Sorry, too superficial and appearance based. Not enough about what is underneath the skin. Not enough about the heart.

It's true. What I am looking for (male, no drugs...) does not seem to exist in my area. I have met some men I would like to get to know better on this site, but they are all far away.

It sucks. But, I may be moving in the next few months to an actual city - wow - so, who knows what the future may bring.

Very good!

Sounds a little like a game to me... What happened to turn the other cheek?

Actually I was supposed to have a date tonight, he ended up having his son, and postponed for next Friday.

I don't know, maybe I'm changing or something. It didn't bother me! I wanted to have a peaceful evening at home with my cats anyway.

Ya, I know, I'm weird.

You're right!

Maybe she has decided you and her would not make a good fit together, but is afraid to tell you, so, she avoids you instead???

I strongly recommend all guys read the book, "The Rules Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right."

It explains the game process. I don't agree with it.

Actually, the statistician is here now. Women reach their sexual peak in their mid 30's!


...that explains why I buy batteries in bulk...

That explains it. Understandable. I call it a potato on my shoulder (bigger than a chip). I pretty much avoid everyone until the mood passes.

Plus, if she is the game player she sounds like, doing the above will truly piss her off - a perfect step! You gotta be really sincere in how you communicate too...

Okay, the fact that you work with her will make it really sucky. She doesn't sound like that good of a person though. I mean, you were dating her for 6 months, while obviously she was seeing someone else on a very serious level - and was probably in a relationship with that other man, and was cheating on him with you.

She is a LOSER!

Now the part comes, you've been screwed. Yup, we all have. But, you are better off without her. Ya, it hurts like he--! Ya, it hurts for a LLOONNGG time too.

Now you gotta figure out a way to deal with her at work. I'd recommend professional conversation topics only. Lots of distance.

But, then you have no sexual genitalia.

I wish I were a leopard.

Okay gang, I'm signing out. This forum seems to have puttered down to nothing.

Thank you all so much!

I wish all this stuff didn't bring so much pain as well.

Okay. I am taking a safe route. I just text messaged him, "One crazy lady is thinking about you." I understand a lot of men communicate anger when they are upset. I have never been in a physically abusive relationship, mainly because he would probably die shortly afterwards, and I'd be in jail hoping someone would take care of my kitties.

So, now we see what happens. I have given him a small chance, we see how he responds. If he gets all yucky and controlling, then it's the 2 strikes and you're out. If he stays calm and communicative, I take it from there.

Ya, but that whole loved and lost line I don't believe in.

I have loved, insanely head over heels been in love - with a loser. And, promptly lost. I would rather never have loved at all than to continually feel this pain.

True, but scary.

It is very difficult when the heart and the head disagree. This is especially true with me because I have a nack for falling for mega, huge, big time, monstrosity losers.

This guy definitely is not that! His brain is orgasmic alone! Course, he also looks pretty good too. And, my dad would approve.

My heart says he might be the one. He meets so many things that are important to me.

Okay, we've had some really good debate. I have listened to all of you...

I think I will text message him and see how he responds. This way I'm still keeping a barrier up to see how he feels.

What do you think?

How do I get my heart to move on?