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Topic: Do women change to get noticed?
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Tue 09/03/19 11:33 PM
Do women change their appearance or dress differently if they are keen on a guy to get his attention? Do you change your hair style, wear shorter/longer dresses/skirts, do you start wearing a bra or leave it off etc.
What is your plan of "attack"?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/04/19 01:37 AM
What dresses and skirts? This is 2019 ya know.
Start/stop wearing a bra???
Change my hairstyle??? surprised That goes WAY too far.

If I'd have to jump through hoops to get a man's attention he's not for me. Not how it should work, not how I want it to work.

Ifever I do change something a bit then it'd be AFTER there's some sort of connection being established. And then it's not to 'catch' him but because I feel so danged good!
And it won't be anything as drastic as changing my hair, wearing skirts, and the bra thing.

Rock's photo
Wed 09/04/19 02:27 AM
If a woman wants my attention, modesty and humility
would be the best bet.

Gnomie don't date attention whores... Anymore. laugh


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Wed 09/04/19 02:43 AM
Certainly not. I won't change who I am. I dress for myself and wear what's comfortable for me and I style my hair to suit me and not to attract a mate.

However, I would change my shoes to wellies if the circumstances demand it but that's as far as it goes.

If I felt I had to change my appearance to attract a mate then that alone tells me that we wouldn't be a match.



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Wed 09/04/19 02:58 AM

Do women change their appearance or dress differently if they are keen on a guy to get his attention? Do you change your hair style, wear shorter/longer dresses/skirts, do you start wearing a bra or leave it off etc.
What is your plan of "attack"?


Some do, some don't... I don't, and I never really had a "plan of attack"... I'm more the "take me as I am" kind of gal.

I believe the younger a woman is the more likely she will, and it also depends on their culture and what they've been taught. Having worked in the seasonal industry that have International programs, I've worked with quite a few from other countries as well as the US. The younger girls tend to become fashion queens a lot more than the older ones. Whether that is with the intent of attracting a man is difficult to know since I haven't asked them.


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Wed 09/04/19 10:15 AM
Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh

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Wed 09/04/19 10:30 AM

Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh


I disagree Up2... I think the times of changing your appearance to get noticed have passed for the most part, especially with women/men closer to our age group, and maybe even younger. People are more interested today in being themselves and being accepted for who they are. They aren't as pretentious anymore... least not in my opinion.

It's one thing to dress nice to feel good about yourself and to want to look nice for the person you go out with... it's another thing to do it for the sole purpose of attracting the opposite sex, having a "plan of attack" like Aussie mentioned. I don't believe too many women do that anymore. I could be wrong? For me, I'll dress nice, but I'm not going to change everything or do stuff I wouldn't normally do just to get someone's attention... seems phony to me.

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Wed 09/04/19 10:37 AM


Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh


I disagree Up2... I think the times of changing your appearance to get noticed have passed for the most part, especially with women/men closer to our age group, and maybe even younger. People are more interested today in being themselves and being accepted for who they are. They aren't as pretentious anymore... least not in my opinion.

It's one thing to dress nice to feel good about yourself and to want to look nice for the person you go out with... it's another thing to do it for the sole purpose of attracting the opposite sex, having a "plan of attack" like Aussie mentioned. I don't believe too many women do that anymore. I could be wrong? For me, I'll dress nice, but I'm not going to change everything or do stuff I wouldn't normally do just to get someone's attention... seems phony to me.


Well said River. I agree 100% with you flowerforyou

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Wed 09/04/19 10:42 AM



Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh


I disagree Up2... I think the times of changing your appearance to get noticed have passed for the most part, especially with women/men closer to our age group, and maybe even younger. People are more interested today in being themselves and being accepted for who they are. They aren't as pretentious anymore... least not in my opinion.

It's one thing to dress nice to feel good about yourself and to want to look nice for the person you go out with... it's another thing to do it for the sole purpose of attracting the opposite sex, having a "plan of attack" like Aussie mentioned. I don't believe too many women do that anymore. I could be wrong? For me, I'll dress nice, but I'm not going to change everything or do stuff I wouldn't normally do just to get someone's attention... seems phony to me.


