^^^same here Ms. Kristi
Only I dont have a pet.
I can rest best alone with my music.



^^^
This is what makes us human.
This is why we need to interact with people,
no matter how independent we are.

This is what reminds us,
that no matter how successful we are
in our chosen career and
how convenient it is
for us to live alone,
There are always times,
we will always sometimes wish,
we have someone who can lead us
and strong enough for us
to keep us safe..

At the end of the day,
it will always just be,
what it is - a wish:)

There you go lol

like you haha
growl

the image rocks^^^^ Whew!
Nice one Ms. Storm

Welcome to Mingle beej02

Interesting new perspective^^^

A guy who insists to a woman -
" no do not fall in love with me"
I just want to watch movies with you,
spend a little bit of time with you,
and have monkey sex with you.

I do not like anything full time or
anything permanent.
Expectations were set properly.

The woman - still believes they will eventually
marry??? with the guy who just said he wants casual,
relationship, say 2 weeks?

With all due respect,
something is very wrong to the equation.
and I beg to disagree.

Is it possible, what started as temporary
or casual arrangement turned serious.
somewhere along the way, your friends & their
women actually fell in love with 1 another,
enough to risk, living in together,
and the other even get married.

Because that woud mean, the guy does not mind
the woman clearing out a drawer just for him.
One even cohabits at a certain point right?

The way I see it, and this is just my take
I can be wrong -

You agree with the Op that casual is
a good arrangement.
And sometimes out of it,
there are cases it could lead to lifelong
arrangement.

Along the way your friends Sir,
if i may say so, allowed the women
to fall in love with them.
Allow the women to clear out a drawer
for them.
One of your friend even gave his
commitment by marrying the woman.

It was no longer casual.
It started as one but
it ended both of them get emotionally involve,
for them to stay that long in a relationship.

Living together and then eventually marry right?
It does not sound casual to me.

You're welcome.
By the way, the video rocks
It gives off happy vibes -
cant help smiling!

Your prerogative. your choice.
Im sure there are still plenty of women
near you & in your state, who prefers this.

what will make it messy & ugly
if you fail to set proper
expectations to the woman u
are dating with or lead her on
to believe you want happy ever after.



You spent time with her.
You even have monkey sex with her.
And yet you want her not to feel a thing for you?

Emotions, are even prevalent, while
you are just reading posts of people
halfway across the world,
how much more, if you
are in a tangled sheet
both sweaty & satisfied?
Oh cmon! - too cold & souless
if I may be blunt.

If I may say,
set the proper expectations.
do not ask her not to fall in love with u.
Ask her instead not to - ask
commitment from u.


You are being realistic with
your needs & your situation.
Good.
Be realistic too in accepting
how a woman would react
to your demands & conditions.

Justsayin

^^^this
I dont mind.
As long as I understand what he/she means.

Welcome to Mingle

Wow!

^^^^ i like this very much
thank you for making me smile



3 things I am grateful today:

1. a post from someone I always respect and like.
2. an instant message from someone whose opinion
and approval I really value.
3.Beer

with 1 bottle of
cold beer?

someone just told me
in instant message that:

" smiling does the soul good "

Let's rock on Minglers!
Lighten up people
Beer everyone?

Sweetie?

I told u a few weeks ago,
that what is worst than
walking away from Mingle
is making another account right?

Did u just give me permission
to insult your intelligence
& deductive reasoning?

I understand u confuse me
with some else.
But it is really insuting to me
and who u are dealing with
right now, if u ask me to
confirm all the time if it is me.

One last time:
While it works splendid with
other people to have an alternate
account, I choose not do it.

Because:
I honestly do not have the time.
And why in God's name do I need another
account when I can barely keep up with
everyone on my 1 & only account?
Common sense?

And honestly if & when I will be tempted
to make another account,
dont you think, I would be really sooooooooooo
obvious, that I might as well say
"Hi Minglers, this is jane,
just made another account,
even if I said I will never make another one-
let's rock on!"

^^^^^Common sense please.

Whoever u are dealing with right now,
please do not insult her by comparing
her with me. If who u are dealing right now
is real. I am sure, it matters
to her that you can differentiate her from
others who just sounded like her.


