Going to keep it short.

Broke up with Gf two months ago.
We have been still talking as friends for about 2 and a half weeks now. Dating has been abysmal and pretty disheartening.

Am I kidding myself in looking elsewhere? Is it time to give the ex another try?

Simply put How do you know when to take ex back?

No, never go back!

The reason/s she became your ex will still be there and the issues aren’t resolved. If things were okay between you then you’d still be together. Why go back for more of the same? It doesn’t make sense.

Put your big boy pants on and be resolute. You will find someone who aligns with you more.

So what I’ve been hearing is that there will always be a problem and that. You have to learn to work through problems. That’s if you want a long term (marriage) relationship to work out. So that has me wondering if Maybe I quit too soon.

Maybe there is someone else that aligns with me more but the question is if I’ll ever find that person?


And no it’s too hot for pants!

Recycling is bad.

Sometimes you don't know what you got till its gone.

Relationships take honest communication.
You also have to understand yourself before you can understand others.

Nobody is going to be a 'perfect' match until you figure out what it is that you really want.

Use your experience with your X to figure out which qualities in a partner you really want and which ones, you don't.

I've seen people remarry after a divorce and have wonderful lives together.
It depends upon the people involved.

People do change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

If you have realized you have made a mistake in ending the relationship, talk with your X about the things which bothered you. Talk honestly and precisely.
If you get back with your X, keep talking honestly, like adults, instead of headstrong children.

No matter what you decide to do, I hope you find what you are 'really' looking for.

You asked the same thing a month ago.
Going back to someone with whom it didn't work out is not a smart move.
And you want to do it because you cannot find someone else and you hate dating. Which is not a good reason, and not a good start of something new either.

But since you already posted about it a month ago... I'd say...
Stop asking us here, get on with it, and just go back.

You can make life decisions based on what others think or you can make life decisions based on what you think.
Try to remember, you are the one living behind your eyes.

While you can ask others to help you make your decisions, ultimately, you already know the answer and what you 'want' to do.
You are just looking for confirmation by public sentiment.
However, your relationships are intimate and personal. It really doesn't matter what public sentiment says, its how you personally feel.

You should do whatever you think you should do.
Get yer ducks in a row and make a wise choice.
Since it involves another person, include her in your wisdom.
Certainly not me or a bunch of other strangers.

Figure out who you are, where you're heading and where you 'want' to be and you will make wiser decisions.

If you ask your question to a pro-marriage group, you will get entirely different answers.
Consider the source.

Who better to determine your life's path than you?

You right!

Just have some issues with regret.

It’s like trading you trade in your busted car, then find that the cars at the dealership are even worse. So now your walking down the street thinking fondly of your old busted car. This situation isn’t black and white and I feel like I’m missing something in the gray area.

Let's rephrase:
'Can I do better?'

That gray area is your brain and its not missing, just out of reach.
Once you uncover it, you will figure it out for yourself.
Do a bit of honest soul-searching and you'll find your own answer.

A woman is not a car. Women are complicated to men and can be very mysterious unless you see them as the person they actually are, instead of your impression of who you think they should be.

Perhaps you should do a pros and cons list.
It might help you sort what's important to you.
Just try to be as honest and accurate as possible when making the list, and considering the results.
If there are more pros than cons, work on restoring the relationship.
If there are more cons than pros, move on, learn from your experience and try to make a wiser choice in the future.
Apply what you have learned about yourself to make a better choice.

This

When you're looking for someone else, it's time to let EX go.

Also... since you refer to her as ex and and ex GF, I assume it was serious.
You split up 2 months ago. That is not nearly long enough to be ready for a new love.
Depending on how long you were together, how committed the relationship was, you need at least a half year, and that is already cutting corners.
If you were truly in love 1 year is minimum.
So cut yourself some slack and stop trying to fill a void with something old that didn't work, or something new that won't work cos you're not ready.

if your ex is the last thing on your mind , before you go to sleep .... just go to sleep ... check it out in the morning ...if you cant do that .... maybe its time to have a serious talk with her ..... just saying .... cause I believe every good person deserves a second chance !! n