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Edited by
no1phD
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Wed 04/05/17 10:14 AM
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Ok
. So you're in a new relationship maybe a month into it... And you're at your new partners house... and you notice a picture in a frame... tucked away somewhere.. it's visible Within Reach.. but it's turned over you can't see the picture.. so You ask your new partner.... if you can turn the picture over and see who's in it... they say to you it's up to you!.. it's just a picture of their ex partner.. Now !do you turn the picture over and look ?or you don't want to know at all what their ex-partner looked. like? |
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Unless she is a widow why does she still have a pic of her X anywhere but in old photo albums? Plus if it is turned around she has issues I'm not looking for.
If she has children and its their dad's picture, It wouldn't be turned around. No, I don't really care what they look like. What am I to say? Oh, hes handsome, why did you break up? or Oh hes ugly. Then I would wonder if I am too? I think its better to be in the moment with them than trying to dig up the past. |
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Turn over and look
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of course... male instincts... you want to see if you are better looking then him
And even if your not, you will find some flaw in his looks...just to convince yourself that your are better That's what we men do |
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Edited by
TxsGal3333
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Wed 04/05/17 12:44 PM
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Humm in the first place if it was tucked away then they had to be snooping. I don't snoop only way I could have found it was if they asked me to put something away and I saw it then yea I would turn it over and look.. No big deal we all have exes....
I have pictures of exes but they are not in frames instead put in with all the pictures that are in albums..... Now I have several of my ex due to he is the kids dad and I refuse to destroy pictures.. The reason is my first step mom destroyed all the pictures of my mom that had passed away due to I was always looking at them as a child..... Pictures are just memories of the past and should never cause a issue.. Now it would be different if I had pics of me and my ex or ex bf out for all to see then I could understand it might bother someone.. But to see a pic of someone I date of their ex if the pictures are tucked away then it should never be a issue.. And sure I have been curious of who they dated prior and what they looked like... It is a normal thing~~ |
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I would turn it over...then ask her for a Sharpie, so you can touch it up a little.
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I don't know a woman who would be able
to walk away from a peek :-) |
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If he still has a picture of his ex in a frame... I'm wondering what the heck he wants with me? Clearly means he's not over her yet. And if turned around, I'd take it he was trying to hide it from me. I think I'd get me coat and leave and not come back.
I put up with that sort of crap with my ex. Done with it. A man either wants me, is over his ex, or not. |
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Oh, and as for knowing what his ex looked like... No, rather not. What if she was a young, slender, incredibly model gorgeous woman? That's going to make me feel great. Not.
It ended, for whatever reason, he chose me. Good enough for me. |
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I don't know, actually. I have never had the experience.
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Edited by
yellowrose10
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Wed 04/05/17 02:10 PM
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I have never been curious about what the ex looked like. She is she and I am me
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I would be curious.
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Ok . So you're in a new relationship maybe a month into it... And you're at your new partners house... and you notice a picture in a frame... tucked away somewhere.. it's visible Within Reach.. but it's turned over you can't see the picture.. so You ask your new partner.... if you can turn the picture over and see who's in it... they say to you it's up to you!.. it's just a picture of their ex partner.. Now !do you turn the picture over and look ?or you don't want to know at all what their ex-partner looked. like? I'm already there. Why not? |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Wed 04/05/17 02:32 PM
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I think it might be difficult, curious by nature.
If someone has put the picture down I might think that was a positive sign that 1) they are moving on and it is ptobably headed for a more descteet spot ot picture album and at my age 2) this person is probably a parent and is trying to be respectful of their kid's feelings by not ditching it. The third possibility is she is hoping you are getting more interested and might suggest that by having a "selfie" of the two of you from one of your dates framed give her a clue of your intentions. |
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I don't know, actually. I have never had the experience. I've had a woman ask to see a pic of my X. I didn't go get it. All those pics are in the old photo albums packed away. They will go to my kids. What CrystalFairy says is how I feel. Why is it so hard for people to live in the moment and be with the one you are with? Curiosity can be a wonderful thing when making discoveries but sometimes its not worth it to pursue it. It doesn't matter who they were with, what matters is who they are with now. |
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I don't know, actually. I have never had the experience. I've had a woman ask to see a pic of my X. I didn't go get it. All those pics are in the old photo albums packed away. They will go to my kids.  This would freak me out. Some information you wait until it I'd offered and if none of my business.
What CrystalFairy says is how I feel. Why is it so hard for people to live in the moment and be with the one you are with?  wish there was a darthvadar l am all for living for now and even the future but "the Force" is with me and I think my past is part of who I am so new people "deal with it" just like your stuff I am going to deal with.
Curiosity can be a wonderful thing when making discoveries but sometimes its worth it to pursue it. It doesn't matter who they were with, what matters is who they are with now.  Yea, yea, yea and you just pretend the Ex doesn't exist and then you find out in the real world they are some stone crazy criminal type that lover phoo is trying to ignore. Or they have gotten royally ripped off, beaten for years, and has six kids that haven't gotten a penny.
People can keep up a persona for years but you don't take a look at their history you are bound to repeat it. 
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My luck I would turn it over and my X would be in the picture.
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do you turn the picture over and look ?
Probably. Depends on the picture. Like if it was a selfie with just their faces I wouldn't. Otherwise I'd be more interested in the background, the places she went, the experiences she had there, the expression on her face vs. his, the indirect communication they/she were presenting to the camera. I'd probably ask her which panties she was wearing underneath. I would just want to see the whole picture for the sake of seeing the whole picture. you don't want to know at all what their ex-partner looked. like?
I don't think I'd really care what he looked like. I really wouldn't know what to do with that information. For all I know he blows dogs. Looks can be deceiving. At most I might see if we had anything in common in looks or dress just for the sake of comparison, maybe see if it had any relevance to any information about her I had. Like if we had a conversation a week prior regarding types of guys she usually goes for. I wouldn't unfold the picture to get that information, it's just something I'd do with the information after I got it. But if there were no similarities or much relevance to anything it would just pass through. |
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Don't know it holds true for women but I have frequently seen men date marry and even remarry a type/look in women. Sometimes even the same name.
What seems odd to me is when men marry someone who looks very close to their Mother but that is command too. I don't know if it is some kind of early imprinting or just an attempt to get family acceptance. |
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If he still has a picture of his ex in a frame... I'm wondering what the heck he wants with me? Clearly means he's not over her yet. And if turned around, I'd take it he was trying to hide it from me. I think I'd get me coat and leave and not come back. I put up with that sort of crap with my ex. Done with it. A man either wants me, is over his ex, or not. Little Miss Muffet who sat on her tuffet..lol.. a lot of people keep pictures of their ex-husbands and wife in their house..lol.. the person might have turned it upside down just to spare your feelings from having to see their EX..ok... doesn't mean they're hiding something..omg.. and it certainly doesn't mean they're not over that person because after all they're dating you and you are standing in their bachelor pad that pretty much says they're over their EX |
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