Why do guys wanna "hang out"? What happened to taking a woman on an actual date, open door, be a gentleman, not worried about getting your dick wet, an actual dinner and movie or bowling something besides "hang out" make plans!!

Because they are poor and/or clueless.
I would run with it..

I don't know how to do any of that stuff...... But..... BUTT!


I can, however, ride a unicycle, naked, with a blowtorch in one hand, a flyswatter in the other, with an orange and purple propeller cap that spins badly and irregular, with an old rotary off-pink telephone on my lap, riding into an old off-pink tiled shower stall with a ceiling fan in it, so the little propeller on my cap meets the big propeller, and I wipeout, screaming from pain, screaming,
homayno haringingque at the top of my lungs.

I'm looking to hang out at my house and watch some Crackle TV.
While we're at it, can she fetch me a beer?

guys give ladies all that then the tv becomes more important.then a relationship for the woman its a sad world and u wonder why

Here's what the Urban Dictionary says about the phrase "hang out"...
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hang%20out

hang out

Less serious than getting together or dating. Spending time with someone in the context of friendship or in the context of casually exploring whether you like someone as just a friend or maybe more than a friend.

I think spending time together as friends just hanging out is a good way to know each other and see if you could stand each other's company. lol

Well, the part about not worried about getting your [i.e., his] dick wet just runs against his natural biological desires. At least, you probably hope so.

The rest of it is not ruled out by "hanging out." Two can "hang out" and bowl, for example. The guy can hold doors for you while you are "hanging out" and doing something together.

People who are comfortable together hang out together. If a guy wants to hang out with you, he is already or want to be comfortable with you.

I might do that for a lady . . .



No, not you! Go back to Tramp.

Sheesh, the things that some dogs do to get a Milk-Bone.

Now where was I?

Oh yeah.

If I am supposed to be a traditional "Gentleman", then the woman needs to be a traditional "Lady". That means she doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't bowl, doesn't have any tattoos that show, etc.

I'll help you out by simplifying the questions:


Because they can, because they don't have to, and/or because the risk/reward outweighs an alternative option.


Changes in culture, technology,relationship expectations/purpose, and/or social roles/rules, risks/consequences.

A romantic dinner at Chuck E. Cheese,
Bowling,
A pitcher of stale beer.

What's not classy about that?

Anytime hangout

Is that a genuine question? Hmm... you can at least make sure the beer is good!
And make it a Mac.

THere are guys who want that, likely even the ones who show up to hang out with you. When they meet the right woman and one who presents herself as dateable.
If you show up the way you do in your profile it's not very attractive. Don't be this, don't be that, don't bother, blablablaaa.
And first you identify as a mother. No one is looking for a mother. Well, guys who want to hang out maybe. A guy wants a woman. So make that less pronounced too.

I think spending time together as friends just hanging out is a good way to know each other and see if you could stand each other's company. lol

This Plan an simple...

If you had ever taken someone on a date, done the meal/drinks bit, paid for all of it, acted a perfect gentleman. And never heard from her again.
You would want to see if you get on first next time.
I agree with MZrosie 100%

After all, you don't know until you meet someone in the flesh if you like them.
Stuck in a resturant with someone that isn't like you hoped, facing a huge bill,
is no fun at all.

Always difficult things. I think both men and women will have to decide before they even go dating women how they're gonna go about this part.
You could for instance decide that on meet & greets you do pay PROVIDED the woman shows appreciation for you showing up, being gallant, maybe having driven a distance and so on.
You could also decide to not do dinners or other expensive things on a meet and greet.
What you do on a first actual date with a woman is another thing you can decide for yourself. If she is worthwhile that date, what are you willing to pay, which of course depends on what you are going to do. If something expensive (more than an average meal costs) you can talk to the woman upfront.
You could then for instance split the cost of the activity, and you can still offer to pay the meal. Or anything that feels good to you.
If you know for yourself what you want and how you go about it you'll likely never get disappointed and end up feeling used.

As for women...
For me there will be no 2nd get-together (real first date) if a guy doesn't pay the stuff during a meet & greet. That has nothing to do with money itself, but his attitude and behaviour as a man.
BUT... I also do not do things on a meet & greet that cost a bomb, nor dinner. It's just a few coffees, maybe a piece of cake to go with it.
I NEVER run up a bill, nor do I ever do more than I can afford myself, in case he does not pay, nor do I want to take advantage of a man.
I ALWAYS show gratitude, often even have a little gift as token of appreciation, for instance for him having driven over an hour.
This is always appreciated, even though it's a small gift. What I give relates to what we've talked about or something funny that occurred during our chats before dating, so it is in that sense personal.

Thank you for saying good for you for straightening out the op bitterness I Believe all men are the same and judging all people & men is the sign of a small mind JMO nuff said

I have arrived and given all people a chance at getting to know one another
After all men& women are both humans
There's nothing wrong with making love still others were conceived just that some babies were not wanted and some of there parents told them I have friends that shared that with me it happens JMO

I think that's a balanced attitude to have.
I met a woman at a local boating lake with a really nice caffe attached. Early this year.
She said " Ill get the coffees, I have an expense account) which was nice.
So I said "great, mine's a large one"
I realised what I'd said 3 seconds later. Cringe. :)
But usually I insist. Even if I'm not struck on her. She's made the effort to turn up. Ive been called a top date, several times. just not by the right one yet lol

I've never had to pay so far either. I do what I said before, and I offer to pay or share cost. Never come across a man yet who then said "okay" and had me pay.