Is it considered manly for a man to have a temper tantrum ???

what is the best way to help him cope





I often watch how a man reacts .. and his reaction tells me a lot about his character and coping skills .

sometimes help him smash it
sometimes just stand back and let him smash it himself.

while not always appropriate sometimes it just has to all come out now

What are we smashing

I am a lover not a fighter

whatever tripped his tantrum trigger

sometimes being that lover is even better and a better coping aid

i once had a lady friend who could totally diffuse mine with her hand on my arm or even a look from across the room

I don't want to go into details, but there is women out there, who can have bad tantrums as well. I was married to one of them

But maybe there is scientific research about gender related tantrums.

Depending on what it was, I might help you smash it.

But I'm more likely to stand back and let you smash it yourself. Maybe go in the kitchen and do some baking or cooking until you're done and ready for some loving or food.

Being a lover .. sounds like positive reinforcement of a dysfunctional behaviour .. a bit like giving a child candy to subdue him :-)

i'd say more of a positive redirection so logic can over ride the emotional response

I am sure both genders have emotional outbursts .. But my question was .. . Is it considered manly for a man to have an emotional outburst :-) A woman can have a tantrum and it is unlikely to impact significantly on her dating ability . However .. I am not sure the same can be said if a man is prone to emotional tantrums

Some people are experts at passive aggressiveness, I'd rather see someone lose their chit over something relevant and be done with it than to sit in wait as they brew up disturbing energy to finally unleash on the unsuspecting victim.... nicely like.

Hi Blondie

Oh sorry. Gonna answer your question then. I think, men are still considered to be strong and be in control of their emotions ... which for me is old fashioned.

true .. but this isn't about relevance . It is about how men and maleness are perceived ., is it cool for a man to lose his cool so easily . Does a woman not see this as a red flag when selecting a mate .

Having a tantrum because someone does not agree with you . Is not a mark of a man . Having a tantrum because of injustice to another could be seen as being more manly ., it is contextual .,

Haven't seen you in awhile moose

Intriguing question!
A tantrum as in angry? Kind of like blind anger?
I don't like it, I wouldn't say necessary not masculine. Isn't one of the reasons we don't like to see it in a man -more so than in a woman- that a man is much stronger and can come across as a threat when he loses his cool?
The average woman might throw the crockery, a man could throw furniture. Now I don't fancy a plate against my head but someone hurling a coffee table through the room or ramming his fist through a wall is far scarier. It's paralyzingly numbing scary. Or numbing paralyzing scary. Something like that, haha.

Apart from that I do think in a man it is perceived as childish more easily.
I think it also has to do with it being totally disrespectful when it comes to having a tantrum because someone doesn't agree with you. Men are typically all about respect.
Hmm...

I don’t think it is manly, not if it’s directed at a woman. One could consider it bullying, depending on the situation of course.

The Moose is Loose!

dropping someone off at the airport today, the traffic guy comes knocking on my window, says move your vehicle right now... I said, buddy, the lady is stepping out of my vehicle and Imma help her with her luggage, I ain't going nowhere until she's safely on the curb, he tells me he's calling security, (see this is where I lost it) I Said, call who you want you stoopid wannabe, she's almost at the curb ya dumb f@ck

Did I go overboard? maybe a little I think she appreciated my outbust on his sorry arse. See ppl are pricks Blondey and some need to know you won't back down. Maleness needs to be shown

I love your answer crystal and I think you are right . What is alarming is the potential for that loss of control to escalate to a threat . Which is why I always analyse a man's reaction . Laughing ., if he has a meltdown seemingly because someone doesn't agree with him . I would test him further and if there is a pattern . I would dismiss him as a potential mate

I know I shouldn't ., but that made me laugh ., sighing .. you could have just looked at him confused and spoke a different language

no apology necessary . Soceity does have some old fashioned attitudes about genders and emotions . That is slowly changing .. men can embrace their softer sides

Wimps