If Love Is Blind,
Why then do we fall in Love?

love in essence is a mental illness

There , I corrected your essence .

Because he felt good to you and it was too dark to see?

If you just "like" instead, is that deaf...?

you fail in love because you focus on your self and the things you don't have in life, you fail because you never express you gratitude for all the things you have in life including people places and things.

we fail in love because we are simple-minded and cannot allow ourselves to learn that in love every thing we do and are, this now is a shared experience and needs to be divided by 2.

My understanding of the usage of the expression 'Love is Blind' is after we have fallen in love, and not before we fall in love, but I might be wrong, it could be the reason we fall in love.

Because... love is blind! LOL Jokes aside, if you've ever been in love, there are many reasons we fall in love. It could be how the other person makes you feel, what you love and cherish about the other person, etc.

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ok after the funny ... I think love is blind becouse
you have not looked beyond the person after awhile ...
and if u seem to fall in love it may not turn out like the fist time you felt
it ... did that make any since ...

some may fall for the image of another ...think that is love ... but is only lust ...once the lust is gone so are the feeling you may have in the first place that drew you toward them ...

Love being blind is not necessarily a problem at all.
It can only turn out to be a problem if you yourself haven't dealt with your own issues yet which means you attract love from that. Meaning you are with a mate who reflects your issues.

The essence of such connections & relationships is to see that, to then work on your issues so you can either work out the existing connection or find another one that is a match for who you are then.

Another thing... everyone has flaws. You yourself will always have them at least to some extent and so will your partner, even your Mr or Mrs Right.
If you only focus on that you better stay alone.
The beauty of a healthy & happy relationship is to focus on the good the other brings and what you have together, and if necessary work through a problem by having healthy and open communication.

“Love is not blind ... it has perfect vision “

Do you know where the saying ”love is blind “ originates ??? Cupid was the ancient god of love ( he was blind) and often portrayed wearing a blindfold .. shooting magical arrows which possessed the power to inspire love or passion. . I imagine the “falling in love “ also relates to the act of being shot by the god of love and falling under his spell .

It has little to do with being blind to someone’s flaws . That connection was made later .

To quote Shakespeare ...

“I am glad ’tis night, you do not look on me,
For I am much ashamed of my exchange.
But love is blind, and lovers cannot see
The pretty follies that themselves commit,
For if they could Cupid himself would blush
To see me thus transformed to a boy.”

We can be blinded by love to the reality of what being together might mean in terms of difficulties -as sometimes circumstances make a happy relationship extremely difficult or impossible -but it can also make the difficulties worth getting through together.

Personally,
I don't think I could ever be blinded to potential difficulties anymore -lived a bunch -and it very much would limit which relationships I would choose to have -if I were even in a position to have a relationship.

I think it's a good thing that after many years of being a caregiver -along with countless other ridiculously stressful things -I realize I do not have anything to give someone else at present. I'm an indescribable kind of tired.
I can't afford to overlook what I know it would require of me, the difficulties we would face -whether it would be a good thing for the other all considered, etc.

I've also got specific non-mainstream religious considerations, little earning potential, more baggage than a traveling luggage salesman -really bad skin due to stress, allergies and other stuff -and I am starting to get those long old man hairs in weird places -so it's not looking good all around.

"Love seeks not its own" -and considering everything possible for the good of the other is wise.

Love isn't blind.
Love is a naturally occurring organic process.
The only thing you can do is interfere with that process.

People blind love, people put blinders on themselves, and then look to blame others for doing so as to remove responsibility, culpability, the risk of judgment.

Saying "love is blind" is like saying a perfectly working Tesla on autopilot is blind after you jerked the wheel and slammed it into a tree.


People don't "fall in love."

Because of the natural organic process of attraction, lust, and love, your body and brain work to turn off your ability to think logically and rationally in order to facilitate your bonding leading to procreation.
Thanks to religion, people seem to have this innate belief that the body and brain were created to support the personality, rather than the personality exists to support the brain and body.

We don't "fall in love," we keep ourselves from thinking critically and honestly observing what's actually going on. Catch-22 is the more you think critically and honestly observe yourself in the process, the more you interfere with it, as you start distancing yourself.

But people wanting to think "good" of themselves, to think of themselves as "good" people (and therefore upholding group rules), have to rationalize it.

It's not "I'm choosing to wallow and pursue self interest, being overwhelmed with pleasurable sensations like a junkie, and want to feel good," it's "I'm falling in love."

Takes away responsibility. "This is happening to me," as opposed to, "this is happening because of, a direct consequence of, my choices."

I was guilty.
I wore Rose-Colored Glasses for 25 years.
When they came off I realized what happened and saw the reality and it was harsh. What I thought was love, wasn't love at all.
I refuse to put those glasses back on.

Love is part of me. It exists in me whether I choose or not.
If I have a choice, its not love.
I don't see the love I feel as a bad thing. Its part of me and I love me.

Infatuation, lust, commitment and dedication are but a few ways I demonstrate my love to those I love. The love I feel exists whether it is reciprocated or not. If the love I feel gets butt-hurt or offended or wanes because of no reciprocation, its not really love I feel at all, its something else.
When I love someone, I can't help but to love them.

Love is a feeling which is felt within.
You can't make someone love you.
You can't trade it, buy it, steal it from someone else.
The only thing you can do is demonstrate the love you feel towards someone.
Some people are better at the demonstration than others.
However, no matter how well or poorly you demonstrate your love, to be an effective bond, the other person must be able to read and accept your demonstration. If they feel love towards you, they will respond favorably.
Love is easy...

It's amazing what a blind man sees

Zatoichi

Was it destiny?
I don't know yet
Was it just by chance?
Could this be kismet?
Something in my consciousness told me you'd appear
Now I'm always touched by your presence, dear
When we play at cards you use an extra sense
(it's really not cheating)
You can read my hand, I've got no defense
When you sent your messages whispered loud and clear
I am always touched by your presence, dear
Floating pass the evidence of possibilities
We could navigate together, psychic frequencies
Coming into contact with outer entities
We could entertain each one with our theosophies
Stay awake at night and count your r.e.m.'s when you're talking with your super friends
Levitating lovers in the secret stratosphere
I am still in touch with your presence, dear
I am still in touch with your presence, dear
I am still in touch with your presence, dear, dear, dear, dear, dear

Bcos we have a heart. Lol

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