I have to agree with aussieguy..if one is asking themselves is he that into you ..then it's because he's shown you that he isn't.that person is just having a problem admitting it to themselves..I don't know maybe they're hanging on because it's all they have and they don't want to believe that it isn't going to go any farther than it has...they know ..

..perhaps they're looking for a glimmer of hope in the words of a stranger..But still the advice is based on limited information so it must be taken with a grain of salt..

with so little information I would say it's probably time to move on ..sad to say..but if that person doesn't make you feel the love you thirst than it's time to find the one that does and quit allowing that person to string them along..and quit allowing themselves to be strung along..

And honestly I think if that person were to be honest with themself..they already know the answer..they're just having a hard time facing the truth..


jmo w/a grain of salt

This is tricky, seriously. It depends on so many things, especially the exact guy and his background.

I know some men, and women as well, who you can tell are "into you," by the fact that they ARGUE WITH YOU A LOT. I think in those cases, it's similar to how you know your parent loves you...they keep bugging you to take care of yourself one way and another.

Being effusive with praise seems to be rare, except in film and on TV. In fact, I've known more "players" who praised women all the time, than men who genuinely had log term intentions.

Going silent after you tell them how you feel, can be complicated too. If it's for a fairly short time, like a week or two, that's one thing. Longer than that, if you know them more online than off, can still be okay. But if the guy still hasn't responded after a year, then I suspect you're either dealing with a guy in severe inner turmoil, or a guy who doesn't want anything more than whatever it is he has with you right then.

How do you tell overall, if a guy is "into you?" You can tell I like you, if I continue to initiate interaction with you. But I've had women complain before, that when I finally think they like me, that I tend to go quiet, and confuse them. Which reminds me of a joke about a sort of autistic kid.

"The parents thought everything was fine the first year or two, because the baby didn't cry much, and as he grew, he seemed cooperative and learned as they expected. But he never spoke. Then during dinner, when he was six and a half, he suddenly looked up and said "the carrots are under-cooked."

Everyone dropped their forks and knives and stared in stunned silence for a moment, and then his mother asked "Why haven't you spoken before???!!??"

And he answered "Everything was alright until now."

A lot of guys can be that way. You can tell they are happy with you because they are quiet, and go about their lives with you in it as a regular part of everything.

Well how are we going to know then silly?

Burn baby Burn!

Guess this question is more for the ladies, but .. I'd say you will notice those signs for sure. Unusual behavior on his side .. when a decent and normal dude turns completely nuts, acting like a 15 ys old kid, lol.
When it comes to our website .. If there is a guy, who is following your forum posts, replying after an each one, trying to make you laugh, playing games with you and only you, and sending you PMs twice a day (if you haven't blocked him already of course), then it's definitely a sign that something is going on .. and some measures have to be taken ..
How to react? .. Guess it's up to you now.

Signs he is not into you ...

He breaks up with you in public and gets s new girlfriend .. a pretty obvious sign he is not into you

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Deciphering the man code. Lol

Usually when what MrBeeKeeper described happens, he is someone I am not interested in.

If you knew the answer it would spoil the fun don’t you think.

This thread is funny.

You guys crack me up!

If your question is sincere there are a few ways to tell if a guy is interested in you on a dating site, even without messages and proclamations.
It kinda works for either gender too.

Repeat visits to your profile, day after day. Sometimes multiple times a day.

When I'm really into a woman I will keep checking her profile for updates.
Looking for that one thing that indicates that she might be interested in meeting someone like me or an indication that she is not right for me.

Unlike some men, I am not forward (kinda shy) about contacting women. I'm aware there are much 'prettier' men out there. Meaning, what I offer can't be quantified by normal measures. You gotta know me to love me.

I might also take notice of the forum topics they start and how they respond to others in the forums. I might comment, quote or merely read their replies.

See, with most dating sites, this one included, when you view someones profile they get a minder of activity. They know when someone views their profile day after day, I notice it and message that person.
It means they are interested in something about you. The only way to know what it is they are interested in, is to message them and ask or do a series of changes over time to the contents of your profile.

If you change your profile and their interest wanes, chances are they were interested in a specific thing about your profile and not you as a whole.
If they continue to visit you, no matter the changes, they are likely interested in you as a person and may just be too shy to actually tell you.

When he calls and talks to you for 2-3hrs
He tells you he thinks you are a lovely person.
Asks you to go out to a outing, because he enjoys your company.

Just a few things in person. If you are online, meeting in person should be scheduled soon or loose him!

When he calls and talks to you for 2-3hrs
He tells you he thinks you are a lovely person.
Asks you to go out to a outing, because he enjoys your company.

Just a few things in person. If you are online, meeting in person should be scheduled soon or loose him!

tom . I read an article which claimed it was a fallacy men make the first move when it comes to attraction .. the article claimed women do with non verbal language .. though. It sure how that translates online . Lol

It would get mine as well, but it would have to be something he said in a private message for me to take it serious. If he is being all sweet and flirtatious in the forums but doesn't message me privately or say anything if he does message me, then I can't help but think it's just my imagination and he isn't really interested.

As far as the bad side, yes I've experienced that many times... although since I left the dating part of the site, I don't pay attention to those kind of messages anymore.

I am good at reading who is into who ..,

Lars seems to be smitten with miss afib

Pisces is always calling out someone's name .,

Mr bee is always dedicating songs to a certain blonde ..,

Laughing .. could it be the first stirrings of love

If a guy is into you ..you will know it..because you won't even think of

asking the question..."is he into you"...and being on the back burner

means you're not on the front burner...which means there are things that

are before you..they are on the front burner...If we were talking in

terms of the theatre ..all that is important to him would be on stage and

you would be waiting in the wings...

Very informative Igor! Interesting read too! Thanks.

whewwwwww......I thought my secret was out.