This I understand. Every woman wants a man that's responsible. Especially if he's young enough to be making babies. To read what you have written, you are OK with a simple life. And that's a good thing.

Over here in the USA, many men and women are not OK with that. They want, "stuff". They want the big boat. The big fine house, and any other "stuff" they can buy. They want to live large. And when something happens and they can't live large anymore, they find that they are not really happy with each other.

They divorce and each goes and finds another. There is much to be said for the simple life. If you can live a simple life with each other, you stand a pretty good chance of staying together. Because you are already used to things being a certain amount of tough.

But when you have the really good job. The big boat and the big fine home, be able to make trips to far off places, too many here in the USA, these things matter more. And if for whatever reason it's yanked out from under them, they fall apart. They can't take the "tough" part. Too many want to live too large. And it gets in there way. They are never truly happy.

It does matter a little where someone lives. I've been trying to simplify my life over the last few years and get rid of some things, not that I have a lot. I'm not wanting to rent, so I very recently bought a house. It's very small and tasteful. I'd date a guy who lives in a trailer or rents a home. If things worked out, more than likely, he'd move in with me or we'd buy a different house.

Understanding is key.....
Just understand people go through a lot in their life. Man or Women. Both say ridiculous **** and think we know what we want. When actually what we are saying is , Hey i been through this and that and feel sore to these common identifiers. Are you willing to be patient with me, i understand things are not always what they seem but i was hurt. Can we take it slow....
Fact people: we do not know what we want......we only know what we don't want by experience. But blasting it and cutting each other down is showing how unstable you are as seasoned adults...,have peace in your heart and remember your the one making the decisions, maybe you should be mad at yourself....im just saying

I agree scepticalsoulmate, love is beautiful. We can not expect love every time we date. We can not lay the law down and crack the whip....oh lord people. I was married 14 years to a women. Fantastic relationship and experience. The end hurt ,but that is ok. I choose to not talk to her, because it is a closed door. I think working on ourselves and building confidence in yourself is the secret to not demand from people. Simply put .....if you choose the same type person over and over......then im sorry to tell you...the problem lies in you and your anger at others is really meant for you....

I saw this posted on another forum last night. I think I've seen it posted here on Mingle. But I don't remember.

Anyway, What does it matter, at least within reason where a potential mate lives? As long as the person isn't in a homeless shelter or worse, living on the street. Why do people make such a big deal over it? I see this mostly in women. A lot of men don't seem to care. For men, it doesn't seem to be as big of a deal.

I participate in other forums. And I'm a profile reader. And in most of the profiles I read, I see close to the same things written in them. "Good man wanted." "Looking for a good man." and on and on. But when I read on down, I hit a roadblock. It doesn't apply to me. But it's a turnoff.

It usually says something like this, "I'm a very independent woman. I pay my own bills. Before you contact me, You must NOT live with a roommate or your parents.

I understand the "I pay my own bills" part of it. But what does it matter whether a person lives with a roommate or with there 80 something-year-old mom or dad? To me, it throws up a red flag when a person makes a big deal about where another person lives. To me, It comes off like you may be blowing smoke about how independent you are.

To me, it comes off like you may really be looking for someone that has a house that you can move into. In other words, You may be looking for a man/ or a woman for what they have. Not for who and what they are. Love ain't got nothing to do with it. It's really about material things. As I said, You're not really looking for a good man or woman. You're really looking for a good sucker.