finding a partner is something which is hard, finding someone who is compatible with your values, interests and goals can be challenging.

Is challenging if your looking for the "ideal" man that doesn't exist. With each of us we have flaws, some small some big. Its accepting our flaws as a companion and working on them that makes a relationship.

I agree with Mr Single1977...

It's more a case of finding mr/miss nearly right, rather than mr/miss right, and working together with each other to address our shortcomings and building something worth having, together...

thank you all

I'd like to view relationships as a compromise to ones way of life. After all no two people will ever be perfectly compatible, we're all unique.

Finding the unicorn is a fool's errand, in my opinion.

What can and can't you put up with and are those things really that bad when you think about it?

I think it is also healthy to rid oneself of the boundaries we confine ourselves within while also taking risks even if we've had our hearts broken before.

Everyone is bound to bump into a few bad eggs before we find one of good enough quality, but we have to make sure not to be too quick to discard the bad eggs that we accidentally discard the good ones in the process.

Cheers and good luck!

I also agree with -> single1977

We are deeply flawed in some/more ways than others. I think it’s about acceptance.
I choose to accept what I can work with or around. The rest is wishful thinking!

I agree

Dating sites are not perfect places to find a partner. but they do help you filter out possible love interests because you can get to know something about them before you arrange a meeting in the real world. Meeting up as soon as possible after you feel comfortable about it, is the only real way to know if you both want to date each other in my opinion. Good luck in your search.

You’re right 🥰

I’m just now getting back into the dating scene, I got out of a 5yr relationship a year ago. This last year I was interested in running out to meet or hook up with someone. That’s for a few reasons one mostly because I loved the female I spent the last 5yrs with and for some reason it felt wrong speaking to another female. The other reason was I used this past year to better myself in a lot of ways.
Just speaking for myself and what I’ve learned in the relationship and being by myself for the past year is both individuals need to be authentic to themselves and both individuals need to respect each other for being authentic no both individuals will not always agree on hundred percent of everything or believe 100% of everything I’ve noticed and learned that trust is a huge thing in a relationship between two people and also loyalty. Seems like a lot of people are quick to look for the so-called attractive people and if you stop and think your building your foundation on only looks after a while then looks become boring and now what do you have?
For me, I’m looking for somebody that’s authentic. They don’t have to agree with 100% of everything I do or believe in and that’s vice versa.. Sometimes people just outgrow each other and that’s OK. What I’ve noticed in 2024 to the Internet and all these dating sites and apps and filters really people are approaching the situation not being 100% authentic because behind the screen you can be whatever you want but when it comes down to meeting that’s when the truth comes out and again I’m just speaking for myself. I’ve dealt with a lot of trust issues in my life and it’s hard for me to even be on these type of sites and take them seriously because like I’ve said people can be whatever they want behind the screen, but if you’re honest, it makes a lot of things simpler. It’s just my perspective and how I may see things but what you call a real person, male or female depends on different factors. I called myself a rare breed because from the second I meet somebody if it may be a potential partner or just a friend I am 100% honest from the jump and that’s only because through the lessons in life. I’ve learned that honesty is your number one tool and life because then you have nothing to worry about I’m a type of individual that respects peoples opinions but at the same time I don’t dictate my life over that opinion it’s just an opinion . Respectfully, I don’t apologize for me being me. I’ve had people in my life told me that sometimes I’m too real.

Just like I said in my bio on my profile, I’m not on here looking for a soulmate. I just got out of relationship but at the same time I am a grown man that does have needs not saying that sex is the only thing I’m looking for but at the same time, I’m not looking for a real relationship right now if things happen to click and I vibe with somebody, it may be a possibility, but I’m not betting on a website to find, my soulmate, if anything I can find a cool female with benefits . Through my lessons in life and past relationships and me learning about me through my journey, I’ve come to understand what sexual energy is all of us humans have sexual energy. There’s a lot of sexual energy. Let’s be honest guys 90% of us are quick to try to do it like a rabbit just to get our orgasm and that’s it. But then there’s guys like myself that see sexual encounter for something different and when I talk about sexual energy, there’s layers to it and the experience can go for an hour or multiple hours, not 5 to 15 minutes and then we both get dressed. I’ve tend to laugh at the alpha guys and I’ll be the first I’m not like that, I’m a sigma male.

When you’re in tune with yourself and you are truly authentic, you have no problem meeting the real ones and I only say that because we are a mirror to others so if we come across a lot of people in our life that tend to be fake sometimes that leads to, and trying to hint that we are not real about ourselves I am very picky. I give energy because my energy is very valuable. I’m not saying that to be stuck up or conceited. I’m just being honest a lot of times we tend to waste our energy with people that don’t deserve it or we feel that maybe we can fix them let’s be honest we are not cars , we are humans so you cannot fix somebody . But you can support somebody or outgrow them.
If you’re going to set your standards high, you need to stand on them and not lower them for nobody because the second you lower your standards or what you are looking for you will never reach the goal you want. That’s why I am honest on here speaking on what I’m looking for. Because it would bother me to mislead somebody and have them believe that I’m looking for something I’m not just to get something I want instead I’d rather be honest and being honest and patience. Will then bless me with an individual that is on the same page. I am, but I’ll be honest. I’m extremely nervous And very protective because I’ve been with the same person for years and when we broke up, I still didn’t sleep around or go out looking for somebody because again I truly love them moment when I realized that there’s no longer us and I’m OK with that and so is she and I wish her the best in life but it’s time for me to move on That’s why I’m here looking for that mature adult female that’s on the same page. I am.

I see real everywhere because people are real and always all around us loving one another.

dear hope all are doing well. here i am there for makeing friendship with true heart. but getting a woman who can be carrying with love important. if any such for long term relationship ping me inn