There is a very good topic about romantic dates already -- https://mingle2.com/topic/542271 -- but this one has a little different approach. Before all the romance to come, you must meet this very special person in real.
Have you ever wondered, how it might look like - these very first
unforgettable moments, when you're about to meet the reality .. that person, whom you've been in touch with so long via the different communication possibilities, but never been able to see or touch each other in real?
Have you imagined, where it might take place? What would you wear, what would you say, what would you do, and how it might feel .. not talking about possibility of having a heart attack, lol?
Don't hesitate to be emotional .. every single view on this subject is very much appreciated.

Through the years i have met a couple of ladies off other sites. Other than meeting in a public place i never have any expectations. I take the first meeting just a greeting so there is no pressure.

As for the dress code. I prefer casual. Might as well be comfortable. definately need comfy running shoes.

I hope it will be very similar to when I met my ex for the first time. Not really having any set expectations. The communication between us had simply been inspiring, wonderfully exhilarating. Upon meeting we had an instant click, magick and chemistry.

I doubt it'll ever be after having been in touch for so long via other means as I don't do that. Waste of time. Best to meet as soon as possible as reality is always different.

-I don't ponder on what I'd wear, as that always depends on my mood. And the weather of course. It's usually jeans and some nice top.

-Where is almost always one of 2 restaurants within 14 kms of my home. I don't drive any further than that.

- What I'd say or do... just be myself, the rest depends on the dynamic between me and the man.

I don't busy myself with those details, just the vibe, the feel, the connection itself. And that I'd hope to be very similar to what I had with my ex. Not because of him but because that's the sort of click I need and am looking for.

Each time I have met a man in person from off a Relationship site, it has been a good experience. We talked long hours and knew each others expectations when meeting. It wasn't all about romance but friendship, and spending up front Personal tme together. See my towns sites, restaurants, entertainment. We were all to happy to spend it together. Great dates !!

I made a few love connections but not so much on my part. Most people online are not into serious Relationship with any kind of real commitment.
That is what I want.

Anyway I am actively seeking outside of online internet.

It is very surreal to meet someone you have connected
with online..in the flesh.

The first time I saw krupa, at the airport, I saw a guy
who had sweated so much in anticipation that all his
clothes were wet.

I was across a wide space, watching him, I had never
seen anyone so nervous. But he looked exactly as presented
online, except..all dressed up..and wet hahahahahahaha

When finally he saw me, he came to me and dropped to the
floor at my feet..to this day I am still not sure if he
kissed my feet or the ground (big boobs prevent the overlook.)

There is simply no preparing for the heart flutters because
no matter what we all say..we have expectations. We call
it hope.

Going to go with Adele here "..Sometimes it lasts in love but
sometimes it hurts instead.."

We got very lucky :-)

Sort of.
I learned very quickly to avoid the whole "you've been in touch with so long via the different communication possibilities..."

I don't sit and wallow in a false fantasy online, which is ultimately what drawn out online/phone/text/IM communication is.

After a couple of emails if it's not setting up a meeting/date or texting to set up a meeting/date it's just wasting time.

Other than that, when I'm talking to someone I do think about the logistics, kind of form a little "movie" in my head so as best to plan.


I do try to figure out where it might take place.
I think about the times involved. Lunch? Are we working? After work? Before? Weekend? Are they getting off work and on the way so are dressed a certain way? Do they have time to get ready? Are they meeting me after a long day at some event or family thing so are tired?
What kind of things have they shared? Did they mostly talk about work, how is that coming across? Is that their safe subject? Or are they looking to avoid it, they were just venting?

I don't go through a formula like the preceding, just certain triggers cause certain reactions that I am considerate of.

As to "how it might feel," since I don't wallow in a false sense of fantasy I don't create a sense of how I should feel or how it might feel to fulfill the fantasy, I do pay attention to how I do feel and how I'm emotionally responding to what's going on.

Thank you NotPay, Crystal, Toody, Soufie and Ciretom for sharing your stories and a point of view. They are so realistic, encouraging and positive - especially Souphie's - you're truly lucky that have found your man!
Now, before anyone would ask for OP's knowledge on here, I have to say that have no experience or whatsoever, if about dating .. online or real. My ex was the last one, and it happened over 20 years ago .. so you can only imagine ..
But I've always wondered how it might happen some day, if we both are ready to meet.
There are actually many different scenarios, how it might go .. What follows is just a fiction:
As my beloved one lives in another country, I'd arrive by plane. We've arranged that I won't take a cab, but she will come to pick me up from the airport.
I've bought some red tulips, and have something from my own honey production, cos I know she loves surprises, and despite the fact she wants to see me shaved will definitely wear a beard .. at least this time .. maybe the last time ever.
After being in arrivals for hours I'd try to call her, but suddenly her phone is off .. just complete silence, which keeps to continue.
After 24 hours of waiting, will take a flight back to home.
Actually she was there .. looking at me from the distance .. and realizing that it came too fast .. she's not ready yet to meet me in person, cos this might mean major changes in her personal life. So she gets confused .. and flees away .. leaving me waiting.
That's the worst case of scenario, but one of the most realistic, as I see it at the moment ..
But this does not have to go this way of course .. lol

