So, you can't get a date, at least I can't, and that's deppresing.
So, you get 1 of these new Star Trek phones, that allow you to look at pictures of naked people, as well as make phone calls
Then you decide, maybe you should stop looking at pictures of naked people. It is after all, why you never got a star trek phone in the first place.
And then think, maybe I'll have a go on 1 of these dating site things. So you do. After over 6 months, getting on for a year, without any realistic chance of a date, and not a great deal of communication. You realize, what you'd already realized, after about a month
You ain't gonna get a date
So then, after numerous conversations about Donald Trump, Socialists, and just what the scriptures do and don't advocate.
You decide to write this.
Will it be frowned upon?
Will it be removed?
Will it get lost in the cracks of the mingle 2 pavement, whilst Donald Trumps new Socialist old testament Bible breaks all known records and reaches 10 million comments in half an hour.
Will it be moved, for being semantically in the wrong section.
Is there a question here?
Is it deppresing ?
Will I get the poison tipped umbrella and dissapear down and trap door, for writing this?

Probably not, lol. But until you start seeing things in a positive light, things most likely won't change for you!

Good luck to you R2

I agree that dating sites can be depressing at times. I almost gave up a few times.

I used to just chat with people on other sites as well as this one. I made some friends with whom I would chat on a regular basis. We would compare notes.

On one particular site, I met a few men who were far from anything I actually wanted but I wouldn’t have known if I didn’t try.

I tried to be polite at first and respond to all messages. Then I became more selective.

I also stopped being so particular in the men I would consider dating. Most of us are seeking someone who is what we think we want and somewhat unrealistic.

I responded to someone who didn’t fit into my limited category. We hit it off online and then in person. We’ve been dating for 4 months now and it’s wonderful.

I have been encumbered with similar struggles and seen that similar statistical pattern. Life is like a game to me, and I find energy in seeking new sources of inspiration. I will probably not find a date. Online, that is. I have to seek awareness of what I do not know, because in the mystery I find peace in the ever changing experience, where I can detach from the objectives and means. The M2 community is very important to me. Your experiences corroborate mine, and increase my awareness. You are good. Do we agree?

That missing chocolate bar really hit you hard hu?
I suppose it can be depressing, for those of us not in the first flush of youth. But we cant expect too much from it. we just have to play to our strengths. wit sociability etc. I wouldn't mind betting that you would be fun to be around, in a social setting. I haven't had a lot of attention either, so you're not alone mate.lol.

Pfffft, depressing.
Dating sites are the most amusing places in the world.
A microcosm of the real world, on speed.
A New York state-of-mind..in a border town.
The unknown, the too-well known.
It is what you bring to it.

A microcosm of community. I thought this...

Yes, I think they are for the most part too many scammers and fake people out there!
Thank goodness for FB...that’s where I reconnected with my FIRST love after
37 years and ultimately married him last October
I’m so happy

Depends on what "dating" site you Visit !

Absolutely true! you got to find one that suits you, meaning has the men that you like. If there's possibility to browse photos before membership, that's great. Then you quickly find out. Unfortunately most better sites are paid for and shield photos and profiles from non-members. A good thing really, but it means you got to become a member to find out.
That's how I ended up on the wrong dating site. Been there before, hoped it had changed. It has not. Mostly depressing men on there. Either they are or they make me feel depressed, haha. The overload of wrong men for me is too much, lol.
Needless to say I will not extent membership and never become a member there again.

Tinder seems very promising. I've seen more quality men on there than any other dating site.

Depressing? No.

These sites are as entertaining as the
Comedy Central network.

Possibly because you are using it/them wrong?


Many.
A decent question might be "How best to utilize dating sites as a tool to acquire dates and only dates, and how to ralize and avoid the negative path of using them as a "social site?"


Do you really feel "writing this" is a threat to anyone with any kind of power?

Crystal........I found that site was horrible.

I went fishing for my man.

They can be. I found that dating in general can be depressing-If you let it get to you. That's the big trick. Not letting get to you.

Every so often, some wiseass will tell me that I'm not trying hard enough. What they don't realise, is that I'd like to have some sort of do-it-yourself missile to throw at them. That's a very poor thing to tell anyone.

It took me a while to figure this out. They have no idea how hard it is for you, or me, to date. I don't see cues some women may use in showing interest. They have to be glaringly obvious for me to see it.

I had to conquer my depression, and I did.

If dating sites are making you depressed, don't go there.
Turn off your computer and go to the nearest pub. Cheers!



Making your way in the world today
Takes everything you got
Taking a break from all your worries
It sure would help a lot
Wouldn't you like to get away?

Sometimes you want to go
Where everybody knows your name
And they're always glad you came
You want to be where you can see
The troubles are all the same
You want to be where everybody knows your name

You want to go where people know
The people are all the same
You want to go where everybody knows your name

Songwriters: Gary Portnoy / Judy Hart

Alfredson, I love you. I think in many things we agree, you do put a nice slant on it
Of course the missing chocolate was a deeply traumatic experience, and I shall keep my eye on the deviant, should we cross paths again
My local pub is in India, and everybody loved coach.
How best to utilize dating sites, that would certainly be a most excellent thread.
Am I a threat to those in power? Well I guess you'd have to ask them, I mean you never know.
I've never tried tinder, and I get hacked more often than a pine forest, so my bank details, are never going in a star trek phone.

Hi JBH! I'm still wondering... is you partner the one from the Soulmate card or not?

I think the problem is not with the dating sites but likely more your communication skills and how you show up. Those matter a lot, whether online or offline. If you have problems communicating with a woman, you will have that problem online as well.
I think 99% of men who send a decent message to a girl will get a reply.
Crap things like "Hi beautiful, I like your smile" won't. We get so many of those a day!
Look at someone's profile and interests. If they're yours too or they interest you, mention that, address that.
Work on your communication skills. That has nothing to do with dating sites.
And get a decent photo of yourself. No cap, not so dark, show your face and SMILE!
Make sure you have a decent name too.
A name that suggest you're still in your "boy" phase doesn't help, neither does one that suggests sexual stuff.

If you got that sussed Bob's your uncle. Everything hinges on your communication AND your presentation of yourself. The latter hinging on how you see yourself of course.
So you see, it's not about dating sites, it's about you yourself. Just like in real life.

Yes Crystal, It’s been wonderful, 4 months now. We are still finding out things we have in common. Some of it is really freaky like the fact that many years ago, we had the same doctor. We may have actually seen each other before. Who knows?

I tried several dating sites. The only one where I actually met anyone in person was the one where you catch them with your hook.