I don't need to rethink anything. I think that because a man isn't "successful" that he wants some support is because I lived it, and I won't do it again.

I have also had dates with "un"successful men, including one who got so agitated that his father hadn't bankrolled him so he could be a millionaire by now that he began to spit when he talked. I spoke to another one on the phone who worked as a part-time groundskeeper for a golf range. He lived with his son who paid the rent. The guy couldn't wait to drive to meet me (he lived about 150 miles away), but didn't know if his car could make it.

Oh, yeah, who would be supporting HIS ***? Not me!

Kudos to your ex brother in law for taking care of his family, but there are probably more factors than money that attract only the crazy women.

Im not considering myself special I was asking who else gets them! An my profile is the way it is to weed out people. Don't sit there and judge me! You know NOTHING about me.


What I know about you is what you want people who read your profile to know. If you don't want people to judge you by what you write, hide your profile. If you don't want people to judge you harshly by what you write, write something else.

On a venue such as this, you are here to be "judged," we all are. And that judgment is made, again, based on how people present themselves.

This is the problem with anthropomorphizing deity: if there is a "father," then by default, there is a mother. The Virgin Mary does not qualify.

Humans make gods in our image and give them names, faces, and personalities. The god of the Christian Scriptures, even more so than the Hebrew Scriptures, is male because it is a male dominated religion.

I didn't wade through all the pages, but OP, you speak of deism as opposed to theism.

Deists basically believe that a deity created the world then walked away.

Theists believe in a personal god who watches over them and cares about whether they wipe their noses or not.

It is my understanding that Christian gnostics were deists, but they were branded as heretics and stamped out by Pauline Christianity.

What about Elohim?

You are SO right about this! I was talking to god last night and She expressed how totally pissed off She is that people ignore what She has to say and keep chasing after those silly male poseur gods.

Argh. If you are concerned about the so-called Mayan prophecy, I suggest that you immediately start sacrificing people to keep the gods happy and the universe intact.

Like attractiveness, "successful" is subjective according to the person defining it.

I like "successful" men, and that includes financial aspects, but not because I am a gold-digger but because I don't want to support anyone's lazy ***. I do not expect a man to support me.

Also, men who are successful are usually, not always, more confident and comfortable with themselves. I dislike whining, and I have met one too many men who whined about their place in life because they have not been successful.

No, there is no man for you who is the total package: it is a useless quest.

Why? Because you make it so.

What does asking if men can't love women for who they are have to do with trust issues? Did I miss something?

If men don't love women because they are women, wouldn't those men be gay?

Let's use some logic.

Please, don't consider yourself special because you get those types of emails--almost all of us get them.

By the way, are you REALLY looking for dates on this site? If I were a guy, after reading what you say on your profile, I would take your advice and not waste my time.

I find your post both whiny and bragging.

Figure it out yourself.

All religions and deities are created by humans: deity is created in the image of humans, not the other way around.

All religions share an ancient, common source, much older than Judaism.

Each new religion builds on the back of the ones preceding it: there is nothing new in any religion.

This site has been a bust as to meeting men, but it is not the site, per se. The same people are on ALL the sites--paid or free, I seldom see a new face.

I have had people email me about my posts, but on this site, I haven't met anyone as a result of a post.

No one is "enlightened." It is a perception founded by those who seek a path outside of themselves.

Anyone who claims enlightenment is to be avoided.

One does not seek to be pagan: to be pagan seeks the person.

X-rated odd included, or just odd?

It isn't hard for older women to find love, but many of us are more realistic in our expectations--and it is not being jaded.

I married my ex husband because he was cute (at 21) and promised to be a good provider. Now, a man must meet my criteria of attractiveness, but as long as he supports himself, I don't need a provider. He must be smart and he must be creative and able to make me laugh.

Older people who continue to fall in love as do teenagers need to examine their maturity. I have women friends who, if a man gives them the slightest bit of attention, they are in LOVE.

I can understand that finding a partner whom we can truly love is difficult, but finding a man is easy.

But not just any man (or woman) will do, eh?

Dozens and dozens of men--few worth seeing more than once.

As an English teacher, I will reserve my opinion.