4 intermittent years people...4 years..

I take it that you have experience with this?

Some hide it well.

Sorry to say but, Welcome Back Rusty Kitty. I though you had one worth keeping you away.

Maybe the next one will be better.


Sociopaths have a knack for blending in which make them much harder to spot.
Consider it wisdom in your pocket.

Yes unfortunately it took some time to finally surface!!

Yes sometimes it takes a bit.

How was the Stampede this year?

Watch those monkeys!

Ivegotgirth-no stampede this year due to COVID..

I thought not......................there's a huge impact.......

If you know what to look for, not long at *all*..
If it is your first "rodeo"...it may take a while, while they make you question your sanity, and doubt your every feeling.

When that mask finally falls off it stays off

Few weeks sometimes !

Avoid this problem with temporary mutually satisfying dates of sorts

Narcissism is an abnormal excessive love and admiration for oneself. a narcissist, male or female is too concerned with beauty and physical looks, and think people must show them respect and admiration just because of their good looks. metrosexuality and narcissism go hand in hand and can be related to one another.

Everyone displays narcissism. To a degree, it's healthy and normal.
It's not like a disease where you either have it or not.

Are you referring to an actual personality disorder?
Then it depends on things like severity, and who is doing the "determining."



You're kinda vague with any meaningful details.

I mean sometimes increasingly severe "narcissistic" seeming behavior can simply arise from bad communication in a relationship.
Attempts to acquire the feedback that they aren't getting, lost in translation where one may be providing something (like compliments/admiration), but the other doesn't understand how it's being expressed.

Just like being dropped in a random country where you don't speak the language.
You may encounter someone and say "Hi, can I have some water please, I just got dropped into this country, and haven't had anything to drink for 3 days."

But they have absolutely no idea what you're saying. You're getting more and more thirsty. So to try and make yourself better understood you start making obvious gestures.
Like pointing to your mouth, or spitting on your hand to point to something wet, or making a gesture like you're holding a glass and tipping it to your mouth and making gulping noises.
Whereas the other person may just be looking at you and your wild gesticulating thinking you've got severe mental problems and you're disgusting for spitting on yourself.

Narcissism it took me 13 years to find out my wife has this problem. i put it down to our difference in culture as im English and she is Turkish we now live in different rooms of our house. I have been a truck driver for over forty years and she says i cannot drive very well, not sure if she is all there

Narcissistic tendencies as in it being all about them.. sex only when they want it..(example)..The need for approval and being best or above others..
maybe it’s just a personality disorder..

yea I agree I was with this woman perfect for me everything I could hope for i was attracted she works hard does everythimg same interest..3 years in I was payi g everything my life revolved aroumd makimg her happy I went above and beyond everything was my fault she told me to leave I did not hear from her for a month i was heartbroken I get an email I miss u..stupidly i went bk and tgis happen 2 more times..dont even know her nemore!4 years it is

May I recommend reading up on what narcissism is? The personality disorder that is. Because what you're saying is not true at all.

It doesn't take long to notice signs that something is off. And 'not long' is as little as 1 or 2 weeks. What feels off depends partially on how observant and intuitive you are, and also what type of narcissist your dealing with. There's two.
But the 'pink cloud' doesn't last long with them, in my case at the time not even a week. It will be extended but with dark stormy patchy in between: the typical pattern of a narcissist's behaviour already shows ---> lifting you up and making you feel you're a goddess to dropping you like a brick and/or making you feel small and like chit, then back to making you feel good and so on, until they got you hooked. Then the dark patches will get longer than the nice ones.

All in all women usually are hooked pretty fast.
The worst thing with this is that you keep getting hope again, and again and again and again. They know EXACTLY when they're about to lose you, then they make sure they make you feel like a goddess again. As soon as you fall for it... back in the mud...
That can repeat for years, and even a lifetime.

But you can tell quite fast, especially if you have some time to look back on, and you speak of 4 years...

I dated a narcissist for awhile and it took me a bit to catch on. It wasn't so much she was all about her looks it was more of how she viewed life. If someone had a problem she would analyze it to see how their problem affected her. If it didn't affect her she disregarded it as unimportant and she'd talk about the"real" problems she had. If it did affect her than she made their problem all about her. She had no empathy for others. It actually took me way too long to recognize the behavior.