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My ex was married and divorced 3 times before me. We were not married long. He wanted a divorce and then married soon again. So his fifth marriage. He seems like a needy person. Some are serial-relationship-hoppers. My last partner was like that too. After his divorce -then 12 years ago- he'd had 5 relationships. Not real relationship, more 'situationships'. Because of how it felt between us I was certain it'd be different with us. But nope... And after me he moved on with another woman, nr 6 or 7. Eventually he did move in with her. I do recall him telling me very early on he still loved his ex wife and that would never change. I should've bailed right there and then. I have learnt from it, I will never get involved with a bloke who's had umpteen relationships. It's a clear sign, a huge red flag, screaming he's not ready for a real commitment. I think such men bugger off as soon as the woman wants more than he can or is willing to give. And/or when she begins to notice & sense he's not really the team-player he should be but only superficially committed. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 01/15/25 12:16 PM
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Many Men have a problem with being committed to One Woman so they move on to another woman often, to who will have them. A good Counselor will tell the truth when it is the Man's fault. I know a family Counselor who told me some thing true about my Ex before he had all the information from me. He does not always side with Women! |
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Then that would be an opinion! Now I'll offer one of my own: Women are often the patrons of marriage counselling - whether she goes herself, or forces her ol man to go "fix their marriage" Marriage counsellors are aware of this, so they are taught to side with the women that they council... if they want to keep their money flow. If the therapist takes the man's side, the women tend to just find another counsellor until they side with her. Just dollars and sense 
This "info" is also from a marriage counsellor. Accountability is a woman's kryptonite I wonder why you're even on a dating site? You're so incredibly anti-woman and seem stuck in feeling sorry for men (yourself?), always taking men's side even if they're painstakingly wrong. Men should become accountable for their own shortcomings and stop pointing fingers. If they did, maybe there'd be less singles looking for love. Not saying women are always right, but neither are men. To go on and on blaming one gender is like driving on the motorway with a blindfold on and then blaming other drivers when you end up crashing your car. I agree  and that’s my opinion.
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Edited by
bobtail76
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Wed 01/15/25 05:07 PM
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Then that would be an opinion! Now I'll offer one of my own: Women are often the patrons of marriage counselling - whether she goes herself, or forces her ol man to go "fix their marriage" Marriage counsellors are aware of this, so they are taught to side with the women that they council... if they want to keep their money flow. If the therapist takes the man's side, the women tend to just find another counsellor until they side with her. Just dollars and sense
This "info" is also from a marriage counsellor. Accountability is a woman's kryptonite I wonder why you're even on a dating site? You're so incredibly anti-woman and seem stuck in feeling sorry for men (yourself?), always taking men's side even if they're painstakingly wrong. Men should become accountable for their own shortcomings and stop pointing fingers. If they did, maybe there'd be less singles looking for love. Not saying women are always right, but neither are men. To go on and on blaming one gender is like driving on the motorway with a blindfold on and then blaming other drivers when you end up crashing your car. You got me all wrong, Crystal! I LOVE women!! If you noticed... anytime a woman focuses on tearing down a man, I retaliate. And I don't do it with flippant opinions, I back it up with facts and statistics to put them in their place. As far as feeling sorry for myself, nuh uh!!! I'm actually in a really good spot and feel very blessed. I never said men are saints. I know a lot of shltty men. Men I have to let know that I won't put up with their shlt either, I do that in a different way. But you see what you did there...."Men should become accountable for their own shortcomings and stop pointing fingers." Hypocritical much?? You took a shot at men...I won't bother ripping into that because you just made my point - which is what I defend. 
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https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-men-are-walking-away-from-marriage-and-not-looking-back/
The Risk is not worth reward. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Fri 01/17/25 06:51 AM
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https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/
A good husband should be able to support his family. Marriages breaks up more over money/finances than infidelity. |
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/loves-evolver/202401/the-truth-about-infidelity-insights-from-94943-individuals?msockid=087e523020326cab0c48469021536d69
Men are more likely to cheat. This is in" Marriage" relationships not reference to any kind of Dating relationships. |
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This is an online survey that doesn't even corroborate your statement...
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Mon 01/20/25 02:29 PM
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https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/types-of-men-most-likely-to-have-affairs |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Mon 01/20/25 02:39 PM
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Men seeking Marriage
https://www.yourtango.com/love/things-men-notice-person-going-to-marry |
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I know of no men actively seeking a marriage ... but I do know a few seeking a relationship....and that is good enough for me .
At my age I can just about commit to a two year contract for my Mobile phone..... so yeah !!! A contract kinda relationship may suit me .... but haven't found and women who would like to give that a spin ..... |
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