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Do more women have this happen quite regularly? Men sending you a message that they like your profile or photo or something and then they continue to tell you it can't go anywhere because we live too far apart or some other reason. That always has me thinking, mate, we have never even exchanged a single word, yet you assume that we potentially have something going because you have an interest in me????? How bout sending a message like, "I really like you/am interested but dammit, we live too far apart. What a shame!" I never know why men do this. Is it arrogance or simply being dim? I also never know what to think of it. Get PO or find it hilarious. I lean towards the first because well... I am a Taurus hihi, and I do find it presumptuous. Now it this happened with great guys... but it's always men I wouldn't even want if they were the last specimen with a penis on the planet, lol. You girls have this happen as well? It happen to me too I met someone I truly love on here and he turn and down and said we’re too far away from each I sad  but I have to let him go So painful since then i haven’t seen any serious man on here |
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It happen to me too I met someone I truly love
 on here but he turn me down and said we’re too far away from each other I was sad but I have to let him go So sad  since then i haven’t see. Any serious man on here 🥹
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to add to GravelRidgeBoy's list of possible reasons.. perhaps he's simply inquiring as to what "passion" feels like at a later stage in a womans life.. seems to me, now that I've re-read it, that he's asking if women older than 54 are AS passionate as a 54 yr old is, and MAYBE he'd be interested in dating even older women IF they are.. to answer that.. they don't call us COUGARS for NUTTIN  unlike men.. we don't need a lil blue pill to start the engines   Finally u read it from my perspective rather than just judging me for my choice of words which everyone else is doing. As Crystal said.. no one judged you.. per se.. but your choice of words did cause initial shock and confusion.. I did have to re-read it a few times to totally get where I finally got.. so perhaps choosing your words more carefully would be a good place to start when joining a conversation with, as Crystal put it, strangers.. now Crystal, I get why you are miffed by his query but seriously.. we are all adults here (as you stated) and even tho he asked with a bit of brashness / tactlessness.. it is a valid question from a younger person to an older woman.. how else would he find the answer..? on this, we will have to agree to disagree.. sorry my dear, but the internet does embolden people to ask what normally they wouldn't in public.. just sayin... |
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unlike men.. we don't need a lil blue pill to start the engines 
Indeed we don't but... we do need good levels of oestrogen in order to be sexual. As women become post-menopausal the levels drop and are basically zilch. Also, our testosterone drops which can also have a serious effect on our sexdrive. You can remedy that by using HRT. Aside from all that our sexdrive (and oestrogen levels) for a very big part depend on the man: We need to feel (emotionally) safe, we need to trust the man and know, sense, feel that he's there reliable. This goes for any woman, regardless of age. That's why casual sex doesn't work for core feminine women --> the safety, trust etc. isn't there. Without that it's very very difficult to surrender and let go. We have to be extremely vulnerable to open up -figuratively & literally- to allow a man to penetrate us -again also figuratively & literally. on this, I beg to differ, at least in my case.. my sex drive has increased with age.. perhaps because I've enjoyed it more later in life? Admittedly I have not been active since 2009 so maybe it's all just stockpiled
I have had the experience that it can 'stockpile' hahaha. As for the rest, there's no one size fits all. It's a very individual thing. And could also be that you're quite high in testosterone with all the work you do in and around the house as that's kind of like resistance training. And resistance training ups testosterone, which is also related to sexdrive. For me, I noticed it go up a bit when I'd started HRT. I hadn't really noticed it had gotten less as for me it always tends to be somewhat lower when I'm single. It usually wakes up at full force when I have a partner so for me it's strongly related to my feelings for a man. I concur.. one size does not fit all.. every person IS different so no matter what research one does, the results don't apply to EVERYone.. you suggest that it's due to all the hands on labor I'm doing.. but I don't believe it is.. cuz I've been working with my hands for years and not felt like this ALL the time.. and I've been single for 17 yrs and not felt like this ALL the time either.. however there's been no male presence.. I have my own theories.. none of which I plan to share openly online tho
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I suppose we will have to agree to disagree.
His post doesn't belong in my thread as it doesn't tie in with my OP question. So first off he should've started his own topic for this. And he is asking TexasGal personally (????) about her sex life/sex drive, if she still has a wild person inside. That is rude, way out of line. How else could he find out? Eeehh... read a book maybe? Or use the internet to find the info. That's how I find out anything & everything I want to know. And if you do think it's okay to ask that online you can at least ask in a respectful way and keep it general, not single someone out. Also... he's not that young. He's 35... So yeah, we have different views on this. 
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Yep, Crystal is definitely in her masculine mode - she's gifting you flowers, Zee.
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 Finally u read it from my perspective rather than just judging me for my choice of words which everyone else is doing. I read it as the written equivalent of a DK PIC. |
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About 3 months ago I had a woman come view my profile (on another site). The picture of her gave off a bad vibe. Then about 10 days ago, she posted a new picture. This time it was done by a professional photographer. It gave me a completely different view and vibe of her. I sent her a message that her new picture was a great improvement. It was designed as a compliment.