The very first meeting ... i do remember it and how it felt. What was unexplainable was the calmness I felt and the feeling of safety. The awe and anticipation was there too. I was thinking finally i could say i love him If i felt it when i see him coz i never believed i could love someone without having to feel his physical presence at one point or another. I had strong feelings but i refuse to say it was love. That first meeting was very special, the feelings were all brand new. I hope that someday it could happen again and last . But wait i am off topic i think

Ok so for a scenario of another first on line finally meeting...hhhmm. He would fly to see me and arrive late at night or very early in the morning. I will not fetch him to give him time to relax and recover before we meet. The hour he arrives i will call him and ask how he feels about breakfast or lunch. We would meet at a bookstore nearest where he is and find out which section he would be. Then....

Wait , i would be wearing my usual jeans and blouse and he would be in jeans and a shirt. We would both say the color of our clothes to rid of any confusion (but im sure he will stand out in the sea of Filipinos lol) . I would be the first one to see him. Head bent on a specific book with a box of something on his other hand. I would sneak behind him and give him a hug hoping he doesn’t get too surprised and kick me lol. He would smell me first and know who j am

When he turns around, we would just stare into each others smiling eyes and say hello. A big bear hug follows and I wouldn’t be able to breathe lol. Then i will take him somewhere to eat near the same bookstore with him not letting my hand go as we talk about his flight and all that happened in between. What happens next after our meal... ill let him take the lead

I suppose, at this stage, I would just drop to the ground, because my legs would be like butter, melting in the sun. Kinda shy and nervous I would be

Fantastic! If something like this could ever happen to me, I'd be in heaven .. no fear of having a heart attack or whatsoever .. so lovely and natural. I'd love that!

I'm with cireT about not interested in long drawn out virtual dates.
Once I'm sure she is who and what she claims and she is sure of who and what I claim, its meet up time.

I've met with 7 women from dating sites.
Not one encounter made me nervous.
Didn't dress up or do anything not in my normal routine.
I did persist that each of the women decide on the time and the place.
I dressed for her planned activities.
I did show up about a half an hour before the scheduled time.
Basically, to get a feel for my environment.

I'm pretty sure of myself. My personal contentment doesn't hinge on anyone's approval. I am and will always be myself.

Of the 7 women, only one was a complete disaster.
Three resulted in one more encounter, one with sex and the other two not.
Two others resulted in a relationship, yes with sex.
One resulted in roommates, yes, with sex.

Of the 7 women I have met. Some were better liars than others but they all were deceptive. The one that lasted 15 months turned out to have a hidden substance abuse issue, in denial. That one was the worst because my X should have taught me how to spot the personality. I guess my wisdom was still underdeveloped at that time.

They call me charming, quirky, honest, gentle, caring, witty, funny, silly and easy to be with. Of the 7, I still consider 5 to be friends but not in a relationship sense.
A few told me they have never met anyone like me before. I am just myself, I respect others and I'm fair, clear and genuine.

If you are meeting someone, its best to be yourself and let the chips fall where they will. Relationships based on lies and acting, don't work too well.

Larsi .. seems you have a particular girl in mind .. perhaps you've already made some plans too .. so would be nice to hear from you, how would you see your very first meeting in person with your lucky girl. Means before your legs are starting to melt .. and after that .. lol

Thanks Tom, wise words as always .. had no idea that you have such an impressive experience on the dating field .. something to learn to .. lol

thanks Mr. B im just using my imagination based on the romantic movies and novels that ive read hoping that someday it can be real. And oh... the box that he’s holding on his other hand would be something uniquely from his own country, something that can hopefully last that i can always remember him by

Yes he should use his own super powers first before he melts

Larsi, it's so good to see, that I'm not the only one, who has such a vision. Though my fears can be a little bit different ..
Case 2: I will arrive to the airport. For some reason I'm always in my imaginations in the Ninoy Aquino International Airport. So, I'm at arrivals waiting for her with the tulips and everything .. nervous of course .. when suddenly someone from behind covers my eyes with her two little hands. I will turn around, clumsy as I am .. and here she is! .. right in front of me .. blue jeans .. sheer blouse - almost through visible .. and her deep sparkling eyes, smile which could melt all the north pole ice .. and those playful dimples in her cheeks, when saying hello .. her hair waving in the wind .. it's so hard to believe to all this beauty in real ..
I will drop to the ground .. having a proper heart attack.
The local authorities will put into my stomach about twenty pounds of cocaine and my dead body will be sent back to home with the next flight as fast as possible.
See .. a little bit more drastic possibility, but not impossible though.
Well, at least I died a happy man

for us it was a long time coming because of halfway around the world logistics. but after 4 texts of where are you at the airport. the first sight still a bit amazing after all the skype video time. and the hug was like two halves fitting together. never has it felt so natural or right