Well said River. I agree 100% with you flowerforyou


Agree flowers

Up2youandme's photo
Wed 09/04/19 11:04 AM


Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh


I disagree Up2... I think the times of changing your appearance to get noticed have passed for the most part, especially with women/men closer to our age group, and maybe even younger. People are more interested today in being themselves and being accepted for who they are. They aren't as pretentious anymore... least not in my opinion.

It's one thing to dress nice to feel good about yourself and to want to look nice for the person you go out with... it's another thing to do it for the sole purpose of attracting the opposite sex, having a "plan of attack" like Aussie mentioned. I don't believe too many women do that anymore. I could be wrong? For me, I'll dress nice, but I'm not going to change everything or do stuff I wouldn't normally do just to get someone's attention... seems phony to me.


You certainly have the right to disagree but that does not sway the statistics . And the statistics covers the board , age or demographics wise.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/04/19 11:15 AM

Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh

I think there are some women who deliberately dress a certain way to get attention, but not necessarily of a specific guy but in general.
That will of course get you attention but usually not the type that most crave deep inside.

Funny thing is you get way more attention when you dress the way YOU feel good about yourself.
Dita von Teese said the same thing: if you want to seduce a man / audience, dress to make yourself feel good, not your audience, then you'll be fine.

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Wed 09/04/19 11:19 AM


Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh

I think there are some women who deliberately dress a certain way to get attention, but not necessarily of a specific guy but in general.
That will of course get you attention but usually not the type that most crave deep inside.

Funny thing is you get way more attention when you dress the way YOU feel good about yourself.
Dita von Teese said the same thing: if you want to seduce a man / audience, dress to make yourself feel good, not your audience, then you'll be fine.


And I'm supposed to adhere to the philosophy of a pole dancer?

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Wed 09/04/19 11:50 AM
Edited by motowndowntown on Wed 09/04/19 12:20 PM
Do women change to get noticed?

Course they do. Why do you think fashion magazines make zillions of dollars?

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Wed 09/04/19 11:56 AM
Nope take me as I am or go away

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Wed 09/04/19 12:24 PM
Women change cause fashion changes. Styles of hair, makeup and clothes change every season. There nothing wrong with it cause if we always look the same every year people would complain. Lol

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Wed 09/04/19 02:33 PM
Thank you all for your thoughts and comments.. Just dressing to be comfortable in yourself and to be yourself seems to be what most women do.

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Wed 09/04/19 02:58 PM
I dress for myself in what I like and makes me comfortable. I never wear dresses or skirts. I leave my hair loose, and if I curl it, it's because I'm in the mood. If a guy doesn't like it, than he is not the guy for me.

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Wed 09/04/19 03:13 PM
Edited by maybwecan on Wed 09/04/19 03:17 PM
Obviously you ladies are not included in whatever those statistics are...

As a major in mathematics, I have lots of experience and am very aware that there are lies and there are statistics...and folks interpret/ wrap the latter anyway that agrees with their already forgone conclusions...

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/04/19 03:14 PM



Statistically at 99.99 percent certainty, all creatures do. So I don't understand how anyone can say they don't . What's the point in being coy? This is the Internet after all. Sheeesh

I think there are some women who deliberately dress a certain way to get attention, but not necessarily of a specific guy but in general.
That will of course get you attention but usually not the type that most crave deep inside.

Funny thing is you get way more attention when you dress the way YOU feel good about yourself.
Dita von Teese said the same thing: if you want to seduce a man / audience, dress to make yourself feel good, not your audience, then you'll be fine.


And I'm supposed to adhere to the philosophy of a pole dancer?

You adhere to whatever philosophy you choose. You don't seem open to any other input from women when they tell the OP how it works for them.
No skin of my nose, to each their own.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/04/19 03:17 PM

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments.. Just dressing to be comfortable in yourself and to be yourself seems to be what most women do.

Yes, especially when a woman is approx 40+ I think as she then is more self-confident and less vulnerable to other ppl's judgements etc.

flowerforyou

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