It can be done, but might be a difficult pattern to break.
Basically it's what your brain does to you, the hormones it creates.
When a the man is there for you and treats you like a goddess, you get these wonderful happy hormones.
When he is gone, doesn't give you what a partner should, flirts with others, doesn't answer the phone and so on, your brain produces other hormones, unhappy ones so to speak.
Then he shows up again, and you get a high of happy hormones after a low and so on and so forth.

This one guy compared it to driving past a McDonalds:
When you see the M your mouth waters and you want it! (The player).
But are you going to do it? No, because you know it's not healthy and will make you fat.
So you go for the regular greens (good guy) that don't seem half as nice as the McDonalds but you eat them anyways as these ARE healthy and good for you (still the good guy).
And then you discover that those greens are actually really tasty and great!

It's the same thing. Come across a player, think of the M and decide to not eat it.

And remember, a good guy is NOT the same as a boring man who has nothing going for himself. That is another trap.
The difference between a good guy and a player are mostly that the player is emotionally unavailable, the good guy is. He wants a relationship and a commitment.
This also means a good guy can be a bit nervous at first etc. But a good guy is not a boring guy.
Boring guys may not be players, but they're also not healthy, like the McDonalds man, haha.

And pay attention to what he does and says. A good guy will do things for you that make you happy, a player won't as he doesn't really give a toss. He'll simply move to the next if you dump him.
So does he do things for you, make an effort for you, is he consistent (keeping promises and sticking to dates etc.), and so on.

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