millions of new people, yes, but zero actual dating prospects. In the end, it's about quality and compatibility rather than quantity.

In all fairness, I haven't looked at a lot of men's profiles, but the ones I have looked at were generally pretty bad. I mean, "Look at me, I'm holding up a fish" doesn't seem like the sort of thing that would pique a woman's interest. Not being a woman, though, I can only guess.

And I do think women are, on the whole, much better communicators than men. Which makes me wonder why half of the women use "I don't know what to write here (7 words!) as their entire profile text....?

of course not, just saying that more difference requires more work than those with less difference

especially if the difference is geographical

Lex i concur but i've been skeptical about the 'e-lationship' like u called it, does it really work anywhere in the world. I believe you've given it alot of tries yet you're still persistent, is it that you have hope in mingle2.com website?
Msharmony, ofcourse geographical differences is a major challenge. If some few miles away can bring couples up on Cheaters how much more thousands of kilometers away - no matter where, trust is an important tool in this. But i'm giving it a try because of my relocation soon, at least i wanna have some more new friends even if i don't get a date in here.
This happened for real, sometimes ago, i was walking on the street when a guy approached me, called my name and i looked at him with disdain because i've not seen him before, only for him to tell me he's one of my facebook's friend, just added him then and i haven't really went through is profile, i later found out he stays in my neighborhood and i see him quite often now. i still think social media sites is not that bad afterall.

I love this site because there are a lot of great people on here. My friends on this site are better than any I've ever had in real life, actually.

But as far as dating goes, I've been here 4 1/2 years and haven't run across anyone datable yet. Now, my situation is probably a little atypical; but I know people who have met here, who have gotten together and, in some cases, stayed together. It happens.

I haven't totally given up on the idea that a new person, someone local, someone who is actually looking for the kind of relationship I'm looking for, might sign up here at some point. I think it's unlikely, but it could happen.



Well, that goes back to the "local" scenario. I think it's one thing to communicate over the internet with someone for years and years; it's another thing to communicate with someone over the internet and then actually meet in person. I guess it depends on what you're looking for. Some only want to use the sites to make friends, and that's a viable function. But some of us would like to find something more, and, for me, that requires someone local.

Lex you're the real man, i said that because i've just known something about you, you don't give up easily on things, a go-getter and a never say never kind of person, i really like that about u. Waow! I must really commend you, 4 1/2yrs and u're still on, I guess you've said it all, you've seen results in here on mingle2.com and made some good friends better than those out here. Anyway, i desire something more than just friends as well but just like you, I'm gonna hang on for that datable person to hit me up someday, but i'm just thinking if i can hold on for almost 5yrs. Considering the fact that i've been 'date-less' for some time now....lolz

Lex you're the real man, i said that because i've just known something about you, you don't give up easily on things, a go-getter and a never say never kind of person, i really like that about u. Waow! I must really commend you, 4 1/2yrs and u're still on, I guess you've said it all, you've seen results in here on mingle2.com and made some good friends better than those out here. Anyway, i desire something more than just friends as well but just like you, I'm gonna hang on for that datable person to hit me up someday, but i'm just thinking if i can hold on for almost 5yrs. Considering the fact that i've been 'date-less' for some time now....lolz

i need both.. i dont think that condradicts anything

i wont be with someone just because they're close when i have no feelings for them

but i also dont want the whole LDR thing... i can barely tolerate out of state... so i know i couldn't do out of country

@SilentlyScreaming you've been around here for a little more than 4yrs, what has ur experience been like? I believe in qualities, character before beauty, and since i don't give up if at all not easily, i'm not afraid to reach out to the one i love, yes love is sacrificial. That's why i don't want to love someone that won't love me in return, it can be a pain in the butt. Because most people tend to love those that doesn't return their love but ignores those that loves them, hence the chasing continues.

Because it is impractical to try and carry on a relationship over long distances (my opinion). In any relationship quality time is found within a quantity of time and if the distance is to far lots of time together is near impossible.

Well you can converse with people from all over the world and that's a great thing. I love learning about other cultures and other countries.

But "dating" would require getting together. Long distant love affairs just don't work unless you have found a way to do out of body projection and meet in the astral plane for spirit to spirit encounters. I find I just can't get out (of my body) any more.

Besides a spirit to spirit sexual encounter might spawn a demon love child.