We split up about a year and a half ago!! I was so devastated cause I never expected it, I’m 55 years old and I never thought that I would have to start over at my age!! I was never told why or what happened and she blocked me on everything!!! We were best friends at least I thought we were !!! I guess she thought the grass was greener in someone else’s field!! She hasn’t found anyone yet but she’s been on plenty of dates !! I just don’t get what changed her mind after 24 years together!!! I would do anything to get back together with her!! As for myself I haven’t dated anyone in all that time cause I know how hard it would be to find someone like her !! Also when I was asked to leave our house two days before Christmas!!! Do you think she was cheating on me ?? The scary part is it took her no time to go out and date after I left !! All I ask is it worth pursuing her or just move on like she did, and is there any chance she will realize what she’s done and try and get back together!!! If anyone has advice for me I surly would appreciate it !! And maybe some help in trying to get her back !!!

It can be hard to let go of the past , but sometimes you just got to move on and accept it . No one knows your situation or what is going through your exes head . Have you ever say down and spoken with her about it ?if you haven’t then maybe you you should and at least you will know where her head is at . And if it’s not with you then at least you know you have to move on . If you been Separated for year and half , there’s a good chance in her head it’s definitely over , though sometimes people do get back together years later .

Is there something you are not sharing Gunga … It is a little odd that it has been a year and a half and you still don’t know the reason for the breakup or why she has blocked you . Even more so that you just relinquished the family home without knowing why . That especially does not make much sense . Suggest you speak to her through a lawyer if necessary. Best of luck

Guys gotta be trolling. If not he should be more worried about finding where he left his balls than winning her back. After all he said he went through and asking how to win her back? I hope there's not guys like that out there. If she did come back it wouldn't be with any respect for you.

Why would you want to get back together with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? You need to work on your self worth first and foremost. Whatever baggage you gained within the relationship will still be there if you went back. Emotional baggage weighs you down so it’s time to let her go and move on to the next chapter of your life.

If you want to be a new, different person then don't go looking for it in your past. You weren’t the person you wanted to be back then and won’t be that person now if you start living in your past.

Let her go and move on with your life, she clearly doesn't want you, like you said "grass is greener elsewhere". I know it is very hard but time will heal everything, find nice good friends and spend time with positive people. Look at some spiritual videos on youtube keep yourself occupied for a while, all will be ok. Remember bad time is not forever, I think she is not worth it if she doesn't recognize how important and loving you are.

Sounds like a LOT is missing from your story. How could you not have any idea there were problems in the relationship after 24 years of living together? And she just upped and asked you to leave, and you left without asking any questions? How do you know she hasn't found anyone yet, or that she's been on a lot of dates? Are you stalking her?

All in all, you need to move on. If she's blocked you from everything, that's like writing a message on the sky in bold, capital print. There shouldn't be any doubt about what her intention is. She's moved on, and it sounds like she has no intention of looking in your direction again. She deserves to choose her own idea of happiness, (which is obviously not you), even if you disagree with her.

Best of luck!

Indeed sounds like you're leaving a lot out of the story. Someone doesn't break up with a partner for no reason at all.
Which means if you take time to think and look back at how things were, possibly things she told you a gazillion times that you didn't take serious etc. etc. you will get clear why she wanted to break up.

Leave her alone, get over it, move on.
It's pretty clear she doesn't want you back. And from the way she was behaving I think she has good reason. For instance, women don't block you everywhere for nothing...

Oh as for her dating a lot... I think often people do that when they feel they've missed out on a lot for a long time.

Focus on your own future and move on.
Good luck

Period, end of story right there.

Girls are wired differently bro, they have everything planned before they leave you, as you clearly saw in your case, do yourself a favor and move on ;)

55, never expected anything, came home from work, supper cooked but in fridge, but she took everything, basically cleaned me out was together over 18 years. she cut phone off, and blocked me on social media, and moved 900 miles away. yes I am devastated, hapened 8 days ago, went on 1 date since, but woman cant deal emotionally, hers happened after 38 years of marriage, she isnt ready to meet or really date, she did me since known me over 40 years, but just friendship, otherwise I wouldnt be here, so I am here looking.

yes I loved her, but when she cleaned out bank accounts, and she took my beloved cat of 12 years, my love turned to hate, I will not sit and feel sorry for myself, I treated her great.

I just refused to buy her Liberal daughter that wants everything handed to her a free house, she wants out from her BF, I offered to rent apartment, but NO! the only acceptable answer was for me to go in debt to buy a home & give it to her, so now thats what my ex will do, unfortunately she is 67, will have to work probably rest of life, moved to a major city which she hates big cities, loves rural life, was planning to retire before Holidays, now have to work to buy home, to give to someone too lazy to work to earn it.

