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Topic: Why do so many people...
Larsson71 Joined Sun 03/08/20 Posts: 1061	Sat 02/10/24 12:55 PM
If I sign up for free, and 63 people "like" me in the first 12 hours, but I have to PAY on a FREE site to see who they even are, I'm not thrilled. In fact, I'm LESS than thrilled, I'm PISSED. Because I was LIED TO! The ads ALL say completely FREE. It's a flat out lie, so if the site is lying to us, why would the users be any different? I've scanned through all the guys within my qualifications within 100 miles and there's nothing I'm interested in. Should I drop another chunk of change and keep checking back daily or what? I'm NOT desperate. and I definitely am not looking for a hook up. No reason to stick around if there's nothing I want. They only tell you it's free, to reel you in and have you register on here. They then spring it on you that it's not actually free and if you want to use the site fully, then you have to pay for it. They're hoping because you're now registered, that you'll be prepared to pay now. I agree that it's false advertising in what they claim, that the site is actually totally free. I could pay myself for full use of this site, but why should I, when all I get messages from is people in Africa, Asia, etc and I'm in the UK. Plus it's obvious that most of those profiles are fake also.

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Sat 02/10/24 08:08 PM
If I sign up for free, and 63 people "like" me in the first 12 hours, but I have to PAY on a FREE site to see who they even are, I'm not thrilled. In fact, I'm LESS than thrilled, I'm PISSED. Because I was LIED TO! The ads ALL say completely FREE. It's a flat out lie, so if the site is lying to us, why would the users be any different? I've scanned through all the guys within my qualifications within 100 miles and there's nothing I'm interested in. Should I drop another chunk of change and keep checking back daily or what? I'm NOT desperate. and I definitely am not looking for a hook up. No reason to stick around if there's nothing I want. Most sites that say they are free, are referring to membership, at least that's what I've discovered, and on nearly all of them you have to pay for the extra/premium features, like being able to see who liked you... As for coughing up your hard earned cheddar, I think it's only natural to ask others who have been there a while, before parting with the readies... Anyway, good luck in finding what you seek 🤞

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4976	Sun 02/11/24 01:57 AM Edited by Duttoneer on Sun 02/11/24 02:05 AM
If I sign up for free, and 63 people "like" me in the first 12 hours, but I have to PAY on a FREE site to see who they even are, I'm not thrilled. In fact, I'm LESS than thrilled, I'm PISSED. Because I was LIED TO! The ads ALL say completely FREE. It's a flat out lie, so if the site is lying to us, why would the users be any different? I've scanned through all the guys within my qualifications within 100 miles and there's nothing I'm interested in. Should I drop another chunk of change and keep checking back daily or what? I'm NOT desperate. and I definitely am not looking for a hook up. No reason to stick around if there's nothing I want. You don't like the forums then? This is a social site as well as a dating site. Good luck with your search wherever that maybe. More on topic I would say. People leave dating sites for all sorts of reasons. Mingle2 is free to join and to contact members, has lots of Forums to participate in, what's not to like.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Tue 02/13/24 01:47 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Tue 02/13/24 01:50 PM
What do you think we could improve as a community? Delete most all the forums.

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Wed 02/14/24 11:55 AM
What do you think we could improve as a community? Delete most all the forums. Ohhh I don't think that would be a positive move, besides how would we communicate or discover a person's personality for ourselves rather just reading the bumf everyone writes... Maybe the forums could be trimmed and threads older than maybe 12 months could be deleted, so you don't respond to a thread that is years old

Susan Ore Joined Mon 02/12/24 Posts: 3	Wed 02/14/24 12:04 PM
From my point of view , i think the scammers are too much on the female side making it a bit of a problem for most of introverts like me

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Wed 02/14/24 03:41 PM
From my point of view , i think the scammers are too much on the female side making it a bit of a problem for most of introverts like me Mmmm, you know I don't even know if it's mostly female scammers, I mean they could be men pretending to be women.... But yes, we could all do without them, so we could all get on with knowing more about each other... You're not an introvert are you? I thought you were a police woman I'm an introvert too, pretending / wishing to be an extrovert

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Wed 02/14/24 03:56 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 02/14/24 03:59 PM
What do you think we could improve as a community? Delete most all the forums. Ohhh I don't think that would be a positive move, besides how would we communicate or discover a person's personality for ourselves rather just reading the bumf everyone writes... Maybe the forums could be trimmed and threads older than maybe 12 months could be deleted, so you don't respond to a thread that is years old I said Most all forums. Most good Paid dating sites have No forums to communicate but rather just by Personal messages. I prefer that.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4976	Thu 02/15/24 12:02 AM
Delete some forums???

