I've been Single my entire life.

I don't bother people, i don't harass people, i don't get personal, i don't ask for anything perverted or desperate.

So my question is.... do normal girls who don't go for Looks, and Money Even Exist anymore?

Like i said... most people have had relationships, and moved on, i can't even find 1.


I dunno what i need to change.... I don't drink, do drugs, smoke, I'm pretty clean, and i'm a good guy but... yea if nobody notices me... I dunno what to do... it's kinda frustrating to feel like every guy has someone but me... so i dunno what to think.

I mean i don't think anyone's ever been in a situation like i'm in... "alone, friendless", girlfriendless" most already have someone so i dunno....

Almost makes me feel useless, cuz everyone ignores me...

It is sort of hard now especially with the pandemic.
I wish I had better advice, we are all in the same boat for now.

Yea i know whatcha mean.

Corona is really keeping people away from one another.


I've been in this boat for 21 years, right after i graduated highschool.... i pretty much became a loner...

I dunno what the deal is... but i would never wish my life on anyone else...

It's very Lonely, and i struggle each day, wondering what my purpose is.. it's not easy, but i'm still here...

I agree it very hard living alone during this time.

Just gotta take it day by day, and hope things will look better on the other end ya know?

And Thanks for replying to the forum post... =)

of course not all women are like that

you use those words about yourself

what are you then?

It's not other people, not women, nor the world. It has to do with you yourself and the energy you exude.
Either something in your energy is off-putting to other people and that can be as simple as a depressed or otherwise negative vibe.
If you're not being seen it has to do with YOU not validating yourself. As long as you don't see you, don't love you, don't feel worthy and deserving of every beautiful thing life has to offer, you will not find it.
If you can work on that and change it around you're vibe will change and people will see you, find it easier to be around you because you yourself then open up to them.

Even if you don't follow this, or keep insisting it's the world and other people and that your life sux, the above is still true.
Nobody is responsible for your happiness but you and nobody is doing anything to you or excluding you, only you yourself. As soon as you can feel happiness and joy within, things will begin to shift.

I feel worthy and deserving, and work hard....and I know a lot of people, but I've not had a relationship either....probably because I set rules and expectations...but if people don't meet them, then I'm not going to settle for second best.

Keep trying there's someone out there for everyone.......hopefully!

How many dating sites are you a member of, only Mingle2, then join a few more and start contacting girls you are interested in, ones that live close by so you can meet up quickly for coffee.

No harm in inviting a girl for coffee in town, a place of her choice where there are lots of other people, she can only say no. If you are not meeting girls how are you going to date one. You need to put more effort in to your search in my opinion, otherwise nothing is going to happen, as you know guys do the chasing and girls do the choosing. Good luck in your search.

Good idea, but they are not open everywhere right now.

OP............IMO what you need is a serious shot of confidence! The AA people have a saying "fake it 'til you make it", apply that to yourself and meet some women now and change your life. Don't wait any longer!

They do exist. In my experience, good men (like good women) are hard to find because they're usually already taken. It may not have anything to do with you. However, I don't know you and have not been around you long like your friends to respond to that fairly. You really think you're the only one in this predicament, ever?? Don't believe that no one else in the entire world has never experienced loneliness.

Aaah, perhaps what is hindering you is being a loner. You may be giving off vibes that have stay away from you. Operative word "may." 21 yrs? You may want to really figure out why you can't find someone special.

Do you live in a rural place? Like a farm or in a farming country community?
If you are geographically isolated it can get pretty lonely for someone in your age range who hasn't experienced much.

Online dating sites and online communities work pretty good for people who are isolated but have a good range of interests. The trick is to find commonality with others and to understand yourself.