You broke up only 8 days ago? Are you emotionally ready to start dating so soon?

You need to take time to heal, grieve for the loss of your relationship and reflect. Dating so soon after a breakup because you’re lonely or trying to fill the void is not a great foundation for the start of a new relationship. Even brief flings can be emotionally complicated, and if you’re still reeling from your breakup, you might not want to bring even more difficult feelings into the mix.

am I ready, close enough if had just done a normal break up, I am sure I would grieve, however when it happened this way, my lifestyle kicked in, and I turned cold, & I will be forever cold. I will not be a victim, I will move on as soon as I find a sincere classy LADY! with a great heart, and 1950's attitude with a proper mouth, I despise women that are vulgar all the time, wouldnt even consider dating, & I have too many co-worker females exactly as described, only 1 isnt, but she wont date me, narcissist husband of 38 years cheated on and beat her, and left her 2 years ago, been friends 40 years, but just speak on phone occasionally, but nope she doesnt want to ever date again, live her life alone. so after I talked to her, I joined here.

Why would you even want her back after being ran through like the Holland tunnel. Grow some balls and keep it moving. Enjoy your life, do the things you enjoy doing.

No reason for you to be dating yet dude, sounds like you've got some issues to work out first. Being single ain't so bad, enjoy being able to leave the toilet seat for awhile before jumping into something else. Seems like you're looking for free therapy, but we're not therapists. Beefy of luck. Welcome to Mingle2

my ex always raised toilet seat when done, prefered that to risking a dribble and me wiping it with toilet paper, as she would want to spray it to wipe it.

as for me rushing, I am a Biker, I once chased women, stopped 2 times, each time I found right person, first I got married, then second I just lost, this lasted 18+ years, but I live by code I can be best friend or worst enemy, you make decision, I will roll with it, so when crossed me that bad, I went cold, killed my love, so yes I am able to move on, if had wanted time, space, or a normal light breakup, I wouldnt he here, & I can say I never cheated on her or tried to look for another woman, until she left me. cross any real old school Biker, see how long they wait,

friend he loved his wife, my ex & her was going to go to walmart few years ago, ex had runs, declined, his wife was involved head on collision, killed, my ex would probably be dead if had rode and not been sick, guess what 3 months later he was married, spoke to him this week, I am around lots of Bikers & "CLUB" members although I am not a member, just always been the crowd I been around, & was raised by a Biker

My X and I split up after 25 years and yes, it only took 8 months from the time I noticed a change till I'd had enough.
But just as it takes two to make a marriage, it takes two to break a marriage.
That was over 10 years ago.

Hind-sight really is 20/20. Looking back, I realize I contributed to the problems which broke us. Neither one of us were totally in the wrong and neither of us were totally in the right either.

Honestly understanding what happened helped me be able to move on with my life. At first, I thought I would never find contentment again but as I came to terms with reality, I learned to control my own emotions and that allowed me to make better decisions.

It really doesn't matter why she did what she did or why she continues to do what she does. Our bond has been broken.

Its important to remember we all change over time.
Sometimes the change makes the bond stronger but sometimes the change weakens the bond.
When the change weakens the bond to a certain point, there's no recovery possible.

Consider living in the moment.
Take stock of yourself as a person.
Surround yourself with things which make you, you.
Get rid of everything else.
Build yourself back up, focus on your needs and desires. Its okay.

In order to start a new relationship you must first purge yourself of the old one.
Adopt new habits and start doing new things which are for you, to make you a better you.
Take back your power over your own life. If she is constantly consuming your thoughts and decisions you are giving away your power to her or rather, your memory of her.
Try not to compare your life to what she would like. You are single now, start thinking and acting that way.

Look back on your life and heed the lessons you've learned but don't get lost in them. Gain wisdom from the experiences you have already had. Stop repeating past mistakes.
One definition of insanity is to repeat past mistakes expecting a different outcome.

When she has 2nd thoughts and wants to come 'home' realize that door is now locked and you deserve better. Betrayal can be forgiven but that doesn't mean its forgettable. It also doesn't mean you should open yourself to a replay at a later date.

She may have loved you in the past but she obviously no longer does. She may have been living a lie about loving you and finally decided to stop trying. Either way, its over and you should pocket the wisdom you gained and move along.
Leave her in the past where she belongs. Focus yourself on the present, where you belong. Create a future which gives you the contentment and enjoyment you deserve.

Get laid this weekend, you'll be fine.