i am wondering why most women won't answer a message sent to them even if it is just to say sorry not interested it shows you have respect for yourself and other people also. i am starting to believe the reason is most of the profiles on here are either scammers or are just fake computer generated profiles. either way i am starting to think this site is not worth the effort.

Humm welcome to the forums...

Maybe your in a bit of a hurry only been here a couple of days not everyone will answer you..

Those you feel are not here for the right reason report them...

Only if dating sites worked within 3 days now that would be a miracle...

Again enjoy the forums.....

There are people who will say "no reply/ answer is a reply/ answer"...
And there are those who, when I say I was raised to always be polite to people and treat them with courtesy and dignity, until they do something to show they don't deserve that..there are those who will take issue with *that*.

Myself, if someone writes me, I look at their profile, and if it's blank, or I see threre's nothing in it that interets me, or there are one or more deal breakers, I politely tell them thanks, but it wouldn't work for this or that reason.

Costs me nothing but a minute or two of time (I don't get that many messages at all, contrary to the myth I keep hearing)..and acknowledges the other person a a person of worth and dignity.

*IF* they then respond with hateful or nasty stuff...*then* I block them.

Obvious scammer dudes with their stereotypical messages (which are *really* the only messages I get at all)...they get blocked immediately..

I know i have only been here for 3 days but this is not the only dating site i am on and it happens on all of them, some ladies will take the 30 seconds to reply and say sorry not what i am looking for but most of them just ignore you completely, and regardless of what they are thinking it does hurt, maybe it's time i deleted this site as the majority of women are either overseas or have not been online in over 30 days which tells me the vast majority are not coming back. i am not interested in overseas profiles i have no money to travel to meet them in person nor do i have the money to pay for them to come and meet me, which i wouldn't do even if i could afford it, once the ticket is payed for who knows what they can do with it, a lot could probably go and cancel the ticket and get a refund of my money into their account or pocket.

it takes less than 30 seconds to type a couple of words and show a little respect for others feelings, but this site i don't think anyone much shows any respect whatsoever, if they don't want to talk to you it is the least they can do, and you state on your profile you are only here for the forums which gives me the impression that you sit here and spend time typing answers etc to posts, so where is the difference in taking a few seconds to respond to a contact email and say sorry not interested good luck in your search. i think it is disrespectful and hurtful. but most of the profiles on here i believe are fake anyway so i don't think i will be here for long, i only still have my account active atm because it is free.

Some men have on their profile, "looking for marriage". I'm not going there.

If s man fits through my Filters , to message me, I will answer.
He maynot like my answer always but I usually will answer.
Not really seeking a Date on here. I already have an interest.

You are missing the point here. There is no rule book that says people must answer all messages even if it is just to say "Sorry not interested". This is a free site and each person who gets a message has in their power "the power of choice". It is their choice not to answer if they so choose not to. That doesn't make them a bad person or inconsiderate. I get a lot of messages from ones I do not answer simply because it would take too much time. I do look at their profile and if their profile is not filled out completely and has only "I will tell you later" answers or "No answer" I will not reply. That makes me inconsiderate? I don't think so. I am here for the forums not to send and receive messages from ones who are less than half my age and send 1 word messages like Hi or How are you? I have been on this site for a long time and over that time I have learned to spot a lot of undesirables trying to get me to give up personal information or go offsite to chat. If they do, I report them which is the best course of action.
I would suggest you spend more time in the forums. That is where most of the real people spend their time. Just don't be so impatient because you do not get a reply to any message you send. You have only been here for 3 days. You have to give it time my friend. Good luck to you.

Most mens are very impolite.i have this experience and i respond their message with sorry i cant .but they insult.why really

No response, is a response.
Move on.

I should be so lucky as to receive all those messages! I have set my filters to age and distance that are both close to me, so nobody can message me from too far away. That doesn't stop those silly young (very young) scantily clad scammers from looking at my profile or adding me to their favourites. Obviously unsuitable for me and they get reported.

I have had only a few messages from suitable people and because there are so few of them I always reply, just to see where it goes.

When someone says on their profile that they are only here for the forums then surely common sense tells you that there is no point in making any dating contact with them. I'm sure there are many, like me, who enjoy reading and posting on the forums, with no desire to do anything else - but I'm always open to offers if you match my filters!

Enjoy the site, contribute to the forums, set your filters appropriately, delete and report those aho are obviously not genuine, and you will have a great time!