some people can take it, others can't. if i already can tell there is no chance other then friendship why bother pressing the issue? i'm good with just friends, i'll find somebody that is in it like that with me, then take that chance. or take the chance if i don't know. but to say just ask any body your interested in without thinking about it and having no shame is kind of stupid to me. right now i have no crushes on anybody, if i did they would know it, if they felt the same then i would ask them out. if i already know they don't feel that way no i won't ask them out just to get rejected and possible ruin what friendship we have just so i can say "hey look at me! i got these huge balls for asking people out"

telling the person you have a crush on is one thing, doing it in front of others is another. If I like someone I have the ability to email just as easily as posting it in a thread. I have never been called chicken in my life, and i *ba-ba-bawk* resent *bawk* that

Exactly. I wouldn't ask to meet someone on the public forums. That's why they have email.

hell i'll ask in front of people, who cares.

you tell them guy!

I know Shadow, but I agree with what you are saying. If people sit back and don't say anything, they will never know if the other person has any interest in them at all.

I meant what I said Hiker, don't paint yourself in such a negative light. Take your time and get to know the people on here.

OMG!!! All these quotes are makin me dizzy... whothewhatdidwhere? I love you all.... cheers

Hiker....I know where you are coming from on this but I don't agree with you about guys not being interested in us middle-aged overweight females..........I have found one of the greatest guys in the world on here, and I ain't letting him go!!

oh hon, I am really not negative about myself. I am realistic. I know what it is like out there. As for being patient, I am happy being single. I don't stress about meeting anyone because I am having so much fun right now. There are some awesome people in here and sometimes I am glad I don't have honey waiting for me to come to bed..just five more minutes...I swear, I'll be right in...etc.

t-boned on my scoot, or ask a girl out. i don't see a problem i'd ask the girl if i was interested. no never hurt me that bad. the t-bone however......ouch. people follow suit. there's 300 million people in the US. lots of choices, so let's go.

ill agree if you know it's nothing but going to be a friendship. As far as just coming out and saying it to someone you don't realy know is jumping a little, but i see people on here that do have a crush for one onther and it's stupid not to run with it and see where it goes...

Now one part i disagree. I have yet lost one friendship on letting someone know i like them and knowing they were not interested after i had ask and that is because i was real witjh them and up fron and the friendship was real. if someone gives you the boot for telling them you like them. Sorry but there not a real friend and i don't wast time on people like that

I am happy for you because you deserve it. I didn't mean to generalize, I hate when other people do it. It's just that there are more guys interested in cute young things than old fatties. Just in general. some look beyond and get rewarded beyond their wildest dreams!

I agree that there is someone out there for everyone.........but me!

I say stop being so hard on yourself. You are who you are and if someone don't like it, blow them because there is more to you on the inside them some of the women i see as being thin. Hell just because there cut don't mean SH.. to me. It's about who you are on the inside and there are plenty of men on here that will see you for you. it's just takes time

there is a lot of cases where it is strictly friendship that one person likes the other and it's known that it gets very awkward and the friendship dies. granted thats not the case all the time . it's happened to me a couple of times and it's happened to friends of mine.

your right a lot of people don't have guts and can't tell the other likes them at all and they play ring around the idiot stick till the end of time. thats their own fualt and they need to get over it.

you'll find someone just keep being you

But it's ME that no one likes.

I still dont understand how not telling someone know you like them in a thread, but email them instead is being gutless, or silly. I am confused

well, yes, but I am also a nasty beyotch too!!

If you want I can start sending you emails about how awesome I am. That always makes for an intelligent conversation.