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Gents, contrary to popular belief a simple hi is your best bet to getting a date off of a dating site. A woman who responds to a simple hi, is down to earth, finds you attractive and most importantly is taking the time to get to know you herself.
While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares. Would you really want to date a woman who thinks she's above a simple hi? Trust me gents, there are quite a few women out there who think they deserve the sun and the moon from you, even before knowing your name. The question is, are you willing to bend over backwards out of desperation to give it to them? Or, do you realize that you yourself are a catch worth pursuing. Let me tell you a little secret, the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason. Don't let a pretty picture fool you into thinking, that you need to give her the world for her to like you. All you need to do, is be better than whoever it was that hurt her. How will she get to know you better? Well that's the other part of the equation, she has to take the time to get to know you. Women who don't respond to a hi, most likely never will invest that required time. They'll get another message from a more eloquent typist who may be more attractive, has a better profile, is a better catch on paper and well it's goodbye, so long. Just look at the same people who post the same advice day in and day out and yet remain single themselves. |
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WOW, all that knowledge & still single, ha ?
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Dr Phil?
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Thu 08/16/18 10:24 AM
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Gs2Awesome said:
"the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason" 1. No. Some of us are widows. 2. The same could be said of guys who are single... "the majority of single *men* out there have been hurt and are single for a reason I find it funny that the guys who make so free with the "advice" to women about why they are still on dating sites/ alone are ~themselves~ on still on dating sites and alone... |
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Majority does not mean all.
Just here to share advice to my fellow gents, if you don't agree that's fine. |
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Single? Nope.
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Gents, contrary to popular belief a simple hi is your best bet to getting a date off of a dating site. A woman who responds to a simple hi, is down to earth, finds you attractive and most importantly is taking the time to get to know you herself. While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares. Would you really want to date a woman who thinks she's above a simple hi? Trust me gents, there are quite a few women out there who think they deserve the sun and the moon from you, even before knowing your name. The question is, are you willing to bend over backwards out of desperation to give it to them? Or, do you realize that you yourself are a catch worth pursuing. Let me tell you a little secret, the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason. Don't let a pretty picture fool you into thinking, that you need to give her the world for her to like you. All you need to do, is be better than whoever it was that hurt her. How will she get to know you better? Well that's the other part of the equation, she has to take the time to get to know you. Women who don't respond to a hi, most likely never will invest that required time. They'll get another message from a more eloquent typist who may be more attractive, has a better profile, is a better catch on paper and well it's goodbye, so long. Just look at the same people who post the same advice day in and day out and yet remain single themselves. the next message should be more significant than ""lol" , what is your email .... Send me a pic .... Some women like receiving lots of messages that just say "hi" on a daily basis .. others become immune and see it as a global message sent to hundreds of random women with no effort to connect . The rules of attraction still apply .. if she finds you attractive based on your profile and pic .. you meet her age , location and social parameters ....and you introduce yourself with hi ... there is a 50% chance she will respond |
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Edited by
mightymoe
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Thu 08/16/18 03:29 PM
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So I should say hi before or with my schlong pic?
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With it and be sure to tell her your schlong can type
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A "hi" is not all that important. You have to have something on your profile.
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A "hi" is not all that important. You have to have something on your profile. hang on cat while i go put "something" on my profile |
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With it and be sure to tell her your schlong can type |
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While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares
You're suggesting a numbers game? mass mailing? |
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I delete, or block, "hi" messages.
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You should write a book, or somethin'.
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For me, one or two-word messages get one or two-word answers. I've been around dating sites for years. I get messages on another site almost daily. The one or two-word message gets ignored. Because to me it shows laziness and that you are really not that interested.
If a person can't string enough words together to make a sentence, I get bored really quick. I have to be able to see some depth in a person. I've talked to some women that could answer anything you say to them in 6 words or less. Some have no depth. I'm sure there are plenty of women that feel this way about some men. I hope no one takes your advice seriously. It's a good way to run off women. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Thu 08/16/18 07:44 PM
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Men should just message what they want to !
I ve gotten all types of messages on here and friend requests that have a message with them. I try to answer all my messages. Even if I am not interested in the Man. My filters are set, so they do fit in my age range! I have No distance preference. There are many men on mingle2 for a date, but Many won't stay for Months !!! Many dating sites more successful out there for Relationship dating!!! |
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On a rare occasion I'll write back to a "hi" and I say "What's up". They never answer.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Thu 08/16/18 08:23 PM
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I 've answered some messages and the man says why you on a dating site , if you're not looking!
I said because I'M on another site looking! They then disappear. |
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To each their own. If replying with sarcasm makes you feel better about yourselves that's fine. I post here every couple of months and the same people, I guess the 'regulars' always have something witty to say. I get it, it's good feeling you belong to a community of similar views. Even if your outdated approach warrants no dates or no long term successful relationships. While it's nice that you 'sincere' caring folks, continue to give advice on how to improve profiles, the do's and don'ts of online dating... months to years on end, you're still here. Alone. Have you ever stopped and asked yourselves why that is? Maybe your approach needs work in itself. |
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