Okay, we've had a few wonderful love stories of late from members, I'm going to share another one.
No, not about me, I am still sodding around with putting my dating shoes on, or not, hihi.

My daughter... when it comes to love it has always been difficult. Abusive and/or unavailable boyfriends and partners. The one she left behind was abusive as well, verbally, physically, emotionally.
When she came back to Holland the pattern of attracting unavailable men kept repeating, including with the last guy. But... then something happened that was deeply emotional and it brought them together. It helped him to open his eyes and his heart.
They're now very happy, and she's moving in with him this week.

I am SO happy for my girl as for the first time EVER she now has a man who is good to her, cares about her, loves her and has committed to her.

And for the non-believers who say that you can't find love via an online site; they met on Tinder.
I keep hearing more and more about couples that met on Tinder btw.

All that happened in a short time-span at that, some 4 months.
Go figure how important it is to have strong bonding moments, EXACTLY what Matthew Hussey and other dating coaches are always talking about.
It does NOT have to take forever to get from A to Z. If the click is right, the bonding is there, it can go real fast.

My younger daughter (she's 25) met a guy from Tinder. He's a turd and I'm hoping she flushes him soon.

Congrats to you and your daughter!

It's not about the dating site per say, it has to do with the right people meeting. I agree it doesn't take a long time for a man to make a commitment to a Woman.

I was reading an article from a local magazine recently, and it said that singles in my state tend to be more reclusive than elsewhere for some reason. Meaning you aren't likely to meet someone out and about as much, and if you try to do so, it probably won't be well received here. I found that very insightful.

The conclusion the author came to was that singles in my area actually have to try harder than in other regions. So some people began setting up regular singles events to bring singles together based on a common interest, whether it be dancing, hiking, socializing, or whatever. Well, it was successful for a while, but after about 7 - 10 years, all these groups disappeared. It begs the question of why?

A few reasons. One was aging singles. The younger singles just weren't coming in to refresh the numbers. Another reason is success rate. As with all dating, the success rate of finding a match is low. A lot of singles give up because of that. If it's not working, they try something different rather than sticking with it while diversifying their approach by doing multiple approaches. Thirdly, it's that reclusive thing. Many singles would rather take their chances at a bar or just stay home. Or if they do go out, they just aren't willing to put the effort in to meeting new people or being receptive to being approached by new people. And lastly, we have the "friend zone". Can you imagine how many prospects at a singles mixer end up getting stuck as friend instead? In an area where singles tend to be less outgoing, repeatedly going to a mixer only to keep getting stuck in the friend zone is a bit discouraging. So eventually they just stop going.



My point is that many people don't put in the effort, and it makes them blind to the real opportunities that exist around them -- much as Cranky was saying in another thread. Sometimes it takes some major emotional event to shake people out of it so they go out on a limb.

Seems like that's what happened with Dee, Tx_Girl, and now Crystal's daughter.

Now if only it would happen for me.

Actually it might. We'll see. Learned something just yesterday that caught me off-guard. Not in *that* way per se, but I do recognize the possibility of an opportunity....and it will be interesting to see if things actually do begin heading in that direction. Right now, I just have an intuitive sense.

Congratulations!

Good to read that crystal. I hope it all works out in the end.

Eh for sum the online thing works out great. For others the grocery store. As was stated it all depends on the people.

I met a girl on-line once and she stole all my butter.

She must have needed it more than you.

But, But, I'm the butter -man.

Maybe she was trying to butter up the muffin man.

It's rare but does happen that people change. Hopefully this is one of those rare cases where he really has changed. Seems things are moving fast, but that's not always a bad thing. I hope what they have is real and what they both deserve.

I got a very similar problem with the area I live in that's why I resorted to dating sites so I can look for men in other areas, and they can find me as well.
The problem is that many men whinge about distance. Even an hour's drive seems to be too much effort. So it's a matter of finding the right one who doesn't give a toss. Had that happen before with my ex, so it is possible for sure.
And kind of weird, likely something in my own vibration as before I met my ex I dated (meet & greets) men who all lived between 2 - 3,5 hrs away. None of them gave a toss about it. Now I bump into men who do complain about it, so I guess it's me, me not being completely ready yet.

The singles thing... we have a similar thing in the Netherlands, Single Events. It is not aiming to get people together in relationship so much, more to organize fun things for single people so they don't wither at home on their own.
Unfortunately it's mostly stuff I don't like, for instance long walks, cooking together, etc.
And most of it is -again- NOT in my area...
Nothing is ever in my area, hihi. We have beautiful nature. But few decent jobs (restaurants / hotels mostly, so crazy hours), no nice men (not my type), no nice places to go out to, little gets organized here like on our National Liberation day. Nothing much here while everywhere else there's huge festivals with bands and singers, for free.
So yeah, I know what you're talking about. It pretty much sucks. Moving seems the best option, but I'm in a benefit situation, so financially not feasible.

I'm keeping faith that the right man for me will show up, regardless. If it can work for other people, it can work for me too :)

Thank you!

Delighted for you and your daughter

It can indeed happen.
And she has the advantage that she has mommy who knows a helluva lot of ins & outs when it comes to relationships & dating, how to go about it and so on. I have given her advice on a few occasions (she asked me) She's a smart woman and picked up on it real fast, haha.

Thank you, Larsi!

For sure! I don't know what percentages are (didn't Tom come up with that a while back?) but I think a helluva lot of people these days find their partner via a dating site.

Very sweet Crystal.

Thanks everyone!

And doesn't it inspire?! Indeed Dee, real Tx girl, my daughter.
It's good to hear about people finding love!