you nailed it barbadogirl. If you want to date a smart person go where smart people go.
And when it comes to controlling .. Only you can decide if you will be controlled.. Some encourage that behavior without realizing it.
Games of control just get on my nerves so I don't play them.
Always tell the truth about everything. Not only is it empowering but the people you meet wont get any false ideas about you. At the same time, there is no need to be rude or blunt. Honesty isn't always best delivered with a hammer. :)
Basically set a standard , stick with it. You'll be amazed at how many people prefer a partner who has their own mind.

Wise words Keass,

While the hammer is often not needed at times the hammer is justified.

I suffer from a lack of tact. I have actually been told that.
What I have found is that preserving someone's feelings can actually get in the way. Its a case by case thing that I have a tendency to over-look.

I have met people in life that are so deluded and misguided that their entire thinking process is tainted. Those people tend to be constantly on the defense because their decisions are often based on wrong thinking. For them, any honesty appears to be a hammer.

There are also people that are compulsive liars. They lie so often their lies become truth in their minds. When the truth is shown to them, they feel the honesty hammer repeatedly. No matter how you try to soften the blow, it hits with the force of dynamite to them.

You have only two real choices when dealing with people like that.
> You can be honest and hope that they can see it.
> You can tolerate and allow them to be deluded.

We all have feelings. We all have different triggers(buttons) for those feelings. Some people have a big button and some have small ones. Try to remember that we place our buttons and allow them to be pushed. Nobody can actually MAKE you feel anything. Its all by your own allowance.

Hmmm, I was going to stay clear of this thread but now I'm curious

So No1, what would you call a man who complains because his eggs aren't done right, or the coffee is cold, or the toast is a little burnt?

That's okay honey, I'll stay in the kitchen...but could you fetch me some water so I can boil the eggs

..lol.. I would call that a man that knows how he likes his breakfast..
And his woman should know better..lol..

But in all reality some would say the men should be more appreciative of the woman's effort..yes.. be grateful that she's even cooking for him..

Now if you're one of these women guess what your and emasculating woman..yup..

Because I would never serve my partner cold coffee cold eggs and burnt toast.. I put a hundred and ten percent into everything I do..
I don't expect 210% back but 85% would be nice

Well, I was exaggerating And actually, I'm the one that keeps refilling the coffee to keep it hot

Well No1.. I guess u picked the wrong one perhaps..
There are a lot of gals out there that are not emasculating, as you put it...
Having said that ..many girls do like to be in control; be right and bossy; get their own way, etc..
It takes a while for the true personalities to be found in someone we meet...so don't have them move in with you too soon!

Don't be putting up with none of that emasculating thing... no sir


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyXhsTTD0Tk

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I don't mind sharing the duties ..That's like Part of contract ??
I LOVE my shed & toys as much as I LOVE the Kitchen also.

As long as it will stay FAIR and CONTINUE that way ALWAYS.
EXCEPT if I/SHE gets sick or God forbid what .

Aww

Wear em, if you got em.

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LOL " panchovanilla "


Like I said on another thread some-were I think,
NO ONE WEARS IT IN MY KINGDOM ( Da Pants that's ),
if that is what you meant

But I always keep my boots on JUST IN CASE

Some men are attracted to that type woman.. for whatever reason.

I'm not.

But for the ones who are, they must like it. But if that's the case, then don't complain about it.

Yes, I agree with what you said. Partnerships are about sharing, and not just the fun things in life, the not so fun duties as well.

I tend to be a little more traditional as far as the stereotypical roles of women/men...it's in my nature to be that way. But if it's expected just because I am a woman, that's when it becomes a problem

Yes, I agree with what you said. Partnerships are about sharing, and not just the fun things in life, the not so fun duties as well.

I tend to be a little more traditional as far as the stereotypical roles of women/men...it's in my nature to be that way. But if it's expected just because I am a woman, that's when it becomes a problem



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You are what/who you are, even if one changes
the presentation, it can be seen from inside

That's why I BELIEVE in be always yourself
before one start kissing the frogs ??

If doesn't work, be assured, the frog will
jump out of the game/race before you.
I THINK ??