Good morning my wonderful people of the cyber world. Welcome to my cyber mansion lets go sit by the pool and have a cup of my hot tea of topics. Shouts out to Peggy122, Ms. Harmony, Ciretom, TVCameraman, & many others who voice regularly in my rooms. Okay lets get right into it. When you are in the world of dating what is it you look for in a date. Is it looks? Is it compatibility? Or is it financial security? The reason why i ask is because i know some females that all about financial stability. America is it wrong to think big? Is it a taboo to say" I want love too but i dont want to struggle? I want the pie in the sky". Personally i choose love over money anytime but today its not about me its about you guys today. So lets talk about this. How do you feel about when people only want the money over love? Can't wait to hear from you all.

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EyeAmYourHost39

EyeAmYourHost39,

Aight here we go, see me and my girlfriend have a great understanding. I make a great living at my career, the money is shared because we love each other. I cant imagine putting money over her. See i come from the train of thought that all the money in the world cant produce peace and happiness within. Look at Michael Jackson. He had bukoo cash, he buy anything or anyone he wanted. But near his end of his life he was miserable. Lived in the neverland ranch all by himself. No wife, nothing but his money and by product of his success.

Well.. it always helps if she's filthy rich...lol..
I'm not going to say no to a convertible Corvette or sitting by the pool during the day drinking margaritas.. well my rich lady friend thinks of ways of spoiling me... because after all I am taking care of her needs....mmmmmhhmmm...lol

Money is always nice to have in order to live. But as far as dating someone just for their money naw not my thing...

The way I see it I work own my own house ect.... I may not make what many does but my bills are paid with food on the table and pretty much have everything I need..

But myself would never date for just the money... if there is no connection then the money will not help... At my age it is more about compatibility then money~~~~

For me, it depeended upon my stage of life,, my basic need is reciprocity, it means I want someone who can bring to the table AT LEAST as much as I can,, or it means I shouldnt expect of anyone more than I can offer

this is the reason that when I was young and had nothing but time to grow, I was not concerned with what some other person with the same type of time had,, we were at the same place to 'grow together'

but

this is also part of the reason I do not go out now is because I am at a place of struggle in my life and do not necessarily want to also deal with someone elses struggles nor expect someone to be struggling less


compatibility, for me, has to do with being at a similar place in life, so even though the 'financial security' in itself would never be a goal, it may be a significant factor in the compatibility I would have with another, particularly if I was already financially secure myself.

of course, falling in love knows no dollar signs,,,

For me, it is love and compatible. Being with a special woman is worth more than gold.. the special relationship is gold.
Money comes and goes. I have enough to keep the lights on and eat and keep all the bills paid. I really don't need more than that.
As for a woman who has a lot more than me, I am not sure how that would work. I have become to dependant on myself and it makes me feel uncomfortable if people are paying for things for me. So, I guess in a strange way, money could be a problem.
Just my thoughts. Have a great day.

I love hard.And so,i give weigh more on emotional security more than anything else.Inner peace and calmness is something money couldn't match.

As of sustaining my lifestyle,albeit am not rich(far from being one) but am sufficient enough not to depend to anyone.#justsayin'#

There's no better feeling than knowing someone loves you, the quiet moments together, the morning kiss on the cheek, the unexpected txt, that feeling of just being someone, to someone.

Money can never buy that magic, not the sincere magic anyway.
But I'd never want to be skint either.

Balance I think, or unbalanced, with the scales weighing more towards Brigadoon

If someone wants money over love, he best leave me alone, haha. I have very little to spend.

I would not date a man who's unemployed with no outlook of getting a job. Not because of the money, but because a masculine energy man will always do whatever he can to get by well and to get (back) on his feet --> Man's self-worth hinges on status, career, income and all that stuff. So in a way you can say that a man who hasn't got that nor makes any effort towards it, hasn't got a healthy sense of self-worth.
I know that there are exceptions, so no offense to anyone. But as a general rule of thumb this does go, and that's why for me a man having a job was a deal-breaker.
So not really to do with money for me.

Money itself, oh well.. you need it, a tad more of it would be great, yes. But would I enter a relationship for it? Never ever. As in NEVER.

Wow ok. I don't care about money unless I am expected to support someone. I can hold my own and pay my fair share

No1Phd,

Well i would love to be a distant friend visiting you and ms rich place......lol. Wel my friend im into love. With love comes natural providence. Here's the kicker, money is important in alot of cases but i would think our love can survive even living common or broke

TxsGal3333,

Hey mommy, well i agree with you. I think people perspective on money and relationships. Is if you want financial stability in a relationship oh you be labeled a gold digger. Let me ask you this okay do you think Kim Kardashian would be comfortable be in a common marriage? Can she be willing to walk away from the money, the fame, the reality shows,,& the mansions. See she wouldnt be able to adapt because once you used to a certain lifestyle you cant go back. My point is spoiling a person you wont be able to change lifestyles.once they taste of the good life.

TVCameraman,

I agree with you too. For example i been with my girlfriend for 2 years. In November we able to make a move & we want to live together. Now i make a great living at what i do off mingle. My girl is a stay at home mother of our children. We live in a mixed community. We have 2 cars 4 dogs 2 cats and i own my home. The money is good but not rich but i am working on it .....lol. Seriously i choose love over wanting a sugar mama. I mentioned this in my " cougar vs sugar daddy forum". I love my girl, and i know she loves me too. Love is our twist....and it works.

Yellow Rose,

Good woman, you very independent very millenium.

Ummm how?

Oh chit... did you just call her a millennial?

Hummm as far as the Kardashian's I don't even keep up with all their Drama... They have had money for a long time. Would she be able to adapt if she lost it all who knows they are all up in themselves. I'm sure she is one that would go for the money regardless...

For some it is a lifestyle and they could never see themselves on my level... But that is where some of us have a advantage... We have learned to live on a budget and can still survive...

But honestly if you have it why the hell would you walk away from it I would not...

But it just goes to show some will take the money regardless~~

Pfft I don't care lol. Been called worse

Calista29,


I also agree with you as well, I think love is beautiful money shouldn't be the only issue. having money and love at your own speed is a wonderful thing. I actually lost a buddy over money 2 years ago. now that I'm 40 I see life with a mature perspective.