If u had been married for nearly 14 years and you thought your wife may be cheating so you followed her over night and she was there. At another guy's house. Wouldn't u go drag her *** oit and do anything u could to save ur marriage? Instead u just let it drift away.? U fall out if love with her instead of trying?
Intimacy is a huge part of a marriage. If your wife begged u to give her more, wouldn't u honor that and know that it's obviously a big deal to her, at least? Instead he's on dating sites trying to rebuild his pride? Not once did he say he was jealous. Not o once did he try and stop her. Not once did he offer the intimacy she loved for! Ugh. It's disgusting

She cheated on him and you blame him?

I would be thinking: that woman doesn't love me anymore, time to find a new one, and stop wasting my time on this one.

Jealous guys don't always react with possessive rage.

Just as likely to say "well f . . . it then, I'm out of here".

I don't know which alternate universe
the OP lives in...

Where I live, forcing entry into another
person's home, is a fast way to die.

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The idea of invading another person's home has a very high risk of turning out really bad!!

In a situation where you have made the decision to seek intimacy from someone besides your spouse, it is time to have a long discussion with your spouse before you act on that decision. Often times those discussions are difficult enough that a third party is necessary for you both to see the picture clearly and look at the possible solutions. In this case, the solution was a very poor choice that is extremely hard to recover the relationship from.

He probably had the one of the worse nights after he found out.
Probably had a strong urge to teach the other guy a lesson he wouldnt forget.

The best course of action is to get away before you loose control.

He will be better off with someone who doesn't play jealous games.
She may learn what it's like with someone who plays the same game.

You've got to have trust. It's a big deal...

I believe both should take the responsibility ...
but usually the blame is always placed on one or the other ...

well not always ... some can come to a cordial separation or divorce...

can't say I have seen many tho

I begged my wife... Even offered to go to therapy....but she wanted a 17 year old instead of me after 15 years...broke my soul

Well I guess so.
Sorry for that experience.
We learn as we go.

If a man can't keep me happy and I've tried everything to sort it out it's up to me to decide what to do: stay or go. Stay means 'put up with not getting enough'. If you go cheating on your man you cannot expect/demand him to clean up the mess for you.

If you need a man to get jealous because you cheated you may need some therapy. Very unhealthy behaviour.
And maybe he was jealous, but again: why should he do something about the mess after you've disrespected him so greatly? I wouldn't if I was a bloke. And I'd be even less inclined to stick my thing in a woman who'd treat me like that. It's not particularly arousing.

Sometimes people just grow apart, and sometimes a sexual mismatch is the cause of this. Move one and stop blaming the man.
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Their is always three sides to a story. His, hers and the truth.

Your first argument is confusing . When you say you tried to sort it out I didn't hear/read any part saying you put it on the table or talked about it .
I'm only saying this because it happened to me. And we talked about it and came up with a solution other than doing it behind each other's back.
And you're right about some sexual incompatibility but it's not necessarily a wrench in the relationship .
Accepting the facts and ensuing consequences are big factors in any relationship in my opinion.

So...

A woman with less morals than an
alley whore, is upset, that men won't
duel over who gets to nail her next.

Seems more an issue for
Dr. Phil to deal with.

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