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Sounds suicidal. Or maybe looking for attention? No profile.
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Hi all. I wanted to ask this question to people who know more about this stuff than me. I've never had a gf or dated, and am a virgin. I'm 27. I'll spare you a long, boring word salad about my life and problems and cut right to the chase. I've concluded that dating/sex/love/relationships aren't for me, and I pretty much know it won't ever happen for me (for many reasons I won't get into). Instead of continuing along this disillusioned path thinking one day it'll happen, or trying to "improve myself" to make girls like me, I'd rather just accept it for what it is and just move on. The problem Is, like all biological beings, the desire is still there. I want to purge the desire for it so I can live peacefully. I'd like to discuss the possibilities of doing so here. Thanks. |
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That's harsh, moe and you know that.
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Hi all. I wanted to ask this question to people who know more about this stuff than me. I've never had a gf or dated, and am a virgin. I'm 27. I'll spare you a long, boring word salad about my life and problems and cut right to the chase. I've concluded that dating/sex/love/relationships aren't for me, and I pretty much know it won't ever happen for me (for many reasons I won't get into). Instead of continuing along this disillusioned path thinking one day it'll happen, or trying to "improve myself" to make girls like me, I'd rather just accept it for what it is and just move on. The problem Is, like all biological beings, the desire is still there. I want to purge the desire for it so I can live peacefully. I'd like to discuss the possibilities of doing so here. Thanks. So far the most unique post i have ever read here in a dating site. You could try to be a monk? Good luck .... |
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Even if you become a nun or a monk, there is some kind of desire. Just a different kind. You dedicate your life to religion, but not to another human being.
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Besides, being 27 and having no partner. So what, sometimes love hits you at a later stage. My next door neighbor was in his 50s when he got married.
And never listen to the signs of peer pressure. |
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That's harsh, moe and you know that. |
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I don't want help. I don't wish to pursue the world of dating/sex/relationships. I've made a decision to detach and forget it. I'm trying to find out how one can eliminate the desire for sex or companionship etc... I know it might sound bizarre, but that's honestly what I wish to do. Go ask your doctor for some pills that chemically 'castrates' you. As for the rest, I think what you are trying to do is denying your humanity. Nr 1) Everyone needs love. It comes with being human and being alive. Nr 2) Everyone has sexual desires. The thing is, if you'd be able to ' kill' sexual desire you will also kill the drive to create, to be spontaneous, to take action and so on and so forth. Sex-drive is not just about sex-drive, it's also about the drive and passion to do others things (everything basically) in life. And to be honest, I doubt you could separate these, as in get rid of sex-drive and keep the rest. What I don't get... if you truly don't want a relationship, what's wrong with sexual feelings? You can still enjoy that by yourself. Sexuality is not about shagging someone, first and foremost it's about being able to enjoy the pleasure it brings you, enjoying your physical body. That isn't tied to a relationship or another person. Plenty of people don't have a relationship nor sex with another, but still enjoy their sexuality. There's no one in the world who knows how to please you other than you. I'm not in a relationship, nor sharing myself with someone else. I still wholeheartedly enjoy my sexuality. So this is more than just not wanting a relationship... And as such I agree with diserli: Get help Chemical castration does not purge sexual desires . It just cuts power to your tools so you can't use it. |
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want to purge the desire for it so I can live peacefully.
Chemical castration does not purge sexual desires . It just cuts power to your tools so you can't use it.
instead of one line answer - let me say a story... Let's say a beautiful teacher takes a math class. The boys go whoa. Te teacher then describes clearly, with drawings how Pascal made the first adding machine that could add and subtract 9 digit figures in the 17th century. she then mentions how a lawyer named Leibnitz in the same century came across the machine and fascinated by the logic bought one. Leibnitz then extended the logic to include multiplication and division. She leaves the class with the problem of discovering how Leibnitz did it in the 17th Century. She also mentions that any student who finds it out first - gets a special treat. (solution is not in Google) One student does work it out - designs the multiplication machine question is: would he or would he not take up the teacher 'on the treat'? For if he does not - OP's problem is partly solved. so the 2nd question, why would he not? Opinion? |
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 I don't want help. I don't wish to pursue the world of dating/sex/relationships. I've made a decision to detach and forget it. I'm trying to find out how one can eliminate the desire for sex or companionship etc... I know it might sound bizarre, but that's honestly what I wish to do. Go ask your doctor for some pills that chemically 'castrates' you. As for the rest, I think what you are trying to do is denying your humanity. Nr 1) Everyone needs love. It comes with being human and being alive. Nr 2) Everyone has sexual desires. The thing is, if you'd be able to ' kill' sexual desire you will also kill the drive to create, to be spontaneous, to take action and so on and so forth. Sex-drive is not just about sex-drive, it's also about the drive and passion to do others things (everything basically) in life. And to be honest, I doubt you could separate these, as in get rid of sex-drive and keep the rest. What I don't get... if you truly don't want a relationship, what's wrong with sexual feelings? You can still enjoy that by yourself. Sexuality is not about shagging someone, first and foremost it's about being able to enjoy the pleasure it brings you, enjoying your physical body. That isn't tied to a relationship or another person. Plenty of people don't have a relationship nor sex with another, but still enjoy their sexuality. There's no one in the world who knows how to please you other than you. I'm not in a relationship, nor sharing myself with someone else. I still wholeheartedly enjoy my sexuality. So this is more than just not wanting a relationship... And as such I agree with diserli: Get help |
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Well said!!
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