Hi Mirror,

i would fly a kite but im afraid there would be people like you trying to break into my email

I read about 3/4's and couldn't take anymore. It is 100% illegal to log into someones email even if you know the password. My friend who is a cop did it to his g/f and was arrested and lost his job for it. Just ask her instead of snooping. Was it worth what you found? Sitting in front of you in black and white were her feelings towards another man. Now your trust has been broken and will never be the same again. If it upset you so bad that you told her about your nosieness, then why are you even looking to continue in the relationship? You may want to move on before she gets knocked up and you live miserably for the next 18 years like me hehehe. Now that your ego is burned...you think you need to build it back up by proving you are better than the other guy. Don't do it!!! If you do, the forum next week will be I told you so.

If someone is asking for help. Is it not what we are here for somewhat? The funny thing here is. some of you have been throught this and yet you judge

Just telling it how it is. Not trying to piss anyomne off.


Mike! you can get all the advice from everyone on here, but I think you know what to do already. it's just a matter of taking that action. let her be for a few days and then sit down and talk to her. One suggestion though. Don't just listen to her. Actually try to her what she is sayin g and how she is feeling and it don't matter if she is throwing things back at you, just let her get it out and actually see where she really stands with all this. Yes you found out some things and it bothers you, but pushing any situation is never going to get anyone anywhere. Now mind you and this should go for everyone! if your going to give advice? at least listen to what your saying and thats what I do

Oldest trick in the book. She was going to break up with you anyhow and you gave her an easy out to make you look like your the bad person. Don't buy it. She was busted trying to talk to an ex and arrange a meeting. If you have doubts about someone you should check them out. Don't apologize for anything.

Thank You to anybody who truly meant to help.

I know what I did and there's no excuse for it, but it seems some people just don't understand and that's life...some people are understanding and some are just not, that's the way it is.

Thank You again to those who offered help, I really appreciate you looking past my imperfections and helping me.

And to those who say I'm whining, when you get down as low as me, you can expect me to help you: because I am a good person, whether you are or not.

Hello

it's not a privacy invasion she obviously gave him her password, seriously. He came to everyone for advice on how to beg for fogiveness or not but what are you guys doing? being rude and calling him a hacker. geez let's hear for the a ss holes of the world yeehaw. somehow I am not amused

you know what i find funny...everyone is sticking up for this man when he has done wrong...i know people make mistakes but im so sick of people messing up and then coming to ask for advice...everyone is pissed at me because im being honest...what ever happened to doing the right thing

Can somebody say Jerry Springer? Hurry... call Dr. Phil. I never seen a thread grow so fast.

obviously you didn't read mine

You can say what you want and feel what you feel, I'm glad you do. People mess up and ask for advice because they need it, because they truly don't know how to fix it and maybe somebody with more experience can help them.

But as I said, you either understand or you don't.

If you want advice on what to do, then break off contact with the girl after apologising to her (Profusely). Then learn from your mistakes, rectify them and make sure that they never happen again.

As to whether or not she gave you her password, if she did, then that was a level of trust that she showed in you. you broke that trust, and it is absolutely unforgiveable.

Insulting other members as well who are only saying what they feel or think here doesn't make any sense either.

he knows this
he admited to it
hes asking for help on how to fix it

i did...and i agree with what you said

Yes she gave me her password, yes I broke her trust, and no I never insulted other people I simply said what I feel.

Thanks for the offer. I think if I get down as low as you, I 1) won't come to a dating message board to solve my problems and 2) won't be asking advice from a kid whose adult way of dealing with issues is to hack someone's email and spy on them.

no everyone is pissed because you aren't being honest you are being biast and petty and I hate people like that. It's rude and judgemental, obviously he knows what he did was wrong and he's sorry for that, but whne people are angry about something they will do whatever it takes to figure out the truth.

i understand this but everyone telling him its okay is bullcrap...its not okay in the least bit....the help is let it go...trust is gone and will never be back....she dont want to be with you...she wants something else...im sorry...its life...it happens...you have to learn and let go...but what do i know...

I have a better idea.... heed some of the advice given (what you asked for) and stop getting caught up in all the drama. People want to help if you will open your ears and listen.