Why girls always go after palyboys or bad guys

AC - Instead of judging why don't you look in yourself and find out where you lacking in..

Become one so you don't miss out

When did asking a question become the same as judging?
Instead of judging him you could've tried to answer the Q.

Players are attractive because they are confident and confidence in itself is attractive.

They exude a sexual energy and are better in bed than 'nice' guys because they've had more experience (more women). Also because they're confident which helps in intimate situations.

They have this charm, charisma, sense of adventure and something wild.
That too is attractive.

In a way it's our hormones that make us react that way to a player so easily. In a way women are looking for an Alpha male and a player appears to be that, even though he isn't.

All this is why self-confidence and healthy self-esteem are important. That goes for both genders.
Basically who you attract is a mirror of your own self. Once you know that you can use the knowledge to work on the issues that are mirrored.
Free therapy :)

That's right!

Oh, now we have to appear for exams here..

This is perhaps a preference of a character trait and shouldn't be generalised based on your experience/ personal observation.

I personally, don't care for "bad" anything. My experience with so called playboys is that they often are overcompensating because of something they lack in another area of their lives. But again, that's my personal experience and it cannot be said for all.

AC... B4 that RFR

Merry and crystal said it best.

My problem is I attract players and bad boys.

For me, it's 100% confidence and I love an outgoing guy...but I have no idea why I do it. Maybe it's the thrill of the chase. Give me a good guy, I'll turn him away everytime.

It's what I want over what I need.

Because they are Alfa and you are Beta.

It can be done, but might be a difficult pattern to break.
Basically it's what your brain does to you, the hormones it creates.
When a the man is there for you and treats you like a goddess, you get these wonderful happy hormones.
When he is gone, doesn't give you what a partner should, flirts with others, doesn't answer the phone and so on, your brain produces other hormones, unhappy ones so to speak.
Then he shows up again, and you get a high of happy hormones after a low and so on and so forth.

This one guy compared it to driving past a McDonalds:
When you see the M your mouth waters and you want it! (The player).
But are you going to do it? No, because you know it's not healthy and will make you fat.
So you go for the regular greens (good guy) that don't seem half as nice as the McDonalds but you eat them anyways as these ARE healthy and good for you (still the good guy).
And then you discover that those greens are actually really tasty and great!

It's the same thing. Come across a player, think of the M and decide to not eat it.

And remember, a good guy is NOT the same as a boring man who has nothing going for himself. That is another trap.
The difference between a good guy and a player are mostly that the player is emotionally unavailable, the good guy is. He wants a relationship and a commitment.
This also means a good guy can be a bit nervous at first etc. But a good guy is not a boring guy.
Boring guys may not be players, but they're also not healthy, like the McDonalds man, haha.

And pay attention to what he does and says. A good guy will do things for you that make you happy, a player won't as he doesn't really give a toss. He'll simply move to the next if you dump him.
So does he do things for you, make an effort for you, is he consistent (keeping promises and sticking to dates etc.), and so on.

Playboys are usually narcissists.

Crystal and Merry, don't speak for me.

They can be but not necessarily so.
Narcissism is a personality disorder. Such a shame most people don't understand the ins and outs of that and use it the wrong way.
A shame for the ones that have been/are victim of one as it is difficult enough as it is to get people to understand what kind of hell you went through/are going through.
These days narcissism is being generalised and used to mean "selfish" which is nowhere near narcissism.

I've been with one man for a lifetime. 100% He was what I wanted and not what I needed and now I have no idea what a normal relationship looks like. I appreciate your advice, it does make sense. I'm going to meet someone organicly when I'm 100% someday.

What you need is more important than what you want as what you want might not be what you need. Want comes from the thinking mind that thinks to know what is right for you which isn't always correct.

In any case, you do have an idea since you had a good long-term relationship. So you have a very good example. In that sense you have an advantage by the time you're ready to go dating as many of us do not have such an example at all.
Entering the dating scene might be new and leave you with a sense of not knowing how and what to do. But that is normal when you've been in a long-term relationship.

I have found girls like Playboy for the articles, and boys like Playboy for the pictures.

hii