nothing to worry about

Bingo....if you are insecure in a relationship jealousy is rooted in the fear of losing something you think belongs to you which makes jealousy an irrational emotion since you can't own anyone.

Was this humor from Rodney?

"He has a nice butt!"
I look, yes, I can see why you might think he has a nice butt.
"She has a nice chest"
Just because I can appreciate it doesn't mean I want to end our relationship so I can be with her instead.

The whole idea of this type of jealousy says a lot about the relationship you are currently in.

"She's pretty but I choose to be with you" is not just a line.
Many men think this way but stay with their woman because its their CHOICE to do so.
Many women have these same opinions but CHOOSE to stay with their man instead.

If someone is going to mess around on your relationship, jealousy is not going to prevent it.
What jealousy will do is make you unhappy or angry.

"That woman at the store was checking out you butt and you treated her like she was important!"
"So? She's pretty but I choose to be with you"
"You liked it"
"Yeah, so?" then "I still came home with you?"
If you can't take these things at face value, jealousy already has a hold on you.

Too often, the jealous mind creates the conditions that support the jealousy.
She is convinced that I was flirting when I wasn't.
He is convinced that she was flirting but she wasn't.
Everything that happens, no matter how insignificant is now more proof of the infidelity, even when it has absolutely nothing at all to do with anything.
I've lived this.
Oh the demons I can create if I am ate up with jealousy.

Thing is, its a fragile thread that establishes the line between jealousy and reality.
Jealousy can actually create the conditions you fear which make you jealous.
It all depends on how severe the jealousy is and the constitution of they one you are jealous over.

You can't just dismiss jealousy in another. It can grow so out of hand it becomes an issue that affects the relationship. To beat the jealousy, the target must demonstrate their sincerity towards your relationship. But, it also requires the jealous one to accept that sincerity.
The keywords are sincerity and acceptance.

Now, there are cases where you chose poorly and the jealousy is a warning sign of that poor choice.
This usually happens when someone thinks they have control over another but really don't.
Control is a bad choice for establishing a relationship.

Well I just had an interesting experience yesterday that I will share since I started this thread out of curiosity.

My boyfriend dated his daughters fiancé’s mother. Confusing, definitely.

So my boyfriend is house and dog sitting for his daughter and her fiancé. He asked me to spend the week with him at their house. Yesterday, we went out to run errands. Apparently while we were out, the mother (his ex gf) dropped by the house. She has a key, it’s her sons house. Now she thought he was there alone. Why did she go there?

Should I be jealous? Once you answer, I will tell you what happened.

Suspicious yes ! Jealous ? To early to tell without facts

Dangerfield in deed .

I don't get jealous....I get angry. In fact I have been overcome with rage, just ask the guy I caught my ex-wife with.

Did he beat you , Smartazz ?

On the advice of legal counsel I must assert my 5th amendment rights regarding the afore mentioned incident.

What facts do you need?

Just giving my opinion of "suspicious" rather then "jealous" based only on what you've told us JBH .
You did say though that you omitted some details that would point to a conclusion .

Doesn't matter what she does, it only matters what he does.

I can't say if you should be jealous or not... it's not my place to tell someone how they should feel. If I were in that kind of situation it would depend more on how the man I'm with acts around her. If he says they are done, then I'd give him the benefit of doubt. If for some reason I started feeling jealous, it's up to me to look at it and find out where it's coming from. Also possibly talking with him about it might help... but the let it go, especially if he reassures me there's nothing to worry about.

So what happened?

Nosey Nelly

Well she did say she'd tell us after we answered

Hi River, I always look forward to your answers.

I haven't met her yet but probably will at some point so I don't know how he acts around her.

She did call when we returned home. The bf told her that I was staying there with him. Then she said we left the door unlocked which was BS. So maybe she wasn't happy about me being there. Just a guess.

I did feel jealous and talked to the bf about it. He said he is not interested in her at all. He promised his daughter that he would remain civil with her future mother in law. He said I have nothing to worry about and I do believe him and I'm good with it now.

Yay.... I'm glad it went well for you

JBH
Sounds like your bf's ex gf wants to keep up with him!

Sometimes a man is more attractive to a woman, when he has a gf.

That's kinda what I was thinking. I'm still not sure but she dumped him for no apparent reason. Who knows? Definitely her loss and maybe she realizes it now.

Trust you gut JBH ! Not your hear .
You know deep within what is going on . If it stinks like fish run .
Only you can determine what is fact and what is fiction .
She might just be a trouble maker like River though
Jk- River