Topic: Maybe love isn't enough? | |
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hmm okay thanks for the help
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Don't take this the wrong way babe, cus I mean it in the most flattering of ways... You're so damn pretty you almost make me sick, I'm sure you'll have no trouble findin a good guy. If it wasn't right then don't put yourself back in that one. You're only 18 from what I seen on your profile, you got TONS of time to worry about all of that.
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thats what we are here for.....
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thanks guys
yall are wonderful |
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I hope it works out for you.
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heart: For YOU to have FIRST made the decision to call you and him quits,,,THAT WAS YOUR HEART full of HIS TRUTH!
But TIME helps mend the heart so IT NOW seems to be UP for more PAIN,,,,Just remember YOUR FIRST memory that allowed YOU to say GOODBYE, and GO FORWARD!!! |
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so us still talking "as friends" he calls it..is probably not the best idea? I mean in a way it helps me to get over him..but then it makes me just want to forget all the BS hes put me through and get back with him should total communication be cut off? I think the longer you stick around after the more those feelings are there and it doesn't help you move on at all because there always still there. It brings back all those old feelings |
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I think u should still talk to him as friends... and i know the feelings that u had/ still have r gona come back to you theres no doubt bout that.. but to move on u might need to face whats sorta holding u back keep talking but not like every hour on the hour space it out and keep on with your life. U have goals go achieve them.
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Edited by
cindy_tragic
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Fri 01/11/08 06:04 AM
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Thanks everyone for the thoughts..
I've thought long and hard on it..and it seems I only think about getting back with him when im feeling a little weak..or when my mind isn't occupied.. but i've realized..i loved him yes..but not evough to know he's the one i want to spend the rest of my life with..and it was a nice chapter in my life...but now it's time to move on to bigger and better things thanks for all the help XoXo |
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Ive been on that rollercoaster before, I was in a 5 year relationship and toward the end we would constantly break up and make up... we were really just going through the motions toward the end, and not really happy... but the thought of being apart was really hard too.. we knew each other in and out, and we had invested so much time together. It can be really hard to let go sometimes, but you have to wonder if you are in it because you love the person, or if you are in love with what they once represented. We were pretty incompatible as well, but in the end it was better for me to let go.
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the most important thing to know is that real love just doesn't behave in negative ways.
fear and insecurity cannot exist in an environment of love. you have to understand that he has issues that cause him to think and behave the way he does. and you have issues that make you want to stay in that place with him. come on, who doesn't like to be in a position of being better than someone else. we all like to feel that we are important to another persons existence. but is it always love? we think its love when we play that important of a role in another life, but it fills a need for us. more likely its an emotional power trip of some kind. but its not love. |
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You, my dear, are a diamond in the rough. It's easy for me to see why he thinks you're too good for him. But, you need to do what's best for you and YOU alone. You love him, that's a fact, something that will probably never change. He loves you, that's a fact, I doubt that he'll change either. Believe me, I myself have been that guy. From my standpoint, leaving him alone and not talking to him at all is THE WORST thing that you can do to him. His self-esteem is shot and he's dealing with emotions that are difficult to describe. If nothing else, be there as someone to talk to. Don't go out dating yet, you'll only make it worse for him. In fact, if you can, see if you can hook him up with someone else. He has soo much love to give, he simply needs someone to give it to. Give him time to heal, I promise that everything will turn out alright.
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