Ron Joined Mon 04/10/23 Posts: 19	Thu 02/15/24 12:40 AM
I agree! ~Ron

Anto Joined Fri 01/19/24 Posts: 10	Thu 02/15/24 02:10 AM
maybe we should all be vetted , as genuine seekers of love and romance , before being allowed to join this site... I am sure 90% of users leave cause 98% are scammers and only on here for their own benefits ... 0 Personally , i still seek that one solid connection .... but the ones of double interest live very far away , hence I play games on the forums with them .... just hoping for a spark , that will cause me to journey to distant lands .... and explore ca relationship ...... I concur we should be vetted...yes we are also getting friendships here and I appreciate as well

Anto Joined Fri 01/19/24 Posts: 10	Thu 02/15/24 02:12 AM
Mmmm, you know I don't even know if it's mostly female scammers, I mean they could be men pretending to be women.... But yes, we could all do without them, so we could all get on with knowing more about each other... You're not an introvert are you? I thought you were a police woman I'm an introvert too, pretending / wishing to be an extrovert 🤣

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Thu 02/15/24 03:53 PM
I agree! ~Ron Hiya Ron, I hear ya, it's like an uphill struggle, or even like 2 steps forward and a step back, at times... But what's the alternative? So we moan n vent a bit, Then rebuild our hopes up and try again... The other option being to throw the towel in and resign ourselves to a single life...

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Thu 02/15/24 03:58 PM
maybe we should all be vetted , as genuine seekers of love and romance , before being allowed to join this site... I am sure 90% of users leave cause 98% are scammers and only on here for their own benefits ... 0 Personally , i still seek that one solid connection .... but the ones of double interest live very far away , hence I play games on the forums with them .... just hoping for a spark , that will cause me to journey to distant lands .... and explore ca relationship ...... I concur we should be vetted...yes we are also getting friendships here and I appreciate as well Sounds good to me, and I'd like to offer my vetting services to everyone lol, for a nominal charge of tea n biscuits or cake (must be yummy cake!, not like medicine )...

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Thu 02/15/24 04:05 PM
Mmmm, you know I don't even know if it's mostly female scammers, I mean they could be men pretending to be women.... But yes, we could all do without them, so we could all get on with knowing more about each other... You're not an introvert are you? I thought you were a police woman I'm an introvert too, pretending / wishing to be an extrovert 🤣 What Anton? I thought the lady was a teacher and police woman because of the second photo in that smart blue shirt... I am an Introvert lol, always shy and couldn't mix with other kids at school, even growing up into adolescence... But one day I woke up and thought... I'd love to be more outgoing and try to be like everyone else (the norm, so we're told) and so I try to step out of my comfort zone so as to cross that first barrier of not being able to make friends...

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Mon 02/26/24 01:48 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 02/26/24 02:02 PM
"FREE " key word. Nothing is really Free. Someone is paying for it. fyi response to a woman's post she get deleted !?

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Wed 02/28/24 02:03 AM
"FREE " key word. Nothing is really Free. Someone is paying for it. fyi response to a woman's post she get deleted !? Not guilty your honour On a serious note, I don't think there's any deleted members on this thread, it looks like they're all active...

Lizzie Sakala Joined Sun 02/25/24 Posts: 1	Thu 02/29/24 01:40 PM
I Think They Have No Patience And Many Of Them Are Scammers With Fack Profiles, As For Me, This Is A Perfect Platform The Only I Have Seen Is That The's Alot Of Teenagers And Few Elderly Men Here, But All The Same It's Fine, God's Time Is The Best, Thanks.

Unknow Joined Sat 07/10/21 Posts: 54502	Thu 02/29/24 10:15 PM
Still site shows more then required register users.. an ranks internet gossip

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2483	Wed 03/20/24 05:42 PM
Many people, still online and members, live with someone they met here on Mingle, others even got married... I'm sure there's real genuine people on here, but it's just hard work weeding out the real ones from the chaff...