I suggest you sit down and do an honest self-asessment of your interests.
You could start simple, just name the subjects you are really interested in.
Then, take that list and identify the specific areas of that subject which really get you thrilled (for your own clarification).
You can then go online and look into groups which have similar interests.
Its easier to find friends if the subjects for discussion are interesting to both parties.
As friendships grow, find out who is close enough to your area that has similar interests as you. Set up a get together of some type and establish some friendships.
As your friendship grows you will meet other people in their lives. Its easier to start a relationship with someone you have things in common with and personal introductions often lead to some great partnerships.

If you are not geographically isolated but suffer from low self-esteem you still have options to change your sitiuation.
Search out websites which first identify healthy self-esteem and then read up on the different ways to bolster your self-esteem.
I've found focusing on positives helps a lot. When something good happens you say to yourself "Hey, That's a Good Thing". Eventually you find you say that more than you don't. This is because depression feeds depression. Too often we get too focused on all the bad things we forget to look at the good things which happen to us.

Some common thoughts you might heed...
*To have good friends you must first be a good friend.
*Honesty and integrity doesn't make you weak.
*Love is felt, not found.
*Having many friends is not the same as having a few good friends.
*Always be true to yourself.
*Choose wisely.
*Expectations are fair to nobody.
*Its okay to fail as long as you gain wisdom from it.
*Harmony requires two.
*You don't need every woman (man) just the right one.
*When the right one is found....Stop Looking.

Well here is some good news..it seems you have to be
a geek doing your own thing to become a billionaire.

So hang in and save ;-)

I'm just Shy irl.... I don't really put off any weird vibes.

Whenever i go out, and this is only from me, since nobody here truly knows me irl...

But when i go out, i keep to myself, i don't like to be the kind of guy who "harasses girls", or start Drama, just so they'll talk to me...

I live in a small town, so Unless you have friends, or anyone who "truly understands your situation" it's hard to do things and not come off as a creep.


And yes with Corona out there, it's making alot of people Distance.


And i totally agree with alot of people, when they say "girls, and guys" won't come to you, You gotta put yourself out there.

My problem with that is... coming from a small town, only thing here is bars.

I'm not a bar person, nor do i find it fun to go to clubs... I dunno how people even meet in those places.

I just gotta accept i'll be alone forever because i dunno what to do..

I'm not perfect, i have flaws, we all have flaws, but i'm alone irl, i have nobody, not even 1 friend to talk to me, and tell me "let's go do this, or let's go out to eat"

I don't have any of that... so trust me... when you're truly alone it's very hard to meet people..

Just don't judge someone to fast... before you get to know em... is all i'm really gonna say.

Try thinking positive. The people on here are very good people, the ones that hang in the forums!

Aye, plenty of decent people here, though some are a bit nuts

Anyway, don't try to force things, it might appear desperate. Sometimes, it is bettee to be found, though this needs a wee bit patience.

You already called the game before even playing the field (pun intended)! So my question is why are you on here? Are you on here to talk or to find someone? I can't help but wonder if you actually do put off negative vibes in person. You certainly don't exude confidence or much positivism on just a forum. What are you really like in person? You say all these positive things about yourself, but I can't help but wonder what is NOT going right. 21 years being single (is this really by choice??) and accepted you are doomed for loneliness. Well, I don't know what else to say. I don't know if anyone else has anything to say at this point. Sounds like time for professional help or some type of serious intervention. There is a reason you're not meeting people. First of all, I would talk to your friends instead of strangers. They certainly know you better. Please tell me you have friends. Maybe your making the situation harder than it has to be and not aware of it. Good luck!

Yes son, there is great power in positive thinking.
When it comes to meeting people and esp women just talk to people, all the people around you wherever you are. I'm not a "bar person" either and currently live in a very low population area (before I retired I did live in the SE USA for 30 + years) but I do have more than one FWB situation and meet new women pretty much daily. You don't have to be (or want to be) pushy, obnoxious or even aggressive. Just be yourself and chat with those around you, people like and want to talk for the most part. Once you've had a bit of conversation you can have a better one next time you see that person which you know if you're in a small town will happen. Be casual, polite and relaxed. But if you want to change your life you've got to make yourself do it.