Be cautious and All the best:)

May I smile for everyone today

2 things I am grateful of today:

1.Daughtry first Album
2.Pizza

I am not in the position to say something about
your friend since I do not know her SassyEuro2.

I also know you only, base on your posts since
we never instant message, so on this I want to
be fair & objective and hold back my opinion.




This is where I agree, that you made the right decision SassyEuro2.

I think your friend disappointed you.
And it is a big deal to you, that she is not supportive.
Maybe because you have always been supportive with her
and expects that in return she will do so.
I wish she knew how you feel.
Maybe things would be different.

Why? Because maybe your friend is
someone like me -

I always distance myself from people I like.
In mingle and in the real world.

In mingle -
I always try to not agree with them all the time.
I always remind myself that, there will come a time
that I will misinterpret or misunderstands his/her posts
and eventually may hurt him/her in the process
since I am tactless and disagreeable.

I always give space after I share what is in my
heart with someone, or after that someone shared
something personal to me.
I do not want to be clingy.
I do no want to be clinged on to.
It must be because I am used to being alone.

Most of the time, the person has to
really verbally say what he/she wants from me,
for me to do it. I am just clueless what people
expects from me. That is why setting of
proper expectations is very important to me.

Is it possible that your friend, is just really
clueless on what you expects from her?
Maybe your friend sees you as a force to reckon
with. Unbeatable and someone who does not need support:)

I am not making excuses for your friend SassyEuro2,
it is just a different perspective,
because given what u have posted,
I still say, u are better off without her.

I do not have anyone like this ^^^^^ in my life SassyEuro2,
but there are times I am guilty of asking
too many questions here in the forum

Partly because I still do not know how to post
politically -correct statements in English.

It is easier for me to post it as a question
for my take of a certain post to come out right
and say what I actually mean.

But the most important reason, why I ask questions is because
most of the time I misunderstand and misinterpret posts.
Even from people I like and respects.

I am one of those, who do not agree readily or bond thru
short bantering posts, I do not know how.

That is why when I admire or agree to a post, it is sometimes
corny or too flattering.

And when I give my take - it is a long post hahaha
Partly because I want to discourage those who does not like me
to stop reading my posts.

I know I really have to learn
to write posts, in a politically correct way,
so it wont sound personal:)
I need time for this.



I think you did yourself a favor SassyEuro in stopping yourself
in communicating with her.Or telling her less & less.

Why?
Because if you find her nosey & suspicious
and basing only on this post, you find her a nuisance.

I say,you are both wasting your time & resources being friends.
She is certainly not good for you because she does not make you
feel good or happy, or challenge you to be a better person.
She does not inspire loyalty from you.
Real friendship inspires loyalty,
even when you get exhausted hahaha.
True friends corrects and laugh about each
others mistakes hilariously.
Even rib each other about it from time to time:)



I think you are in a position to criticize your friend
because you are the one communicating with her.

I can only speak for myself in this,
because I do not know your friend.

I had only 1 ex boyfriend hahaha
and yes I have questioned him too (to death )
like your friend.

Asks so many questions about his faith.
He did not run. It was me who walked away
after he answered all my questions.
And showed me what real faith is.
Found out he was too good, for the likes of me:)

I choose not to provide lyrics
for the next song I wanted to post.

This is for couples.
This is for people who have already
found their date of a lifetime.

Today, I choose to encourage you
to hold on to your love.

Today, I choose to encourage you
to not look at other man/woman
but focus on your partner.

While people like me here in
Mingle are still floundering
and single, you already have
what you want.
You are 1 step ahead of us.

Appreciate your partner.
Do not ever- let me repeat this-
never believe on -

" if you love someone set them free
if he/she comes back then he/ she is
mean to be yours"

^^^^ I think this is only for people
who likes someone and it is one-sided.

But if you are in love and your love
is reciprocated,
hold on to that love,
fight for that love,
nourish that love,
do not take it for granted,
others like me are still
searching for that,
while you already have it in your grasp.
Be grateful you already have that.

When things get tough,
slow dance with your partner,
do not even think or care of the lyrics
of this song,
just focus on the music,
focus your senses on your partner.

Slow dance with your partner.

Said I love you but I lied - Michael Bolton
http://youtu.be/UpvzaYRS-qg