you maybe surprised ... but i for one , never put myself in that position .... not even once . I am of the belief , that once it is over .... its over ... final answer .... I am kinda **** like that .

not being my friend does not mean you become my enemy, i still wish you to enjoy your life , and eat well ..... just not at my table !!

Well my marriage was bit by bit to end, until I closed the door once and for all. There was no sex at all. But I understand how it can be a slow processs.
It is difficult when there is much involved, vows and especially loyalty.

past Romantic relationship/ current friend
Since you couldn't disclose the details of why it is a past relationship...

she dropped you as an intimate partner because you were too 'clingy' or demanding in the relationship, deciding instead to keep you as a friend, just in case?

I think his explanation is sufficient.

never saw her we just talked on the phone
I talk on the phone with past GFs but I am not trying to get back with them so I do not need to know every detail of their lives.

She refused to see me
was it the fact she was pregnate or was it because she knew you well enough if you saw her pregnate you would carry on as if she were still your girlfriend?

Without accurate details of why it is a 'past relationship', we can't possibly understand the specific circumstances of why she did not trust you with this information.

“I was embarassed and didn't know how to tell you that I was pregnant again. For that Im sorry.”
are you 'reading' more into this than was actually intended?

Perhaps she trusts 'everyone else in her life' more than she trusts you?
You would think, if she trusted you, when you were in town again, she would have 'looked' you up.

It seems you are having more of a problem with her than she is with you.
Was this a common theme while you were in an intimate relationship with her?

The whole story makes me think you are making way more out of this than you should. She is not your girlfriend and from what you have disclosed, I don't think she wants to be your girlfriend. I even question the 'friendship' you claim to have if she can't trust you with something as important as a pregnacy.

Perhaps you should reevaluate your choices and how you treat women and make better decisions when choosing partners...and friends.
In the future try to choose wisely.

Nunya....?

Lying??? How is not telling lying?
Apart from that, lying doesn't make you a ho like it wouldn't make a man a cheating b@st@rd. Real weird norms and values.

When a woman is pregnant she is by no means obliged to tell someone she doesn't want to tell for whatever reason. The OP is not her partner so that makes it entirely her choice.
As far as I see the OP just wants to know reasons why a female friend or ex wouldn't tell.

As for the rest, we don't know the ins and outs of the entire story, nor does the OP it seems, and to blurt out a derogatory blanket statement about this woman and women in general is totally out of place.

Phallocentric society is in abundance girlfriend. Check out my male gaze and female gaze. Equality is rare....

Indeed. Thank goodness I never come across this attitude in my country, only here on M2. Doesn't make it less shocking, and to be honest unpalatable to come across men having such obsolete opinions concerning women.

I don’t mind giving more details. My initial post was I wanted you to get the gist of the situation. Romantic relationship part was brief I actually think she stop seeing me romantically to get back with her ex and got pregnant the first time with him. And now that I’m talking to all of you, she was pretty embarrassed about the whole situation the first time. And it happened again. And she absolutely didn’t need to give me any explanation at any point. Definitely not clingy. I she hit the brakes hard and our romantic relationship. That’s a shock to anybody when you think things are going one way and then somebody does a 180 on you. Btw thank you for the help. I understand the situation better now. Its not worth the waste of time thinking about it. She’s not my friend she’s a hoe a stinking hoe. And I I’m very aware of my judgment and I try very hard not to pass it on anybody.

Chock it up to a learning experience and grow wiser from it all.
Using wisdom help ya not to make the same bad decisions over and over.
As I like to say, Choose wisely/Live contentment.