Joined mingle a while back with some hopes to meet some differnet and local women in my area..

I get some replies from posters, but nothing meaningful really but small talk .. normally im the one posting or starting converstions.

Ive had maybe 5 -10 decent connections , but most arent from the area they have put on their profile. Most dont even reply back which doesnt matter as i brush off my shoulder and try my luck elsewhere..

Im wondering if im starting of my conversation incorrectly as it seems to hit a brick wall.. I consider myself polite and courteous when chatting with others..( disclaimer if im 100% sure your a phoney or scammer , i will give reply with a smarta$$ comment lol )
Back to my orginal question though am i going about this all wrong shall i be thinking outside the box and talking dirty and crude , maybe thats what women here are wanting ? Not normal and boring

Opinions ?

Why chase a barracuda if you're a bull frog?

You can put black and white stripes on a donkey, but that don't make it a zebra.

well... it could be what the women you are after are just waiting for you
to do. Give it shot... then tell us when the wedding is gonna be.

I want the honest conversations with real questions. Sure you start out with small talk and ask the usual questions like, what type of work do you do? How many kids do you have and how old are they. What do you like to do, or places you like to go. What is your favorite hang out etc. Those questions should and can lead to finding out more about a person. It let you read between the lines and see who is real and who is fake.
I have found so many fake people on this site already. Just by comparing what they say and what's on there profile.
I even had one guy try to contact me with two different profiles and names but, was the same person in profile pics. Scammer alert!!!

Be truthful and honest, show integrity the right one will come along. You have to be patient you will go through a lot of phonies but, think of all you will learn about yourself and your future mate in the mean time.

There is a distance between strangers. Generally speaking, people are not willing to communicate with unfamiliar strangers. There are too many scammers in the world. People have to maintain distance by getting distance to keep a sense of security. So don't complain that others haven't been too serious to communicate with you.

What if that donkey has a Ferrari?

I am still laughing ... at your expectation of meaningful conversations . Perhaps delete that from your prerequisites and embrace anyone real who you have a dialogue with

sounds like an asset to me

Hii

IDK, but if you put the donkey in the bed of a pickup truck, you can haul arse.

there's nothing wrong to be polite and courteous if thats who you are.. you dont need to change your way just to please someone...

If you are interested in someone Just Message them, it's free.

You may or may not get a response.

IMO lae is correct. Just be yourself. People will like you for you.

Also be careful of those who aren't where their profile states. Just my experience to not trust them.

Feel free to waste your time trying to get into a decent conversation on here!! First, many are not real but someone looking to get something out of you. Most of the rest are not interested in 99+% of the men on here or anywhere else.

Yep...that ^..

Add to that the ones who *only* write to tell you why they *don't* like you/ find you distasteful...and, well....

Some people sure must have more free time than *I* do, and..honey, I have a LOT of free time...

I hate the typical questions asked like "what do you do for a living"," how many kids do you have", how long have you been on this site?" Etc...It feels like an interview. I'd prefer light hearted conversation or joking then eventually the rest comes out. I'd rather get a feel for the persons personality.

You do have to do what's comfortable and feels right to you.

I typically ask people if they like potatoes or corn. Sometimes dive straight into something completely random that crosses my mind. Statistically, I have a 50% reply rate. Though most conversations die within a day. Just be honest and find something you both like discussing.

Well, not that you're asking, but I say potatoes. Corn is okay, but overrated. The potato is good, helps with welders flash and cramps as well. I think it has more nutritional value as well. Plus, you can use it as a battery. Although in a pinch a corn cob can be helpful in certain situations, but I still say the potato wins.

Everyone seems to have high expectations.
Guys want young and pretty; women want well off and secure; most real people on here are just average, only the scammers photos are attractive, so don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.
I'm no looker, and have a weird sense of humour, and been on here for many years, and never met anyone. Had plenty of overseas time wasters and scammers though.
Just say you are a tall dark and handsome doctor and you will get some interest.

The dirty and crude part was a joke, about 35% of the mails im getting are of women claiming to be webcam models or wanting to send me photos outside of the site on several social apps..
No worries im not looking for that anyways..
I usualy start off a normal conversation as an adult would ..and no im not a creep .
Normal questions i ask to get to know someone. Within a few exchanging sentences i can tell if they legit or not.