And make sure it's NOT A STICK SHIFT.

She has her religious reasons and thing from the past.

Yeah I’m okay now but what if I’m not okay later on like say a year down the line? What do I do when the sexual desire increases and I’m still just waiting?

We are just friends right now.
We are dating like i mentioned in my original post. So to her that means we are friends getting to know each other. Becoming boyfriend/ girlfriend comes later.

That's up to you to decide. I think people have been pretty clear about what they would do, and think you should do.
What you decide is up to you.
Are you willing to spend more time on a woman to possibly find out there's nothing in the end, or that you are not a match, or not?
Personally I wouldn't date this person exclusively. You don't owe her nothing, like you say, you're just friends.
Think of this: Had she been a male friend, would you then sacrifice your future of finding love and a normal, healthy relationship for that friend?
Cos that's what you're doing right now: wasting you life and time on this while you want a normal relationship with a woman.

Then find someone normal to date and build up a relationship with, someone who is interested in sharing intimacy with a man she loves/cares about.

Your sexual desire is so high because she's not giving it to you. You want her more and more, and the fact you cannot be intimate with her triggers it. I know, cos I've been there in a relationship for years on end.
You say with her it's for reasons, but if she's not over her past, why should that become your problem?
Also, did you know that withholding sex is a form of sexual abuse?

Keep it in your pants until the wedding night.
I'm a 34 year old virgin, it's easier avoiding sex than it is getting a girl into it.

So how do you do that? How are you a 34 year old virgin? What drives you to remain abstinent?

I have never dated a woman like her. So I don’t if I’m missing out on experiences or whether or not this is right for me. I’m not super into sex but i love cuddling and kissing. So i guess I’m waiting to get there. Just figuring what to do in the meantime.

Talk to her about it?
You understand this is part of your "relationship" growth?
Being open and honest about what's really going on with you mentally and emotionally? How you're handling relationship stress and changes and demands?

That it's an especially bad idea to ask a bunch of strangers who don't know you, or her, what you "should" do in your relationship? Where it can easily lead to an unrealistic idea that you work up in your head, come to conclusions, make decisions, and then kind of "ambush" her with something you've already worked on, or they find out in hindsight you've done something that affects them but they were never told about?


Do you understand that if you seriously consider it "waiting" then you don't really respect or possibly understand her reasons, you're just arbitrarily putting in time because you think you'll get what you want?

I just keep a rule: we can’t both be naked at the same time in the same place.

Naked in this instance meaning only our genitals. Only one person can have their gennies out at a time.

It’s worked so far. The other thing that helps is that I’ve built up reasons as to why abstinence is important to me: I want the girl I have sex with to be the only one I have sex with and I want to be the only one she has sex with. I have become a little more open to this, but I’m not fond of the idea of having children. Now, I know there are ways to prevent children coming from intercourse, but I ABSOLUTELY do not want kids when I’m not married, so I simply absolutely will not have sex before I’m married.

It really does help when you’ve got reasons to be abstinent for yourself rather than just doing it because someone you love wants it.

I don’t think this has much to do with her. Finding a way to alleviate sexual desire can be for any woman. I just want to know how others do it.

I think that by not pressuring her for sex is a great sign of respect. What I want is not her body but her.

I made the mistake of getting involved with a woman that was sexually assaulted by her brother. She wanted to, and did. She wasn't very loving in the act, and didn't get any better.

If she wouldn't before, there would be no after, as far as I'm concerned.

Trust me you won't die from not having sex.In fact its very wise.Intimacy is in levels if you decide not to kiss Atleast hold hands..spend more time in public places.Stay away from dark corners. Its possible to abstain from sex.

Remember to set a goal on a date on when you are going to get married.
Don't just abstain for no reason.

Set a date of when you will get married make a commitment.

Or else its almost like she has said no to you.

Set a marriage date.Then you can enjoy each other safely.

Take care.

Ya might want to see if the horn works also

Pushover, you're fooling yourself. Either you are Just Friends OR Dating. If you haven't even kissed her in 6-7 months or at least held hands or been intimately close in some way, you're just friends and hanging out together. And that's not dating. Maybe the first date there may not be a kiss, if your'e shy or her, and possibly because the chemistry isn't there for One of you?

Let me ask this. When you "go out" are you paying the bill or are you splitting it?

As far as what you want to know. How do you respect her and have no desire to want to be with her, that may be impossible if you feel chemistry and are crushing on her.
Sounds like she will keep you at bay, no matter what you would like. If you're dating, there would be some compromise, if it's real.
Maybe you won't have a hard time curtailing your feelings when you get sick of it. Waiting another year in this situation would be insane. (Doing the same thing, yet expecting different results in the end)

Anyway, Good luck with that