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Topic: Hi is the best first message
Gs2Awesome's photo
Thu 08/16/18 01:36 AM
Gents, contrary to popular belief a simple hi is your best bet to getting a date off of a dating site. A woman who responds to a simple hi, is down to earth, finds you attractive and most importantly is taking the time to get to know you herself.

While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares. Would you really want to date a woman who thinks she's above a simple hi? Trust me gents, there are quite a few women out there who think they deserve the sun and the moon from you, even before knowing your name. The question is, are you willing to bend over backwards out of desperation to give it to them? Or, do you realize that you yourself are a catch worth pursuing.

Let me tell you a little secret, the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason. Don't let a pretty picture fool you into thinking, that you need to give her the world for her to like you. All you need to do, is be better than whoever it was that hurt her. How will she get to know you better? Well that's the other part of the equation, she has to take the time to get to know you. Women who don't respond to a hi, most likely never will invest that required time. They'll get another message from a more eloquent typist who may be more attractive, has a better profile, is a better catch on paper and well it's goodbye, so long.

Just look at the same people who post the same advice day in and day out and yet remain single themselves.

MK2's photo
Thu 08/16/18 05:46 AM
WOW, all that knowledge & still single, ha ?spock

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Thu 08/16/18 09:17 AM
Dr Phil? spock

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Thu 08/16/18 10:22 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Thu 08/16/18 10:24 AM
Gs2Awesome said:

"the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason"slaphead


1. No.
Some of us are widows.

2. The same could be said of guys who are single...
"the majority of single *men* out there have been hurt and are single for a reason

I find it funny that the guys who make so free with the "advice" to women about why they are still on dating sites/ alone are ~themselves~ on still on dating sites and alone... laugh

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Thu 08/16/18 02:54 PM
Majority does not mean all.

Just here to share advice to my fellow gents, if you don't agree that's fine.

Gs2Awesome's photo
Thu 08/16/18 02:54 PM
Single? Nope.

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Thu 08/16/18 03:23 PM

Gents, contrary to popular belief a simple hi is your best bet to getting a date off of a dating site. A woman who responds to a simple hi, is down to earth, finds you attractive and most importantly is taking the time to get to know you herself.

While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares. Would you really want to date a woman who thinks she's above a simple hi? Trust me gents, there are quite a few women out there who think they deserve the sun and the moon from you, even before knowing your name. The question is, are you willing to bend over backwards out of desperation to give it to them? Or, do you realize that you yourself are a catch worth pursuing.

Let me tell you a little secret, the majority of single women out there have been hurt and are single for a reason. Don't let a pretty picture fool you into thinking, that you need to give her the world for her to like you. All you need to do, is be better than whoever it was that hurt her. How will she get to know you better? Well that's the other part of the equation, she has to take the time to get to know you. Women who don't respond to a hi, most likely never will invest that required time. They'll get another message from a more eloquent typist who may be more attractive, has a better profile, is a better catch on paper and well it's goodbye, so long.

Just look at the same people who post the same advice day in and day out and yet remain single themselves.

some thoughts on starting with hi .....

the next message should be more significant than ""lol" ,
what is your email ....
Send me a pic ....


Some women like receiving lots of messages that just say "hi" on a daily basis .. others become immune and see it as a global message sent to hundreds of random women with no effort to connect .

The rules of attraction still apply .. if she finds you attractive based on your profile and pic .. you meet her age , location and social parameters ....and you introduce yourself with hi ... there is a 50% chance she will respond biggrin waving

mightymoe's photo
Thu 08/16/18 03:28 PM
Edited by mightymoe on Thu 08/16/18 03:29 PM
So I should say hi before or with my schlong pic?

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Thu 08/16/18 04:04 PM
With it and be sure to tell her your schlong can type :wink: biggrin

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Thu 08/16/18 04:52 PM
A "hi" is not all that important. You have to have something on your profile.

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Thu 08/16/18 04:57 PM

A "hi" is not all that important. You have to have something on your profile.

hang on cat while i go put "something" on my profilebigsmile

mightymoe's photo
Thu 08/16/18 05:52 PM

With it and be sure to tell her your schlong can type :wink: biggrin
that might be a secret best left discovered...

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Thu 08/16/18 05:58 PM
While it's true 99% of women may not respond back, who cares



You're suggesting a numbers game? mass mailing? laugh slaphead

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Thu 08/16/18 06:04 PM
I delete, or block, "hi" messages.

Rock's photo
Thu 08/16/18 06:09 PM
You should write a book, or somethin'. :thumbsup:





slaphead



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Thu 08/16/18 07:00 PM
For me, one or two-word messages get one or two-word answers. I've been around dating sites for years. I get messages on another site almost daily. The one or two-word message gets ignored. Because to me it shows laziness and that you are really not that interested.

If a person can't string enough words together to make a sentence, I get bored really quick. I have to be able to see some depth in a person.

I've talked to some women that could answer anything you say to them in 6 words or less. Some have no depth.

I'm sure there are plenty of women that feel this way about some men.

I hope no one takes your advice seriously. It's a good way to run off women.


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Thu 08/16/18 07:41 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 08/16/18 07:44 PM
Men should just message what they want to !

I ve gotten all types of messages on here and friend requests that have a message with them.

I try to answer all my messages. Even if I am not interested in the Man.

My filters are set, so they do fit in my age range! I have No distance preference.

There are many men on mingle2 for a date, but Many won't stay for Months !!!

Many dating sites more successful out there for Relationship dating!!!




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Thu 08/16/18 08:00 PM
On a rare occasion I'll write back to a "hi" and I say "What's up". They never answer.

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Thu 08/16/18 08:22 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 08/16/18 08:23 PM
I 've answered some messages and the man says why you on a dating site , if you're not looking!

I said because I'M on another site looking! laugh They then disappear.




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Thu 08/16/18 08:40 PM

To each their own. If replying with sarcasm makes you feel better about yourselves that's fine. I post here every couple of months and the same people, I guess the 'regulars' always have something witty to say. I get it, it's good feeling you belong to a community of similar views. Even if your outdated approach warrants no dates or no long term successful relationships. While it's nice that you 'sincere' caring folks, continue to give advice on how to improve profiles, the do's and don'ts of online dating... months to years on end, you're still here. Alone. Have you ever stopped and asked yourselves why that is? Maybe your approach needs work in itself.
well I will only speak for myself ., the forums for me are social entertainmemt .. I am not seeking anything other than to be part on an online international community . I am sure others post for similar reasons . Mingle is a social site . Not just for dating ., which is why there is a friendship option waving

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