Whenever a women contacts me and they live more then an hour away I always reply back that they live too far away. I like to give a response if the match is reasonable. I've had some inappropriate approaches, but I always find a way to end it gracefully. About 2 months ago I was sent a message by a woman who lived 5 hours away. She got the typical message that she lives too far away. She then asked we could just message each other as friends. I said yes. Over time I have warmed up to her, and learned that she understates her value. We are a pretty good match. So, I have agreed to visit her for a few days. You just never know. |
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to add to GravelRidgeBoy's list of possible reasons.. perhaps he's simply inquiring as to what "passion" feels like at a later stage in a womans life.. seems to me, now that I've re-read it, that he's asking if women older than 54 are AS passionate as a 54 yr old is, and MAYBE he'd be interested in dating even older women IF they are.. to answer that.. they don't call us COUGARS for NUTTIN  unlike men.. we don't need a lil blue pill to start the engines   Finally u read it from my perspective rather than just judging me for my choice of words which everyone else is doing. There is nothing wrong with your curiosity about what others thinks/feels. At times it is just a language barrier that is miss read... But I totally agree with Zee~~~ 
Heck I'm 67, and still get turned on.... when I see a nice looking man ya can bet your azz I'm going to look..
Humm responding to Chyrstal's comment about women's sex drive, I have to agree with Zee. I've never had any issue in that area when with someone. When I find the right man, with the right touch lets just say sparks fly
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ooh.. I get it.. Combustable TxsGal
I resemble that remark
when I see a good looking man I tend to  then trip over my own feet and fall down 
yup.. a real clown act
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Edited by
OldCoot
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Sat 02/21/26 06:08 PM
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ooh.. I get it.. Combustable TxsGal
I resemble that remark
when I see a good looking man I tend to then trip over my own feet and fall down
yup.. a real clown act
Oh, the subtle seduction, eh? Hottie man appears. Woman falls down, legs & skirt akimbo. Gentleman (it's a test) does what? Why, he offers to help her up and dust the dirt off her "clothing", yeah?
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Hi: I do have difficulty on other dating sites. We get a conversation going for a few days. Then they ask for phone numbers. I don't feel comfortable giving out my number only after a few days. One even insisted, saying, But I asked you for the number first. As you can guess the virtural date is gone. Again.
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Hi: I do have difficulty on other dating sites. We get a conversation going for a few days. Then they ask for phone numbers. I don't feel comfortable giving out my number only after a few days. One even insisted, saying, But I asked you for the number first. As you can guess the virtural date is gone. Again. Hi  Carla, welcome to M2 and the forums..
typically when they ask for a phone number, they are usually scammers.. OR if they want you to chat on a different app, same.. it's good you don't feel comfortable giving your number out.. anywho, good luck in your quest
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Do more women have this happen quite regularly? Men sending you a message that they like your profile or photo or something and then they continue to tell you it can't go anywhere because we live too far apart or some other reason. That always has me thinking, mate, we have never even exchanged a single word, yet you assume that we potentially have something going because you have an interest in me????? How bout sending a message like, "I really like you/am interested but dammit, we live too far apart. What a shame!" I never know why men do this. Is it arrogance or simply being dim? I also never know what to think of it. Get PO or find it hilarious. I lean towards the first because well... I am a Taurus hihi, and I do find it presumptuous. Now it this happened with great guys... but it's always men I wouldn't even want if they were the last specimen with a penis on the planet, lol. You girls have this happen as well? I guess this maybe some guys tactical approach, in the hope, that in stating you live too far away, results in a reply saying no, distance doesn't matter. Receiving a positive reply. |
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Hi: I do have difficulty on other dating sites. We get a conversation going for a few days. Then they ask for phone numbers. I don't feel comfortable giving out my number only after a few days. One even insisted, saying, But I asked you for the number first. As you can guess the virtural date is gone. Again. That's not so bad. Men often just do whatever, don't think that for a woman such things might be different. It could be him showing genuine interest in you and then you blow him off. A few days of chatting is quite something, depending on the quality of the chat of course. If you could deal with it in a bit of a playful way, a feminine way, things might actually work out. For instance something like, "I'd like to hear your voice too, but it's a bit too fast for me. Is it okay we keep talking here for a while longer? I'll let you know when I'm ready." Or something like that. With such a message you let a guy know that you are interested as well but that he's moving just a bit to fast for you to feel safe. And it conveys your boundaries. Women often are so quick to go cold when a man shows interest. Men can be insecure just the same in matters of love! A quality guy will respect your boundaries and wishes, might even become more interested in you when you express them. Certainly when you do it in a playful way. Still firm, but playful, so it's not like throwing a door shut in his face. A w@nker will likely start nagging or be gone. Use your discernment and intuition. But remember general rule of thumb: Men can want & suggest, woman decides and sets her boundaries. |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Mon 02/23/26 02:44 AM
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To add to what I posted above ^^^...
There's nothing wrong with talking on the phone. It is actually recommended, not right away, but after a few chats, why not? Provided these chats had substance, weren't a few lines of course. Reason being that it's important to find out if you A) like his voice and B) if he / the 2 of you can keep a good 'live' conversation going. I once was totally put off by a guy's voice while chatting had been great! But his voice was god awful. Highpitched, unbearable. I knew right away that it was never going to work out. I can't listen to a screechy voice on a daily basis. Saves you time to find out reasonably early! Another time on the phone with another man my spine melted in a puddle on the floor as his voice was so wonderful. He was equally mesmerised by my voice, hihi. We got into a relationship. Get a prepaid SIM card with a different phone number that you can use for these conversations. I've done that. That way you never have to give out your regular phone number. |
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OK, since there is such a collective of smart women in this thread...What would be the right thing for a guy to say that wants to tell you something but does not want you to think he is interested in you. Help us dumb guys out here with the magic words that make everything right...lol
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OK, since there is such a collective of smart women in this thread...What would be the right thing for a guy to say that wants to tell you something but does not want you to think he is interested in you. Help us dumb guys out here with the magic words that make everything right...lol be truthful... there, I said it, simple huh lol might I suggest telling her something akin to.. "As a friend I feel you need to know something...but I don't want you to misunderstand (or 'misinterpret) my intentions.. blah blah " hope that helps.. good luck! |
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