Does hard working turn you on? When someone of the gender you're attracted to is a hard worker does that turn you on?

What exactly defines 'hard work'? No real physical work in my job as a nurse. But still, mentally very demanding work and not the best of working hours.

Not especially.

I mean, if he's gainfully employed, pays his own bills, has some set aside for an emergency...that's plenty.

I have no interest in a workaholic guy, or someone who works 12-14 hours a day, 6 days a week...when would he have any time to get together?

Someone good with their hands is a turn on, personally.

as others said 'hard working' is a subjective standard. But I do get turned off by laziness.

Absolutely it is a turn-on.

And if you want to experience it, get married to someone who has
no intention of EVER working and follows through.

Anyone in America can be a millionaire if they keep a steady
job for 30 years, plus or minus.

Even earned sweat is sweet ;-)

Well, then my ex wife was downright lazy. Thinking getting married means, I have to provide for everything and do all housework. Glad she is gone

Depends on what she's working hard at.

It's kind of a turn on for me. I think it's more so that I respect and admire them for being a hard worker.

Maybe.
Depends on a lot of factors.

I mean seeing some mentally challenged person sitting on a fence working hard trying to make a dollar out of 15 cents, isn't really a turn on.

Some fat chick working hard to push open a door that has a sign that says "pull" on it isn't really a turn on.

A hot chick in a bikini all bent over, working hard to clean out a port-a-potty, covered in fecal matter, brown streaks, with her hands dyed blue, isn't really a turn on.

Coming home after work and my girlfriend, wife, or date starts whining about how hard they worked and so they're entitled to something from me, isn't really a turn on.

Sitting around watching t.v. while my wife, girlfriend, or whatever is hard working and giving me dirty looks, isn't really a turn on.

Coming home and seeing my wife working hard to carnally please the neighbors dog, isn't really a turn on.


...I think I prefer it when it doesn't take any work at all to turn me on.

If I ever meet someone she won't necessarily have to be hardworking, but I do expect her to be gainfully employed.

I am attracted to women who are professional because it indicates they have the capacity for dedication and commitment but that is the only real significance and it is undermined by them referring to themselves as experts.

I had a career as a truck mechanic.
I kept myself up to date and attained my certifications and training because I am a professional.
If someone refers to me as an expert, I deny it immediately.
Most people that think they are experts tend to be narcissistic.
There is a difference between professional and expert.

I don't think hard working people is a turn on, you expect people to be hard working. Lazy people are definitely a turn off but that doesn't mean hard working people are a turn on for being the opposite.

By "turn on" do you mean in the sexual sense?

In that sense, I don't think her dedicated working attitude (hard working) is a turn on completely but it does allow me to have pride in her accomplishments which can turn me on that way (among her other qualities).

I guess it all depends on how you define "hard working" and "turn on".

I do know that someone who "over-works" herself doesn't really have the time and energy to dedicate herself fully to our relationship.

If she has a career, and is a dedicated professional, I have pride in her accomplishments and that pride can result in me being attracted to her.

I was a hard worker.
Dedicated to my profession to the point I would do anything as needed.
It did affect my marriage adversely (from her point of view) but it helped me be more dedicated to my commitment of marriage.

Work and home were separate things for me.

I know my gf doesn't have a career but she works at home and works very hard when she works.
When I see her and she's tired, I try to make her feel better, more relaxed and peaceful. I'm quite proud of her hard working nature and it does show thru in her dedication and commitment to us.

Of course there are limits. I see a workaholic as a self centered person, that's a turn off. It's also a turn off for someone to work while sick, as that is very selfish and dangerous. Not only if the illness is contagious, but if you are sick and there is an accident, you put yourself and others in unnecessary danger. I get why people do it, but at the same time it's not worth it.

Now, one who does their job and goes beyond, ex. helping others when they have their job done, that's a turn on.

I would expect any adult to be earning a living/ have a regular income.

I would expect them to have at least what *I* have.

As I have said before, if someone is working 12-14 hours a day, 6 days a week..when would he possibly have time for a relationship..?
I need a partner I can spend time with...not one who works all the time..

What I *don't* have respect for is guys who are afraid to get their hands dirty..
I garden, I have critters, I do my own yard work...if a guy can't do that as well...if he is afraid of a little mud on his shoes (I have run across more than a few of those)...he can move along..

Hard is always good.

And working is always good.

So yes!!

Lazy is intolerable.

I think it is a great attribute but it can come at a personal cost . I certainly work hard but my job is my passion and I have learned the importance of offsetting work and recreation . My lifestyle is very healthy and helps me to achieve that balance . I love men who are driven and have aspirations to succeed .. in most cases they know the value of hard work

I tend to like hard working people ... becouse now what every I do is hard work ... for me anyway ... but you B*tch about hard work ... then that turns me off ... If i know their job then most of the time ...it is hard work ... but don't take a attitude about it ... or try and tell me how hard it is ... I am old enough to know what hard work is and is not ... these days ...