Is it really so obvious Blondey? .. Oh boy .. all the secrets are revealed ..
However, the trouble is, seems everyone has noticed, but her .. lol

I know that a guy isn't into you when he calls you a rude, bitter old spinster. Or is he? Hmmm

aww .. I think I read a post where you said you would consider shaving your beard for her ... that is serious ... repost that she may have been listening to your song dedications and missed it

No comment lol

Well .. if the girls tells me so .. that would be definitely a sign that she's seriously into .. and the reason for those words could be I haven't payed enough attention to her signs .. lol

Yeah, I'm pretty dumb in that area.
Shake me and look me in the eye and it sinks in but subtle hints fly right past me. I need direct confirmation.
I dunno, maybe subconsciously I pick up on it but entering into an intimate relationship with someone is fraught with danger to my own sense of purpose.
It makes me vulnerable to someone else and living alone for so long, it scares me sometimes.
Add to it the fact that I have had experiences with women that turn out to be based on her lies. The only reason I haven't given up completely is because my personality type is optimistic.
Someday, Someway, Somehow the right woman will find me and I will see an end to this dating stuff. Who that might be is anybody's guess. I'll know her when I meet her.

Its springtime, I am experiencing higher levels of aggressive sexuality.
I am vulnerable to the Wrong signals right now. The only thing that preserves my integrity is my preference to treat women as people and not objects of sexual satisfaction.
Its a sticky wicket...

Mark Darcy's description of Bridget Jones: "Mother, I do not need a blind date. Particularly not with some verbally incontinent spinster who drinks like a fish, smokes like a chimney, and dresses like her mother." Then they go on to have a long relationship, have a baby, and get married. In that order.

Omg! I think that guy who insulted me actually wants me!

You really crack me up dear

No Sis, I'm still in the forums. I'm talking about the other part of Mingle.. where you search for matches and those who try to get to know you that have never been to the forums. From what I understand, that's the dating section and the forums are more social. Although I imagine you could set up a date in the forums playing the games.

That seems to be my problem as well... either that or he doesn't care

In this particular scenerio Sis... No he's not! Maybe if you hadn't met yet it could be somewhat understandable for the on/off thing. If he hasn't met you yet, he may be apprehensive and want to wait until you actually meet before drawing conclusions. The hot/cold thing and somewhere in between could be him not wanting to get to close until after you actually meet face to face and he knows you are serious about going to him.

But, since there has already been a meeting, he's already seen you and continues to do this... I agree with aussie, he's stringing you along until something better comes along, and the in between thing could be when others that he's trying out just aren't working for some reason. As hard and painful as it is... the woman needs to drop him and move on. HE does not deserve her! He is a player and is doing the same thing to other women that he's doing to her!

And I'm getting more inclined to believe that even the one who you haven't met yet that does that kind of thing really isn't into to you either....

If he's not messaging you (where he initiates the message) and making an effort to get to know you better outside of the forums... works towards enhancing the relationship before the actual meeting... remembers you on Valentines Day or other holidays... and takes part in making the meeting actually happen... then he's just not into you.

Aww, boo hoo. Players stink. I've dealt with them.

Yes they do, I have as well. I think online it's a little more difficult to determine who the stinkers are.

Keeping her in the background so to speak.. simmering. But like someone else said incase his current one isn't the one.. someone to fall back on.

then maybe it is time to be LESS subtle. i have a slightly used club you can borrow

Okay Eric... Fess Up!

I hope that used club isn't too bloody.

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