do you need a hug..sounds like you have issues as well...im not rude...im honest

I have listened, and now I am done here. I came here to ask for advice, those saying "I wouldn't be on a dating msg board looking for advice" well, you're here looking for a date, you're no better than me buddy.

hello? Relationship advice topic, he's asking for advice not attention he'd be somewhere else for that.

I'm asking for help as to what to do because I have no experience so i don't know what to do. I don't need help with my mistake, I know what I did and how bad it was.


Without honesty. trust and communication a relationship WILL fail. Be honest with her, trust that she is being honest with you and communicate your differences. If it lasts you did the right thing, if it doesn't view it as practice. Given enough time a heart will mend itself. Give her the time she asks for and accept any decision she makes.

actually I think I could use a hug, I have had the worst day of my life, my stalker won't leave me alone and people are irritating me by calling this guy names, and I think I spelled it wrong is it biased? or biast?

*hugg* them stalkers will get you everytime and it is biased

Oh, to be young and stupid. You know what... you are absolutley right. How does it feel to be right?

thanks peachie and yeah my stalker won't leave me alone but anyway I'm sorry if I was rude to anyone on here, just all this stuff gets to me after a while. and thanks I think I had a brain fart or whatever it's called.

I thought you liked me stalking you

Oh noes! hey mike whatcha up to?

leave her alone

I know what your saying and it does get old. But how we to grow or anyone else if we don't at least try. I think this will all end up over with him, but think about this. Is anyone actually leaning from this or at least trying to see what you have done and where you can go from your mistakes? OM i think not because some of you are caught up in what he did wrong that your not seeing the over all picture....

First relationships always suck at some point. More often than not its a you live, you learn, and you move on kind of a situation. Sometimes its just a matter of getting over the rough patch and the relationship gets better.

However (and this is what makes it suck more) the only person who will ever know which one your relationship falls into...is you. The question is knowing what you know now, that she basically cheated, that you knew this information and wanted to discuss it with her and she turned it against you and then basically said you were on a break (anyone else remember the infamous Ross and Rachel break? lol) There was no "I'm so sorry, lets work on this" or a "it was a moment of weakness" or even the wonderful BS line of "its okay we're just friends and we were just kidding around" - total lie. It was pretty clear cut in what she said to him. It is also pretty clear cut in how she is handling the situation with you: she is no longer interested. (This is going to be harsh, but trust me I wish someone had said this to me in my last relationship) She has obviously already moved on, so should you. If she comes back to try to start again, make sure that you know where your head and your heart are. Listen to her but make sure that she truly TRULY wants to be with you, its very easy to come back and use someone. Its hard to come back and love someone.

Also...in her defense you did check her e-mail. I think that more than enough people have said crap to you. She did give you her password (bad move #1) and more importantly you didn't date all that long. Giving her the benefit of the doubt...she could have just been confused.

I know people hate long posts but I had to write all of that...hopefully it helps. Just know that you are the only one that can figure out what you want out of the relationship, and which category to put the relationship in. Just make sure that you learn from this, but don't let it damage you for the next girl that you meet :)

WHOOT WHOOT

nothing much just doing a little stalking.....

well where are you then?

I can't tell you or you'll know where I'm at and I won't be your stalker no more

A first relationship is easy to make mistakes with. I'm sure you loved her or may still, but you'll learn from this. If you feel the need to check on someone it isn't a good sign. This will help you learn not to be as intrusive. I once opened mail from an old boyfriend..would never do that today. Of course I have no tolerance for cheaters, today either. Life is a learning thing.

Feel better.

well
actually i am on your side,you wouldnt found out it if u wouldnt logged in her email,she shoul toled u the truth.
But still its a bad move when u invade someones privacy.so